E.F.T

Anniebach - so glad to read that you now have a friendly neighbour! Just the first steps to you getting out and about again. My Mum was very ill after my brother was born, for five years she was completely housebound, only able to go out into the back garden without having a panic attack. She gradually got better when a new neighbour moved in across the road and started calling over every day for a cuppa and a chat. She coaxed Mum to step out from the vestibule door into the vestibule, then on to the front door step, then down the steps, then a few steps into the front garden. It was all done very gradually but within 12 months Mum was meeting her at the front gate (we had a very large front garden) and her panic attacks were fewer and much shorter in duration when she did have them. The following year she was feeling well enough for us to go on holiday - something we hadn't been able to do since our little brother had been born!

You sound ready for this. Start with a positive attitude (this sound perfect for me, just what I've been searching for). If the alternative treatments one reads about are supposedly all in the mind, make sure your mind's ready to receive them. Come on- you can do it

Sorry, haven't read all the posts. No idea Annie but it has to be worth a try. Give it a go and let us all know how you get on. Great that it is someone close by.

I think anything is worth a try Annie. I've also suffered with agoraphobia for many years, not tried EFT but have heard of it. Please don't think you have brought this on yourself though. Agoraphobia is very insidious and many people don't realise that when they avoid going out they may end up fearing going out. I do hope it works for you

Go Annie!! So glad you have your 'wheels' and feel able to try the new therapy too. Prayers, blessings and hugs that it will one day soon get you to a place of emotional peace - much love

Annie you have nothing to loosen by trying E.F.T. If it works for you, so much to gain. Please give it a try and let us know how you get on.

Good luck with your scooter excursion ???

Sorry another one late to this post. Yes its got to be worth a go, so all the very best. I hope you have fun with your scooter

Some real positives here Annie. Great.

I hope EFT works for you. It is good to have something positive to concentrate on.
I was lucky to have my DGS after my daughter died. He gave me a reason to get up in the morning and go out into the world. The Police station where I gave a statement about my D's death is on the way to his primary school so I had to drive past it 4 times a day for 5 years. I remembered it all each time I went past. In the early days I used to go home and cry my eyes out but it did get easier. I still remember but it doesn't hurt so much.
I know it's not as traumatic as seeing your bridge but if you take "baby steps" don't worry about setbacks along the way I'm sure you'll get there one day.
Good luck

what bridge do you mean?

Just got back from another visit to Gods Own Country, this time a lovely ride into Cardiff. Annie I went along the Taff Trail when I left MT which was your village,

Annie when you are ready maybe we could ride to your old village.

Thank you all, how kind you all are, understanding and encouragement , i am so blessed that you are here x

Barmy, The Taff Trail , my village, bliss, I look at my village on google earth.

Mercedes, I am so sorry, it has only been nine months for me, have you made a recovery or partial recover? I do hope so. I will post about the EFT treatment, it may help others.

Camelot, I live in the edge of the town, there is a bridge to cross to get into town, last year my darling daughter went on the bridge and ended her life by jumping from the bridge into the river, I don’t want to see it, to see where she stood in the last seconds of her life, but I now know I have to try to cross it, I am not ready yet though, I may never be, or I may, i don’t know.

kathsue, hurts doesn’t it x

Another nice happening today, my next door but one neighbour, he said hello to me when I moved in a year last January , phoned me and said my son in law who isn’t told him I was having a scooter, the neighbour told me he had one , hence the talk I am having a scooter, son in law who isn’t asked about parking. Anyway my neighbour explained what he kept his in and if I chose to have the same he would come around and get the scooter out and put it back in, wasn’t that kind. So I have now spoken to two neighbours in the Cul de Sac. ?

Camelotclub Read the whole conversation, but paricularly Anniebach's post on Sun 05-Aug-at 18 09:14:00. Then don't ask Annie to explain yet again

Annie
Did someone advise you with visualisation?
It has to be the same thing every night until you go to sleep ( it can take months)
But what is happening is: the brain gets into the habit of 'seeing' these images and thinks, ah this is where I go to sleep.
If you keep changing the image the brain doesn't form the habit.

Petra, do you mean think of the same place every night or visualise part of my recovery programme? I can’t ‘do’ places I have visited and loved when an adult.

Wishing you well, Annie, and hope it works for you.
I've never heard of EFT but I do know that hypnosis can help with a variety of problems.

I know some psychotherapists who also trained in Tapping therapies and report positive results. One of them is a very sceptical type but was very persuaded by its usefulness.
Hope it helps, it's not likely to do harm is it plus, you've made contact with two neighbours - result. Best of luck Annie

EFT has worked for my friend.
Long story cut short, she has RP (tunnel vision) and had her driving licence revoked. 18 months ago. because of her eyes deteriorating.
She drove a car, rode a motorcycle/rode a scooter/pulled her caravan etc etc

She couldn't travel on a bus/trian/passenger in a car because of travel sickness.
So she went and had EFT practiced it on very short bus journeys.

Now! she can travel anywhere on bus/train/boat/plane or passenger in a car.
After 12 months of trying to sort it we finaly got to take out pedal cycles on the train to Lytham St Annes and ride(pedal) all way down to the North Pier in Blackpool.

I'm so glad you're making friends with your neighbours. They can be a great source of support. I've learnt to never be too proud to ask for help.

Thank you Fennel, Iam, biker x x x

thank you kathsue x I was never too proud, just too fearful

So pleased to hear you’ve now got people you know in your cul-de-sac to chat to. Have you taken the tea out to your gardeners yet?

When I can’t sleep, I design houses. I imagine a client (young couple with kids/elderly Singleton) and design a house for them. I rarely get as far as completing it.

Good luck with the EFT. I had to look it up! Sounds as if it could well work and you’ll soon be buzzing around on your new scooter,

Anniebach
I have to walk up my stair to the landing where I found my son hanging, May last year.
My resolve was that it is my home, much as I would give anything I cannot bring him back. He had been suffering and this was his choice.
I am still living and strangely fighting to stay alive despite being diagnosed with Breast Cancer in March.
Your state of mind is yours to direct either grieve miserably or live but with the pain controlled.
My attitude was that I cannot change anything so why beat myself up. I still have my sad moments. The only time I did recently have a major meltdown was when a tv Drama showed a hanging man. I quickly turned the tv off and melted.

Nfk, making tea for the gardeners, putting milk bottles out in daylight, watering my pots on the patio haven’t dodged them once, I don’t have a problem with them now, stay out the back , near the door, and chat to the gardeners for about 10. Minutes ?

Joelsnan, I am so deeply sorry, will you accept a welsh hug, a cwtch please x