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Are you a natural "joiner"?

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Soutra Sat 06-Jun-15 16:24:11

I do find myself envying people who seem to find a congenial group wherever they go, who launch themselves wholeheartedly into their local church/WI/book club or whatever. I am extrovert on the surface, but very reserved deep down, a reserve some people take as stand-offishness.
My mother being German in a small town in Scotland not long after the war never found it easy to fit in, while my father was universally popular but held back from many social occasions maybe because he sensed animosity to Mum and just wasn't prepared to bother with people like that.
Perhaps we should never have moved to a village but stayed in the city where these things matter less as I can say I have honestly tried and still find it a struggle. I was involved with charities in London, but never felt brave enough to try to get involved here; of course I joined the PTA, but again always felt a newbie, got involved at our church ( until it went all happy clappy and I couldn't quite get on with that!), I am Treasurer of our local women's group and belong to a book club, but I often feel I have to force myself to make the effort to join in the chitchat and find it hard to be 100% involved. If I am honest I feel like an observer or an outsider, even finding it hard to join in some of the jolly banter at our GN virtual parties!!
Should I just give over thinking about it? Just take the plunge? Or is it silly to try to be something I am not?

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jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Jun-15 16:56:06

Well - perhaps if I knew what it was supposed to mean. "A Defender". Defending what? ( I couldn't understand the breakdown part, with the percentages)

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numberplease Mon 08-Jun-15 16:57:18

Well, I`m (supposedly) The Mediator, whatever it means.

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Lona Mon 08-Jun-15 16:57:46

I haven't read it all but it's mostly trueish so far. I can recognise a lot of traits.

Yes, I quite like it.

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 16:58:06

The Mediator sounds wonderful!

Unfortunately, I don't recognise much of myself in the description although I answered the questions as honestly as I could (brutally, in some cases!).

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jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Jun-15 16:58:23

I've got a sword.

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Lona Mon 08-Jun-15 16:59:11

jings you do tend to come on in someone's defence quite often.

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 16:59:43

Mediators are supposed to make up only 4% of the population - what a coincidence that there are at least two of us on GN already...grin

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Bellanonna Mon 08-Jun-15 17:12:19

I came out as mediator too!

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jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Jun-15 17:23:30

I did have to guess what 'pragmatic' means. Never have got my head round that word.

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pompa Mon 08-Jun-15 17:23:30

CONSUL (ESFJ-T) ???

I tried a different test and I was ISFJ ???

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pompa Mon 08-Jun-15 17:25:44

JBF -snap, I had to look up Pragmatic.

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jinglbellsfrocks Mon 08-Jun-15 17:26:58

grin. (great minds in every sense of the word)

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Sheena Mon 08-Jun-15 17:27:03

Me too pompa !! ... I remember a Consul was an old car (Ford I think !! grin

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pompa Mon 08-Jun-15 17:33:08

Consul car sums up my personality, old, rusty and well past it. smile

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Gracesgran Mon 08-Jun-15 17:56:51

Oh pompasmile

I was quite happy with mine. Only 1% of the population but that explains a lot hmm. I can recognise my weaknesses - oh dear - and hope the strengths are true. I can also see that everyone would want to be me grin

How come you got a sword jinglbellsfrocks? I didn't get anything physical summing me up.

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 18:02:25

If Advocates make up only 1% of the population and Mediators 4% (althought they're two a penny on here! grin) what are the most common personality types? Or are they all supposed to be rare...?

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Elegran Mon 08-Jun-15 18:15:21

Apparently I am a virtuoso. hmm

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 18:26:14

"...it's a shame they're so uncommon, making up only about five percent of the population. ISTP women are especially rare..."

Oh, Elegran you are especially rare - as of course we all knew anyway! smile

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janerowena Mon 08-Jun-15 18:31:57

I came out as a mediator, too. I wonder if it comes with age and wisdom and experience? grin

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 18:34:25

13% of the population are Defenders.

All it says about Consuls is that they are quite common...grin

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annodomini Mon 08-Jun-15 18:42:58

Consul! Role is Sentinel. Whatever that may mean. Where is my pinch of salt?

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pompa Mon 08-Jun-15 18:52:51

Well there you go, I am common hmm

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Ana Mon 08-Jun-15 18:54:30

But you're in good company, pompa! grin

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whitewave Mon 08-Jun-15 19:18:49

I am a CAMPAIGNER (ENFP what ever that means?) anyone else one of those. I do recognise the description of my type though.

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downtoearth Mon 08-Jun-15 19:22:40

Am an adventurer an explorer..

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