Were you more emotionally attached to one parent over the other ?

I bet most girls and boys would choose their Mum wouldn’t they if push came to shove.
Many lose their Mums when they’re young and tho it’s a great sadness most come through it and don’t regard themselves as poor victims for the rest of their lives.

Paul McCartney was 11 or 12 when his Mum died. He still did well at school, had friends and learned to play the guitar and joined a band.

I think I read somewhere John and Paul bonded over the loss of their mothers. John was brought up by aunt Mimi and soon after he reunited with his mother she had a fatal accident. Must have left scars. I think I read Paul was close to his father as well as his mother.

I've read a few posts on GN that would overturn the view that mother is the number one parent, not for everybody, but maybe a higher percentage.

I think Aunt Mimi was really his Grandma and her daughter was John’s Mum who he later got to know in his late teens?

Not me. The thought of anything happening to my Dad was the worst thing I could think of in my life. I still think of him every day. Also my darling Gran. Mum not so much. A strange woman really.

Mums are the main nurturers aren’t they? I know some on here had awful ones tho.

Oreo

I think Aunt Mimi was really his Grandma and her daughter was John’s Mum who he later got to know in his late teens?

Oh! I didn't know that, I thought I knew everything about the Beatles too On a slightly similar note, I read Jack Nicholson the actor was brought up believing "his mother" was his sister

I was very very close to my (adoptive) father until I had a child of my own at 26, then became much closer to my mother. I remained close to both my parents throughout their lives.

Oreo

Mums are the main nurturers aren’t they? I know some on here had awful ones tho.

They should be, but sometimes they aren't. Cathy Ames in East of Eden sure wasn't a nurturer. Fiction though! Although in real life not every mother fulfills that role.

I much preferred my father. He didn't hit me round the face with his wedding ring hand. He taught me to play darts and climb trees and brought me interesting books from the library much to my mother's annoyance. She considered books a waste of time when I could be helping clean the house or do the ironing.

I was much more attached to my father too. He was kind, caring and if it had not been I would have lost out on parental love and support.

No, but one parent was more emotionally attached to me than the other. (Mum was never a natural-born maternal type.)

I think that girls often get on better with their fathers. I certainly did. Possibly because girls and mums can be too alike as females. But my dad died first and Mum and I got on fine and we had lots of laughs. Dad would have been more difficult to care for.

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I loved my mum and Dad equally but it was my Nan and grandad who I spent all my time with
I often look back and wish I d had more time for mum and dad I definitely appreciated my lovely gentle Dad the older I got. Mum was more feisty but I loved her too,
I d give anything to give them all a hug now. I miss them so much.

I wish I still had my parents, my mom died young and I think of her all the time, I had my dad twenty years after mom died and we were very close. Wish I could have had more time with mom. I don't think I appreciated them enough. I dint think dad could have bought us on his own but mom could have.

I can still remember, when I was maybe about 10, and had heard about divorce, thinking how if my parents were to do that (not that there was ever indication whatsoever that they might), I would far rather stay with my dad.

I have thought about this recently, to try to work out why that is how I felt, and have come to the conclusion that it was because my mother and i are very different people, and I have never (even now) felt that she understands me or even felt that I was quite 'normal' in her narrow, black and white view of such things.
She wasn't affectionate, either. I don't recall her ever giving me a cuddle when i was growing up, yet on a practical level, she did absolutely everything a good mother should do.

I dont recall my dad bring affectionate either, but he was the one who did 'fun' things with me, like sledging, ice skating, took my to the funfair, swimming etc., whereas mum dragged me along to things that I didnt like but that she thought I, as a girl, should want to do.

Interesting responses. My biological male parent was absolutely useless, I would struggle to use the word "father". So for me, it's my mother all the way. She was awesome to the end.

No contest for me my mum was a caring person as for my dad he died when I was 12 and I do not remember shedding a single tear for him. I do not have a single happy memory of him either . I saw a video to-day of Charlotte and her dad prince William sharing a little joke and I just thought how lucky she was. They looked so happy in each others company .

Definitely my dad. He was light years ahead of his generation. He understood what made people tick and saw through time wasters. I was fortunate enough to have him in my life till he was in his mid 90s. Not a day goes by when we do not think of him or mention his wisdom. My mother was also a lovely lady but she was very much the domestic front. I always felt I needed to look after her and make sure she was OK

I was frightened to live there. Face slapped, and a leather belt used frequently. I was a good child but not allowed to open my mouth.If it were today, I would have been in the care of Social Services.

I loved boarding school, kind nuns and nobody laid a finger on me but the holidays! I was an only child.

What did I write? why was my post withdrawn ?

I haven’t asked for my post to be withdrawn I think it was a nice post saying I loved both my Mum and Dad and how much I miss them

I was closer to my maternal gran than either of my parents. I loved her so much and she loved me in the same way. She died suddenly in sad circumstances and I’ve never been the same.