Bench or Headstone

I’m so sorry the University has overlooked the depth of feeling, garnet. I wonder, is it worth asking then to either write to other involved people or publish their plans in some way, perhaps via their web site, to give others the chance to comment? I hope,your meeting gives you a he,foul outcome.

I don't understand why many people find death spooky. It happens to us all at some point and if people have had good and longish lives it's beautiful as far as I'm concerned. I like reading the names on benches in particular if there is also an interesting comment. My Dads bench is overlooking a cricket field and says he would love the thought of people watching his favourite game.

I love the idea of a bench with a view of the sea or the place we often walk, with something nice written on it. I always say hello and thank you to whose ever bench i take a rest on. Its nice when families go to their loved ones particular bench to say hello and have a picnic, or just go sit for a while.

I also enjoy walking and sitting in cemeteries reading the tombstones, and find it peaceful in such places.

Re-reading that sounds a bit morbid, but it really isnt, does anyone else find cemeteries peaceful places to go?

Yes, I do.

After my husband fell off the ladder and fractured his spine he was on crutches and told to walk every day.
We used to go to the local cemetery, where there were benches to sit on as well as paths to walk along, and squirrels to watch. We used to take our granddaughter with us when she was visiting, and she would try to creep up on the squirrels.

He also probably has a more appropriate monument than anyone else I know. He designed a crematorium chapel.
It doesn't have a plaque with his name on, though.

Yes I like cemeteries. I like reading the headstones and sitting on the benches and thinking about people no longer with us but in a good way. I have always thought I would be quite happy with a house overlooking a cemetery. DH and I have decided we do not wish any kind of memorial other than people thinking well of us and we have written that into our funeral wishes.

My youngest child, (who died aged 26 yrs), has a memorial bench in the garden next to The House of Lords. He was very involved in politics and it was his friends and comrades in the Labour Party that helped to raise the money for this bench. Most years, on his birthday, one of the family, at least will try to visit and leave some roses. However, I really do not need any memorial to remember him. He has his own place in my heart.

So very sorry Fran.