I can't tell you all how nice it is to be on here

Sorry to hear that Nonnie it does take time to recover from a shock and sometimes it just hits you again at an unexpected moment . Talk away to your hearts content and feel to post even dare I say 'frivolous' posts. I hope you start to feel like your old self soon

Virtual 'friends' can offer as much support as real life ones . So feel free to chat away if it helps you.... we're all here to avoid doing the housework anyway

Yes - talk away. Distract yourself. And if you feel ready for it, maybe unburden yourself, too.

NanaandGrampy that is not a word with which I am familiar- maybe when you have some spare time you can explain to me what I should be doing instead of spending too much time on line.

You know, some of the topics are so personal and heart wrenching, it makes me realise I have a lot to be thankful for.

I have a friend who is not allowed to see his children. It makes my problems pale into nothing by comparison.

Housework you say?

Wots that !

Nonnie, post as often as you wish on any thread you wish , I am so sorry you are troubled

You may live to regret saying that

Thanks all.

I can't say what happened, and that's probably the problem. All I can say to you is that it happened and it got sorted, and I am living with the memory of it, and what they did.

Housework -- let me explain. Housework is what Mrs P says she is doing when, whilst having my afternoon nap, she attacks my ankles with the cleaner.

nonnie keep chatting.
Had a few health probs myself.
I'm sitting in hospital reception waiting with fingers crossed at the moment. I'm by myself (my choice) GN is keeping me company and grounded.

for you sometime soon

Nonnie Most of us have been on here for a therapeutic moan, or a little weep, so please keep on communicating.
Watch out for that GandTea though, he's a bit cheeky sometimes

It is a case of priorities surely .

Do I wash the kitchen floor. Get the vacuum out. Wave the feather duster around. Sweep the back path. Wash the breakfast dishes. Clear the coffee table and file the mounds of papers or curl up on the sofa with iPad and visit GN ? To hell with the housework

Good luck Cherrytree, post away Nonnie

Only sometimes

Yes Non, keep chatting, you will find plenty of sympathetic and empathetic ears here. Many of us have been down, including me, and Gners have helped with their support. Keep to the cheerful threads, some of the contentious ones would drive a saint to drink.

Annie, please have a word with Mrs P, then I might get an undisturbed nap.

Hang in there Nonni1. I too have had to deal with very upsetting circumstances for the last two years that make me cry to myself (not infront of others) everyday. It releases the stress. My problem is also that I can't tell anyone about it.
Hopefully you will eventually feel better and be able to talk here or at least feel connected.
Chat away! smile

I think talking to strangers or from a behind a screen is easier than talking to friends and family .
Big hugs to both Nonni1 and Cherrytree x

Rosabella

Is it normal to just break down and cry do you think? I wonder if this is the mind/body's way of healing itself?

I've stopped being able to sing now because it starts the moment I begin ..as if any effort is quashed by it.

At home I can relax and do it, but when I am out and about I find there are times when I know I'm going to cry so I can't answer people. I don't want to do this but feel overwhelmed.

tiredoldwoman you are so right. It's 'safe' on here !

Advice on houseworknonnie Get the Hoover out,plug it in. Then go and do something you like. If anyone visits, you were just starting the cleaning. Simple!!
I hope you get to feel better soon. Till then keep on chatting

So sorry you have bad memories that you can't erase or talk about Nonnie. It's like having a scab that you can't help picking. You can cover it up with clothing but you know it's still there.

GN is a great place to come and chat away, distract yourself, have a laugh. Or have a moan, unburden yourself. There are always so many people who will rush to support you and help you through.

I do think, though, that you need to talk to someone about the issue. Perhaps not openly on here, but you could see a counsellor. It sounds as if you need that catharsis of unburdening your troubles to someone completely detached.

In the meantime, and ((((hugs))))

Indinana

I know, but I'm putting it off. I'd like to think I could heal myself, but just when I think it's getting better, I do it all again.

And leave the duster in a prominent position (you were just going to start the housework!)

A bit of good advice from the midwife when DC2 was born: make sure there is food in the house, the children are fed and happy and that the bathroom is clean.
Leave everything else.

But I did do some baking for you:
It took no time at all
and

Remind me to have a word with Mrs G&T!

Nonnie just carry on reading and posting on here, there are good posts, contentious posts, interesting posts......and try to get the image out of your mind of GandTea being bashed about the ankles by a cleaner.....sounds rather cruel to the poor cleaner but who are we to judge eh?

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Perhaps you need someone to talk it through with Nonnie, someone who is impartial