Silly First World Problem ( bothering me)

This is why I have long hair ...........

Hate hairdressers.

Not at all! I am like you. If the vibe is not right, I don't go again. I went to a beauty salon where they had a dirty old mop and bucket, the old metal bucket with cotton mop in the corner of the waiting area. It looked quite grubby. Never went again. The one I go to now is spotless and the girls are really helpful. I once went to a hairdresser who had moved to my area and said how beautiful his cut was. He was very talented. His reply: Well, it should be, I have been styling for 20 years. Didn't go there again! It is a very superficial kind of vibe but the client must leave feeling good and not bad. Hard in reality, I know.

Change salon. You might need to try out a few before you find one that suits you. Just don't make another appointment at your original one.

It is about 2 minutes from where I live.

Money is tight so how silly to spend it being miserable! Overthinking.

Funnily enough we have a beauty place nearby, it's clean but a bit down at heel. There is a realy nice, young person who works there. always feel better afterwards.

You like your hairdresser, she does a good job and it’s only two minutes from where you live?
Lucky you.

Luckygirl13

I can't abide hairdressers either.

Not after I was treated like filth by some very young, empty-headed, brain-dead bimbo that was so busy very loudly gossipping to her workmates about her latest squeeze and the night club, etc., that she wasn't concentrating on doing my hair and cut my left ear with the scissors and jabbed the pointy part of the scissors in the top of my head.

That was over 30 years ago, and I've never been to any other since! I know most are not like that numpty, but I was well put off!

My hair is down to my bum, unstyled, so I just trim it myself once every couple of months!

SpinDriftCoastal -maybe I'm missing something but I don't understand why you didn't like the guy who told you he'd been hairdresser for 20 years (so ought to be good)...

Maybe there was something else about him?

I never went back to my hairdresser after covid. To be fair, my hair is so thin now that I don't think a hairdresser could do much with it. I wash it and let it air dry.

The silly first-world problem bothering me is at the end of the shampoo/conditioner/shower gel bottles.

I always stand my bottles on their tops, not bottoms, as I find they get stuck 1/2 way in between if I stand them on their bottoms, so then when it's time for just a couple of squeezes left, it won't come out, no matter how much I squeeze and squidge the bottle! HA!

My hairdresser is brilliant. She gives me the best cut I’ve ever had in my life. But…… she doesn’t seem able to manage her time. I’m never late for my appointment but always have to sit and wait until she finishes some complicated procedure that takes ages. I don't mind waiting half an hour, but recently it has been over an hour and - last time - two hours as she put in a whole head full of foils. This was a last minute appointment which she should really have refused, but she makes more money out of that sort of work than she does out of a simple wash and cut. I would look for somewhere else, but the salon is local and she is very good - eventually!

It’s not silly at all.

I’ve just “lost” my lovely dear hairdresser, she’s moved over a 100 miles away to live with her boyfriend! I’ve not been to the hairdressers since, she both cut and coloured my hair and it looks bloody dreadful now, after only 3 months!

You could ask the nice hairdresser privately if she does home visits sixandahalf, as it is so nearby.

I have a lovely hairdresser as was then before. It's in the gym, so just a one woman job, you couldn't get nicer. We share our lives - it's been so long now.

Have a think - is it the vibe in the salon, or some kind of emotional feeling around the process that might occur around hair cutting? I'm inclined to think the salon, because you are fine and comfy with the facials.

Previously, I hated it. "and how was your Christmas" "have you booked a holiday this year"

they would make small talk and lie about how absolutely wonderful you looked blah blah.

It may only be 2 mins away but... how about asking the friendly comfy facials people for an alternative recommendation?

NotSpaghetti

SpinDriftCoastal -maybe I'm missing something but I don't understand why you didn't like the guy who told you he'd been hairdresser for 20 years (so ought to be good)...

Maybe there was something else about him?

Yes, there was. He had moved towns to get away from a love affair he had had and was very bitter and negative about everything. He was very political too and I just felt really terrible about the whole experience. He came with a fabulous recommendation by the salon owner. He did a fabulous job but made me feel so depressed I thought better to have an average cut that a fab one that did not come with a smile.

NotSpaghetti

SpinDriftCoastal -maybe I'm missing something but I don't understand why you didn't like the guy who told you he'd been hairdresser for 20 years (so ought to be good)...

Maybe there was something else about him?

I was told once that if a hairdresser has a really good hairstyle, it was probably done by someone else in the salon, as it is not easy to cut your own hair. So there is probably someone else in the salon who is better than he is! Your question could have been "Who cuts YOUR hair?"

I've had the same hairdresser for many years and she does a good job on my difficult hair. She changed salons recently so I now go there.
Don't go somewhere that you aren't happy with. There are lots of good hairdressers.

I am not good with hairdressers, have a daughter who trims my hair then I tie it up in a short pony and stick a claw clip in, job done.

I think you can feel vunerable in a Hairdressering Salon - wet hair - young thin stylists - having to make small talk etc..
Personally, I look forward to the chat - they always remember what I am doing and ask after the family- as I have had this girl for 10 years and she knows exactly what to do to my hair in way of cut and colour than I do myself. A blow dry and I am out in 40 minutes; cut and colour just under two hours, No sweat.

Elegran

NotSpaghetti

SpinDriftCoastal -maybe I'm missing something but I don't understand why you didn't like the guy who told you he'd been hairdresser for 20 years (so ought to be good)...

Maybe there was something else about him?

I was told once that if a hairdresser has a really good hairstyle, it was probably done by someone else in the salon, as it is not easy to cut your own hair. So there is probably someone else in the salon who is better than he is! Your question could have been "Who cuts YOUR hair?"

Must confess this was a decade ago but there was just him and the owner and he had the usual man's cut of the time. But had there been more hairdressers I would probably have stayed and done as you recommend. The girl I go to now is lovely and does a brilliant cut so all happy.

Given that he did a fabulous job could you try him again but say in advance that you "need a boost so want to be very upbeat today?"
Then he will, I'd hope, do a great job and put his misery aside?.

You may find that he is struggling and needs to think more positively about himself?
Maybe you can warm to him (and he can settle into this new salon and cheer up!).

I would personally give him another chance - but would warn him too.
If he started to move into misery I'd remind him.
Tell him what amazing hands he has... Ask him about the early days of his training...
I think you can coax a smile and have a great haircut!

I still go to the same hairdresser but now it's only for a cut and blow dry from the stylist who owns the business and who cuts my hair nicely. However, I used to have highlights and lowlights but couldn't stand it any longer. A very talkative junior did the foils. She had opinions on everything and she never listened so really made me dread the hour it took. On top of that she had dreadful halitosis. I just told the stylist that I'd gone off the highlights. I couldn't bring myself to say why I didn't like the junior. It was only my opinion after all, others might have liked her.

If you ve got a good hairdresser and it’s two minutes from your house what’s not to like, bugger the ‘building vibes’
Gosh I must be an insensitive soul, but I d only change if I didn’t like the way they did my hair

Going to the hairdressers can be challenging. The lady who cuts my hair is really nice and I like her. The small talk thing is just part of the experience I've found over the years.

What I have noticed is she has started to call me my dear the last few times I've been. I'm not 90 or anywhere near that age 😂😂😂

That was a kind way to do it Aveline.

My person does come to the home, which would avoid the ghastly " salon experience" But I want to get out of my home!

Thanks for saying it's not silly Cossy.