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Husbands and laundry...beware -trivia.

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Atqui Fri 14-Aug-15 20:42:39

Am I really being unreasonable? Am I obsessive? I sorted a load of pale washing and asked H to put it in the machine on 40 degrees. When it was finished it had two garments with black and grey stripes which have not been washed before.I was puzzled and a little irritated! Result...."I can't ever do anything right "etc etc major tantrum from H.Does everyone else just chuck in all colours together?

tanith Fri 14-Aug-15 20:53:38

So did he add the two 'coloured' garments after you had sorted it out? My OH has no clue what goes with what when it comes to laundry I always sort out my whites and coloureds so no you are not being unreasonable but you have to make allowances, after all he is a man grin

soontobe Fri 14-Aug-15 20:53:41

Nothing wrong with trivia.

I am a bit lax on the whole. Most often I get away with it.

Atqui Fri 14-Aug-15 20:58:30

Yes he added the black stuff after Insorted it!!

Liz46 Fri 14-Aug-15 21:02:05

No, OH is not allowed to use the washing machine. He is brilliant at ironing though, maybe because he was in the forces.

J52 Fri 14-Aug-15 21:05:02

DH has always put washing in. It's only taken him 40 years to get the hang of sorting colours and white washing.

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ninathenana Fri 14-Aug-15 21:22:14

I get so annoyed when DH and DS leave tissues in their pockets.
I've never asked DH to sort laundry loads. He can turn the machine on, empty it and hang the laundry out to dry.
I've spent 40 yrs trying to teach him the right my way to hang it though.

Charleygirl Fri 14-Aug-15 21:35:45

I always sort out the whites from coloureds but i notice that my neighbours do not appear to bother. Admittedly one is a man but very house trained- cooks, cleans, does DIY, can turn his hand to anything. If he has a downside, it takes months to think about doing something.He is not married, lives with his sister.

Luckygirl Fri 14-Aug-15 21:38:44

OH has done the washing for about 20 years, when he semi-retired and I went out to work full time. He definitely knows what he is doing and I am banned from the washing machine. Suits me just fine!

Atqui Fri 14-Aug-15 21:43:30

Lucky Luckygirl!!

Atqui Fri 14-Aug-15 21:45:00

Have to say I'm guilty of doing a tissue wash sometimes.

Indinana Fri 14-Aug-15 21:48:16

We do our own washing. Makes sense given that we have separate rooms and therefore a linen basket in each room! It means i can take care of my whites/lights and if DH wants to chuck all his together in one washload, well that's up to him grin. Most of his things are on the darker side anyway - he doesn't seem to have any whites (or maybe they're just no longer white grin)

Notso Fri 14-Aug-15 21:52:52

Atqui re the major tantrum and 'I can't do anything right' comments.

Please be reassured that inside his head he will have been jumping up and down with joy at 'Mission Accomplished' status. grin

thatbags Fri 14-Aug-15 22:13:51

notso, grin

vampirequeen Sat 15-Aug-15 07:17:13

I was taught to seperate as even if the colours don't obviously run they do a little and gradually your whites go grey.

Like a previous poster's, my DH is a brilliant ironer due to the army but he takes soooooo long to do each item because it has to be perfect.

Indinana Sat 15-Aug-15 07:35:03

My son is a great ironer too - not because he was in the services, but simply because I told both my DC in their late teens that i wouldn't be doing their laundry henceforth. It had suddenly dawned on me one day that we were all adults, all working full time, and yet all the household chores were still falling to me. The DC were great, completely understood my POV and both took over all their washing and ironing from that point. When various girlfriends adoringly offered to iron for DS, he always ended up re-doing it, as he became quite a perfectionist grin

Grannyeggs Sat 15-Aug-15 07:48:29

DH does the laundry, I never asked him to but just sit back and enjoy! There was an incident of The Shrunken Sweater, questions were asked, but I forgave him in the end !

hildajenniJ Sat 15-Aug-15 08:01:46

I used t be fastidious about sorting the laundry, but realised that most of the time it wasn't necessary. If DH ever does it, he just bungs everything in together. I'm now used to looking a bit fluffy.grin

Grannyknot Sat 15-Aug-15 08:53:06

Indi good for you (handing over household chores to other adults in the home).

I have a friend who never liked cooking. She has 5 children and was a stay-at-home mum. Once they were all grown up, some still living at home, she announced her "retirement". People would ask "But you don't work" shock - "what are you retiring from?" And she would respond with a list of household tasks, with cooking for the family first on the list. She stuck to her decision too.

Indinana Sat 15-Aug-15 09:18:01

Oh that's a great story, Grannyknot! "But you don't work" grin. Reminds me of a story a teacher friend of mind told me many years ago. She taught the reception year and was talking to them one day about what they wanted to do when they grew up - this was in the days, you understand, when it was more the norm for women to stay at home and raise their families. So when she said, in the course of the conversation, that she wasn't a housewife, that she went to work, one of the little ones asked "what work do you do, Miss?" grin

Stansgran Sat 15-Aug-15 09:58:35

Ah yes the tissue wash[blush ] I've also done the phone in the pocket wash. That was very very expensive ( in time and tears)

Stansgran Sat 15-Aug-15 09:59:14

blush

WilmaKnickersfit Sat 15-Aug-15 10:15:43

My DH is well trained now (had to start from scratch though!), but he always asks me to check any white loads and if any whites can go in with colours. Watching him iron is torture, talk about slow. He only irons a shirt occasionally, but now I don't watch and let him get on with it. Does a good job in the end!

WilmaKnickersfit Sat 15-Aug-15 10:16:48

PS Any tissue washes are down to me blush

KatyK Sat 15-Aug-15 10:21:48

My DH has never put washing in in almost 46 years of marriage! He does lots of other stuff so I can't complain (really).