I'm sending wrong message

I have loved Gransnet but it has seemed to be that I am the sort of poster that says things people don't like. I was trying to connect but perhaps people just see me as a useless, objectionable pleb. I'm sad because I was happy with this site.

Yes,yes, let's hear it for t wot.no children, no education or class no grandchildren. Only opinions that seem to Rouse scorn and hostility. Well, thanks for your love and care..not

Yes, you alway were deent, jingles

Decent

wot what's going on? Why do you think nobody on here agrees with you? You sound very down sweetie, is everything OK?

Going back to your original post, I agree it might be a good idea to ask your friend exactly what she means?

And what did the guy today do to upset you like this?

Dear Wot I identify with the problem you seem to have and I do sympathise!
I was raised with four older brothers and went to an all girl's grammar school so as I grew up my experience of the other sex was very limited and I would say I was openly friendly towards all men, but that is all - just conversationally friendly!!! I would never describe myself as 'sexy' even in my hayday (!) and I didn't wear makeup. But on a few occasions I have had men begin to flirt and/or be suggestive. As soon as I have realised I have drawn back and been careful, but none of the attention has ever ben invited by me. I honestly think some men have very big egos and it is evident that some also have some very negative attitudes towards women.

I said I have learned to be careful, but it is frustrating when you are just being nice and someone misinterprets it - wilfully I would say. Even down to offering a a tradesman a cup of tea ...

I also noticed a distinct shift (for the worst) when I became a divorcee - it does seem that if some men know you are single (and some of them still married) you become fair game for lewd advances!!!

I'm sorry you have had to put up with unwanted attention. Yes, we do have to think what can we do to try to ensure it doesn't happen, but actually men should behave better and have more sense!

Personally I welcome posters with no children no education or class and no grandchildren.

I am not on here very often [so havent seen any problems that you have had in the past on here] but if you want to pm me anytime about anything, I will get back to you at some point.

Oh dear!

I don't understand this at all. I was worrying in the night about what wot said to me on this thread. I do not know what brought it on.

And I am pretty disgusted that only one other poster had the kindness to put in a word for me.

#Gransnet [fingerdownthroat]

Yes wot. I have always been decent to you. I thought we were pals.

Yes, I want to be pals. I guess I I was being silly after a bottle of wine after my nearly dry January. I don't know what the reference s were about Norfolk though......Yes, I live here but not a native!
Sorry if I've offended anyone. Got a headache today so that's my comeuppance!

Jinglbellsfrocks the north yorkshire moors are not bloody awful desolate!!! What a cheek! But then I am a solitary soul..... I loved Knoydart in Scotland and you could only get there by boat or a twenty mile hike over the hills. Just call me hermit.....

My dad was a milkman and so we always offered our milkman a cuppa. I did the same when I married. I have 2 brothers and have no problems talking to men. Unfortunately some men interpret friendliness as something quite different and frankly this can only mean their opinion of women is low and vastly inflated of themselves/men in general.
I no longer offer drinks but what a shame that is.
Wot how isolated are you? You sound like you could do with a bit of company.....even just a cuppa with someone.

Cambia I love the North York moors. Fond memories of Goathland. Not sure I could cope with living there permanently though. For one thing I would need a good fire and woodsmoke makes me cough these days.

Perhaps cut down on the woodbines?

Maybe Gransnet + alcohol is as bad an idea as texting when tipsy ? Because to be honest after your original post it all went to pot , and I think you probably owe Jingl an apology.

I have indeed apologised to Jings and do so again. Sorry I was nasty. I love Yorkshire by the way!

wot, do forgive me if I have jumped to the wrong conclusion but could that have been the problem with the wrinkled gnome? Maybe that after a few glasses you had lost any inhibitions so he though he was on a promise? Just a thought.

Petra - NFN.

It's ok wot. Really sorry you are unhappy at the moment. Hope things look up soon.

pollyparrot . Never smoked in me life!

Do they still make Woodbines? #blastfromthepast

No problem , now we understand better.

Perhaps if you're unhappy with uninvited attention you could distance yourself from tradement if you can. Be polite, offer a cuppa if they will be there a while and then take yourself off somewhere else in your house to avoid chatty conversation.

Maybe that might help?

Yes, thanks for the tip. Luckily though, I had not started on the wine whilst "the Wrinkled Gnome" was about. Poor old thing he is though.

Maybe he just likes a chat .

It's a difficult line to tread, I'm always super friendly and love a good chat ( as long as they are working whilst talking) but I don't think it's ever been taken as more than just being friendly.

Good luck finding the right balance .