Remembering loved ones.

Sitting watching Songs of Praise today they had "Great is the Faithfulness". We had this at the funerals of both my parents. I was suddenly overcome with a desire to see my mother and tears began to trickle down my cheeks. I have never cried for her, as her death was a release from the ravages of COPD. Seeing her struggle for breath was horrible. I hope that we will be reunited in spirit one day.

I'm sure you will Hilda. I too am looking forward to a party with my dear M an D. I would like another 15 years here until I am 85 and then I hope to be ready for a reunion.

I know many people do not believe in an after life, but I do so that gives me something to look forward too.

I am now the exact age that my mum was when she passed away, so she has been in my thoughts all day with this in mind. I am deeply saddened that she had multiple health problems and that she was not a happy person despite my and my sisters efforts to please her. Her life was so much harder than mine has been. Her generation lived through the depression, the war, and other hardships that we can only imagine.
But I am a believer and know we will be reunited one day.

My father died when I was 26, my mother when I was 39. I'm 66 now but it saddens me that there's so much of my life and family that they never got to share and enjoy. I can still be unexpectedly caught out with a teary eye , even after all these years. My garden is somewhere that always reminds me of them both. I too hope I'll see them again one day.

I know that I will see them all again one day because my Granny told me I would - and that was over 60 years ago now . I have lost so many lovely people since then but somehow what she said to me about being happy to die because it meant seeing her father again - still resonates with me - she was a lovely lady and I believed her and find comfort in continuing to do so.

grannyqueenie me too with the teary eyes. I lost my parents when relatively young and it never stops hurting, you just learn to live with it. I was particularly close to my mother and often think how lovely it would be to share everything with her. One day I will.

NanKate & mrsmopp it is wonderful to have that blessed assurance!

and blessings to all who mourn - for they shall be comforted.

I promise you that there is a Heaven because Jesus told us so and He did not tell lies ever. There is a purpose behind all this and it will be revealed to us. I know there is a separate thread about life after death. I have no doubts whatsoever.
We shall be reunited.

Funny things make me cry and not very often.....not a big one for tears. The other day someone on the radio said his mother had always sung to him as a little one. It brought back memories of my dear mum doing the same . When she was dying and very ill I sang to her in return.

I was in floods of tears even after 17 years with the memory.

Something happened recently that upset me very much and suddenly all I wanted was to tell Mum about it. She died 18 years ago and I think of her and Dad and other family members every day.

My Mum died on my birthday so I have a reminder of that. When my Dad died I was so upset that even today, 25 yrs, on, I could not tell you the time or the day he died. I could easily look it up but have no need to do so. They are both gone and missed a lot.

D's birthday brings mixed feelings as she was born on the second anniversary of my dear dad's death.
We tried for a long time to have children and I think about dad going to make way for the new generation, which is something my maternal grandmother used to say.

You are all so very blessed to have had the relationship with your parents that you miss them so much. Look back with enormous gratitude and make the tears happy ones.

I have little chats with my Dad all the time.

Our second granddaughter was bien in the anniversary of my Mum's death. I missed her, and still miss her, hugely but now I like to think something of my Mum lives on in our beautiful, madcap, granddaughter.

Born on - sorry.

Its an odd little thing but a novelty biro that plays the Marseillaise makes me so sad/happy. My Dad, a keen Francophile would have loved it so much. I so wish I could have given it to him. I think of him every day. He died 12 years ago now. One good/not so good thing is that he looks back at me from every mirror! Not a great look when I'm wearing make up!

Ann you are right - 'say not in grief she is no more, but say in thankfulness that she was.'
Those of us who can say that are fortunate indeed.

thankfully my parents are still with me at hhe moment but lost my beautiful healthy happy dgd six years ago when she was only 4 and ahalf months old to meningitis so i believe in an afterlife where shes happy and loved its how my family all cope with her loss

My parents are now reunited and my mum, who had dementia, is back to being as she was when she had all her faculties. As I get older, my thoughts are increasingly with my much-loved first boyfriend, aince, although he felt the same as me, there was never closure and I'm really looking forward to "clearing the air" with him. I'm not a Christian, but believe firmly in a life after death where I will meet my miscarried babies and old very dear friends, sort out various issues with various people to clear Karmic debts, etc. I'm so sorry for people who can't look forward to some form of heaven/happy hunting grounds/Summerlands or whatever, since this life is so short and so many things can go wrong that I want to get right in future

nina your post made me think again about my own family.
Almost exactly a year after mum died, my grandson was born. Within the next month both of my sisters had new GCs too.
My niece got it right when she said
'Gran may be gone but she's still enjoying meddling!'

? Cazzyp no one should have to lose a child . My sister died when she was 4yrs I never knew her . My dad died when I was 4yrs old I sometimes think about all he missed he never met any of his GC my children were very young when my mum died so didn't really know her

Oh yes dearly beloved, some with a smile and some with a tear. Some with sadness and with laughter and the memories are precious.

Music does it for me. There are certain songs that can trigger tears and yet it's also music that is my comfort. I also like to light a candle on remembrance days; sometimes at home, sometimes I'll pop into our lovely Parish Church and light a candle and sit a while and allow myself to dwell for a few minutes in sadness.

Oddly, just writing this has brought me to tears as I think of someone whose early death is uppermost in my mind right now.

What lovely feelings are expressed here on this subject. I lost my parents when I was in my thirties, and ,like many here, I wish they could have seen my children grow to adulthood , and seen the lovely grandchildren, and watched them grow. However, there are those who would say they can, and in my heart I believe I will see them again. Most days I think of them in some way or another and yes, after thirty five years I too am brought to tears sometimes.

I went to a funeral once where the 'Mistress of Ceremonies'said that we have all lived another life, and if anyone had told us, as perfectly formed, sentient beings in the womb, that we would soon emerge from the only world we knew into another world and live as we do on earth we would have never believed it. She said that we should always hold on to the belief that there is another life for us after this relatively short on. Those words have always been comforting.