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overthehill Sat 12-Mar-16 09:49:46

Our bedroom is due for a redo and I am wondering what to do.

We have a double bed. As we've got older, neither of us sleep as well as we did. DH used to get in bed fall asleep fast (still does) and barely moved till he got up next day. Now he shifts about and disturbs me and to be fair I probably disturbs him to.

We have two spare bedrooms each with a single bed which the GC use when they visit and in some ways it seems a waste buying yet another two single beds in place of the double when we already have those. I do go and decamp in one of the rooms if I can't sleep.

I did think maybe of one of those beds that has individual mattresses but sort of joined in some way. Does anyone on here have one and what is their opinion.

Be pleased to hear what others have done.

gulligranny Sun 13-Mar-16 18:34:35

We have a king-size Tempur mattress on a Tempur base and as someone said up-post, you can't generally feel the other person moving about.

That said, those twin bed zipped up numbers are good and you get a lot of room.

pollyparrot Sun 13-Mar-16 19:49:59

We sleep in separate rooms. DH was the gentleman and left me in the double bed and he now sleeps in his own room in a single. This was a joint decision which we made based on the need to get a good night's sleep. He snores and get's up for the loo several times and I toss and turn all night. It works for us.

Jennyking Sun 13-Mar-16 20:10:45

We have a double and a spare single in the other room. We use the double bed but if. one of us is disturbed by the other, my restless legs for example, then my beloved other half just moves to the other bed. Quite often I just move when I get up for the loo. Works well.

Shizam Sun 13-Mar-16 20:31:50

Yes, get two singles, can be pushed together. Can't flip my very heavy king size mattress on my own. Have bought a mattress topper, which makes it comfier.

hildajenniJ Sun 13-Mar-16 21:39:29

We have a king size bed, but nowadays I sleep on it by myself. DH does not like to disturb me as I go to bed earlier than he does. These days he sleeps in our son's old room. I quite like this arrangement, if I'm honest. I sleep much better by myself.

GrannyAsNanny Sun 13-Mar-16 22:35:49

Separate beds, separate bedrooms, separate bathrooms - bliss!

NotTooOld Sun 13-Mar-16 23:03:59

Jaxie grin

We've got an ordinary double but with a king size duvet but we have stayed in hotels where you get two singles zipped together and they are fantastic. You'd need a pretty big bedroom, though.

littlefierce Sun 13-Mar-16 23:22:03

My OH has Periodic Limb Movement Disorder (yes it's an actual thing!) He takes drugs to damp down the movement but my nights are still far from peaceful. We have a 5' bed (room too small to take a bigger one) with 2x2'6 zip & link pocket sprung mattresses. Zipped from the base rather than the top if that makes sense so there's an actual small gap between them. This has helped a lot, but we too are thinking of separate duvets as one of his little tricks is to pull it when fast asleep, it pulls across my face & wakes me up, assuming I'm not still lying there awake & wanting to kill him. We've also made the guest room very comfortable & spent a decent amount on the bed in there, so if all else fails I slope off there for a couple of nights till I feel human again.

Nansypansy Mon 14-Mar-16 07:42:21

Separate rooms didn't work for us so we separated.

Grannyknot Mon 14-Mar-16 07:52:35

littlefierce please tell me how is Periodic Limb Movement Disorder any different from periodically moving one's arms or legs as you change position in your sleep? Serious question!

BBbevan Mon 14-Mar-16 08:36:12

My friend, who is widowed, says she would give anything to have her husband beside her in bed. If we moan about our DHs snoring she says "At least you have got him".
So my DH and me sleep in the same bed and only separate if the going gets tough. Sometimes we have a bad night in hotels as there is nowhere to decamp to. But mostly we manage.

EvaMay1s3 Mon 14-Mar-16 10:11:41

Single rooms with visiting rights.

This is due to my restless leg and his snoring!! We have a super king with 2 mattresses and two duvets which was really great until my legs started. The option of soft/firm no problem.?

EvaMay1s3 Mon 14-Mar-16 10:20:38

I suffer from restless leg syndrome and although I take medication I still jump about for hours - even during the day. I walk around the house sometimes with little relief so you can imagine what hubby had to put up with until he moved sleeping quarters.

yogagran Mon 14-Mar-16 13:35:14

My OH has chest problems so we recently changed our king size bed for 2 single automatic adjustable beds, the kind that have a remote control to raise the head end or the foot end. It's good for him as he can prop himself more upright without the need to masses of pillows. I find it rather difficult to change to sheets but it's worth that hassle. The two bases are bolted together so that you can't fall down the gap in the middle!

Ann4 Mon 14-Mar-16 14:00:21

My husband and I sleep in separate rooms we are both happier cannot hear Husbands snoring so we both now get a goodnight sleep.

Nelliemoser Mon 14-Mar-16 20:26:22

Separate beds here. I kicked OH out years ago because of his habit of going to bed very late and them climbing into bed freezing cold at 4am. he probably snores much more than he used to as well.

I do get a better nights sleep as I am not sort of worrying about what time he is going to get in and disturb me. It's his own silly fault. Nothing I suggest about him getting an early night makes any difference.