Are you a natural "joiner"?

She hasn't! Leave 'orf!

that was to Lona

(that's to Lona as well)

Lona..I could have written your post too..(again it seems we think alike you aren't my long lost win by any chance !!)

And Jinglebellsfrocks you did sort of admit it as you said you find most people quite boring....which although is your opinion .. I find a little harsh and quite hurtful to people who can be easily intimidated and feel maybe they have not got a lot to offer.

Lona...I meant twin !!!!!

gracesgran I find it interesting that you mention marketing. I lost a job because I flatly refused to go out selling when the business was suffering, I knew I just couldn't do it. I too am confident but reserved. I like my own company, I am not bored. I have friends who are constantly going out, as if they are scared to be on their own. It's taken a while for friends here to realise I don't want to be out socialising all the time, they don't try to push. I don't find going out an effort at the time, not at all, it's taken years to realise why I am so shattered the following day. I just find social interaction with people I don't know well exhausting, and it takes me a long time to relax in their company. Not that they would ever know it.

And yes - some people are hard work. You ask a question, hoping to find common ground and all you get is Yes or No in reply. Maybe because they are desperately shy, but you need more, you can't just stand there asking, do you have any children, where do you live, how do you know the hostess/host, or what year is your child in, without any feedback at all, because then you start to sound like a hairdresser as you ask where they are going on holiday.

Oh FFS.

Poor sensitive little souls on here then?

And let Lona talk for herself. She seemed quite cheerful about it.

Yes, jinglebellsfrocks, there are some "poor sensitive little souls on here"...and I wasn't talking for Lona....I was expressing myself.

I have read many of your posts on various threads on Gransnet and some of them are pretty waspish...maybe lots of people know you well on here but I am fairly new...and one of those poor sensitive little souls.

Lots of people have written on here that socialising and expressing oneself can be quite hard. Your comment that you "actually find most people quite boring" ..which I appreciate is your opinion.... but I found that remark a little harsh and as I understood it, a tad superior.

Not superior at all. I am, most likely, pretty boring myself. And, yes, it was an opinion, and I believe we are allowed to express opinions on GN.

I did not direct my comment at you personally. I cannot imagine why you seem to think I did. I have no idea who you are, or how boring or otherwise you might be.

Because I was bored waiting for the gutters to stop overflowing I remembered DD telling me why I would never get on with SIL because I was WXYZ or something from the Myers Briggs test. So I had a go. It's quite surprising if you haven't done it.

www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

Just done it Stansgran and the one good thing is I am very rare ... or is it? I am "The Advocate” (INFJ-T)"

Go on jingle bells have a go. I bet you come out with a startling result

I did. I'm a defender. [shrug] [wtf]

Not up to defending anything at the mo.

I'm The Mediator...

jings I am quite cheerful about it

Good.

#miserableoldbuggerme

Are you sure you two wouldn't like me to do some Mediating?

Just done it and I'm a Logistician!

I can't even say that!

Blimey!! I'm scary!

Do you all like what you are? Would you be happy with someone thinking of you as that person?