New grandchild & feeling guilty

Stay, stay, they are probably big enough and ugly enough to look after themselves fo a bit. It will be a precious time getting to know the baby and helping out. Could your husband not retrieve the car?

Stay! It’s only another 4 days.

Yes you are privileged to have been asked. Usually, the paternal grandparents take second place. Are your d.i.l.’s parents not around ?
I think your husband is rather selfish - surely he and your daughter can cope without you. As for your parents, they can look after each other for the moment.
That’s my opinion .

Am I being unrealistic to stay?
No.

Is your husband working and does he need the car?
How old is your daughter at home? Is she still a young child? Even so, she must be at school during the day so surely they can manage just for a few days.

Enjoy the toddler and new baby while you can, it may be a while before you see them again.

Definitely stay and help. Those first days are precious, and any help you can give will be deeply appreciated.

Has your husband always been this clingy and needy? He’s a grown man. Presumably he can survive on his own a few days while you help family.

Guilt-trips are a form of controlling behaviour. Don’t feel guilty about being such a thoughtful mother, mother in law, and granny. It’s temporary and a very normal thing to help when new babies come. You live far, so it’s more than reasonable to spend as much time there as you and son’s family are comfortable with. Congrats! Enjoy your new grandchild.

Hubby us a big boy now .... enjoy lively new baby!

Absolutely not!

You’re being a great Grandmother and mother and you’re DH chose to leave.

Congrats on the little one

Definitely stay and make the most of it!

Your DH can get the train back if he misses you that much 😁

Oh yes and congratulations! 🥳

Stay

Its only a few more days. Id stay.
What age is your daughter at home.

Your DH can survive a few more days, as will your daughter and parents. Congrats on your new GD, enjoy your time with her, you live 250 miles away so frequent visits will not be possible, this will be ‘your’ time time with her that you can look back on when you are distance away. Tbh your DH doesn’t sound very supportive.

It looks like every one so far is in agreement. You're clearly held in high regard by you DS and DIL to be asked to help out and they'll never forget your valued help. Stay and enjoy the little one for the few days you have left because you don't know how long it will be before you get to see him again. Honestly - why can't some men cope on their own for a while?!

Stay and enjoy your time with the DGC.
I am a paternal GM and did the same for my DS and DIL but DH stayed with me because he loved his GDs and wanted to be just as supportive.
A DH that walks away at a critical time is lacking in care.

Stay, your help will be appreciated, and congratulations,you must be over the moon.

What blessedart said

I support the train idea from grannybags too

Tell your husband to act his age and not his shoe size.

Stay and enjoy precious time with your DS and his young family.
My Mum was a godsend when my children were being born and it strengthened our bond.
You don't say why your husband wanted to go home but to me he sounds like a lot of men of a certain age who think the world revolves around them and act like small children when it doesn't.
Being me, I would add another week on my stay and let him get on with it.

Stay; your husband is being childish and rather selfish.

A small inconvenience for DH in the great scheme of things…….stay and offer as much help as they need. As a pp has stated, DH is being childish, selfish and acting like a spoiled brat not invited to a party.

Congratulations on your new GD 🎉

I would stay and help, your DH is old enough to look after himself.

Congratulations on your new granddaughter. 🥳
Stay and enjoy the privilege of being asked to help at this very important time. 💐

I'd stay .
But please don't wear yourself out trying to please the family.
That's what happened to me.