What would you change about your husband or partner if you could "turn back time"?

His total inability to put anything away! He is the most untidy person I know. But I'd rather have him around than not. He can fix anything. Really! After 44 years of marriage I'd be lost without him.

Darling ex DH could and can talk continuously for over 2 hours,usually on a range of favourite ranty subjects. I put him on speaker phone when we speak these days, and get on with other things. I am aware if I am listening, my son and DiL or step son and wife are getting a free evening.

I would not have allowed my husband's family to divorce me for non-procreation; would never have become even slightly involved with #2, the fat pig wife-beater; would have realised that I could not change #3 into a decent human being; would have killed youngest daughter to prevent her breaking up the marriage.

Regrets? I've had a few, about #s 1 & 4, nut it was out of my hands. Now I'm sticking to my cats!

Sadly, just would have enjoyed the early times together (he widowed, me divorced) but NEVER would have moved in with him - which I did 20 years ago. His daughters have been horrible to me yet endlessly demand and expect much of me - and my children (whose father remarried twice) have lost a 'home base'. Now I am too old to leave the 'bed I have made for myself' and find myself yearning for independence but could never leave him (he would crumble and the world would blame me) but I find him and his family and friends demanding and my family and friends excluded from my life.
Oh, the silly things we do for 'love', even in our 40's.
67 and wishing I were free.......................

That we can sleep together. He snores so loud, even if I have ear plugs in, it's horrible even the two dogs sleep with me !! Never did this when we first met 10 years ago, perhaps he stayed awake all night, until I fell for his charms. omg I can hear him now and I'm in next room.

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not sur what you are talking about Pricilla

I would change nothing about DH but an awful lot about me! He is wonderful.

His anxiety - it has ruled our lives.

Pricilla is an ad for an African juju person I think!

Wouldn't change a thing except a bit more chatty in company but he's still the sexiest man in the room

Nothing really ( his annoying habits have grown with age, so turning back time wouldn't help.much.) I can put up.with his foibles as.I am.sure I can be irritating and we still love each other.

I would banish his dyslexia and have him able to read fluently. Whenever he reads me anything out loud he stumbles over any word longer than five letters, and unfamiliar words are either missed out or misread. Sometimes it's like trying to translate a foreign language. I love him though, and don't take over, I let him try. Often I end up reading it myself, later.

I would give him the ability to shut doors. Back door, patio door, kitchen cupboards, larder, bathroom, wardrobes. You can track his progress around the house. The going down the garden leaving the back door open is annoying, but the worst is leaving the kitchen cupboard doors open. A few cracks on the head there .

BBbevan I would be so tempted to go round the house and open every single door, and then sit down and feign ignorance and see what happens!

Turning off lights and hanging up his Goretex( the Velcro keeps snagging me)

Lona I have just told DH what you said. He was not amused

SunnySusie Mine does that! Hangs about in the corner of the kichen "grazing" instead of putting out the food he wants first.
His Aspergers. it has really spoilt our relationship. Rather like living with a robot.

I wouldn't change much about mine, but I do wish he'd find some clubs to join here to get him out more. He moved over from Denmark when he retired and then we moved to the coast but he won't go and join in anywhere. It's not a language problem as his English is perfect.

I wish he hadn’t joined the army.
Seriously injured in a bombing late 70s.

I always said I could not live with, let alone marry, anyone who was untidy or smoked. Well, DH doesn't smoke.

I wish i could change his body ! no, not like that, he is gorgeous but he is in so much pain every day although if you met him you would never know, he was a scaffolder and every joint on his right side (including his hip replacement) aches and most of his left side but his smile still lights up the room