syberia, I do so know how you're feeling (and my original post a week or so ago, of not being able to stop worrying about family showed that neither of us is alone with this!) If only our 'children' were as sensible as we are (now)! My own son works hard when he can, but doesn't address issues like bills when they come in...and I worry constantly about that, fearing that he'll lose his tenancy on his flat, etc. Like you, there are reasons that it wouldn't be possible for him to live here at home should that happen. When we wake during the night, the worries kick in immediately, don't they. Even picking up a book doesn't always work for me, because I lie and stare at the pages without taking in anything! However, there are worse things, aren't there? They're healthy and perhaps we don't always credit them with their own common sense! 