Late Christmas Card

I don't see the problem.

It only arrived after Christmas because there are no longer Christmas Day deliveries as there were when we were children! So that means that if there had been it would have been bang on time but since there aren't it wasn't and in any case if you hadn't posted it she wouldn't have had one and would probably have felt neglected so it is a good job you sent one so that she could write and tell you that the Christmas Day deliveries have now stopped so that next time when you have remembered that you have forgotten you won't worry about sending one since she wouldn't get it on the right day - perhaps.

I'm surprised there was a postal delivery on Boxing Day 26th.

I would just take her comment at face value, wouldn't get offended

And not a drop!

There aren't deliveries on Boxing Day. I reckon it arrived on the 24 th and she missed it!!!

Thank you for your responses.

We mailed our cousin the Christmas card on Sunday, Dec 20th.

Yes, there are deliveries here on Saturday the 26th. I received mail
on Sat the 26th.

Our cousin is very critical, so I do take offense.

Her email on Sat the 26th was, "Thank you for your Christmas card."
"It arrived today."

Was it necessary for her to add, "It arrived today."

It is my husbands' cousin and he is not happy with that comment.
Why should she add that comment?

Was it necessary do you think?

Thank you,
Olivia

Why would you take offence? You sent a card and it arrived - end of! Life is too short to worry about such a trivial thing. Hope you had a lovely Christmas.

Was what necessary?

I was taught decades ago that Birthday Cards and Christmas Cards
should arrive on or before the day. Old school I guess.

Cousin sends cards out Dec 1.

My mistake to mail the card late so that it arrived after Christmas.

After a year of criticism, for example ( she sent a birthday card to my husband and he did not email her right away to thank her, so she sent a nasty email about not being thanked for the card)

Yes, life is too short to deal with negativity !

Yesterday she thanked us for the card. My question, was it necessary for her to add:
" It arrived today" ( which was Dec 26 ). Sort of ruins the holiday mood.
Reminding us that the card was late.

Perhaps it was her way of saying why she hadn't thanked you sooner - because the card had only just arrived. You sent a card, she got it. I don't see why either of you should take offence. I wouldn't give it a second's thought.

Are you in America, Olivia4444? I'm surmising this, because of your spelling of certain words.. so perhaps where you live there are Boxing Day deliveries? It doesn't happen in the UK. Either way, I think she may just be commenting that your card has taken a wee while to arrive, but she now has it. I wouldn't take any offence at that, at all.

Do you write thanks to everyone who sent you a card?

grannyactivist,

i think you might have it, she wanted to let me know she had just received it. Wise one you are !

Marelli,

Yup, American.
I guess this is a British site ?
My family came from the southern part of England.
BBC has the best shows.

suzied,

Good question, got me thinking, no i do not email everyone who sends a card !
Except for this cousin whom we might not bother sending cards
to anymore because it is too much of a chore !

I wouldn`t take offence at it. If I receive anything that I know was sent in time but arrived late, I`d thank the sender, but tell them it arrived late, they`d realise I wasn`t blaming them, I`m sure.
Welcome to Gransnet by the way, Olivia4444

When it gets to the point where the sending and receiving of good wishes in cards becomes some sort of competition or test, then I would simply not bother. Why are you sending this vindictive, critical woman a card at all?

I have a sis-IL who is mortally offended if her cards arrive late, so it always seems that it is her card that I forget or that goes astray! But, do you know, I couldn't care less! It is her choice to take offence, not mine to give it.

If someone sent me an ecard that arrived a day late, I might reply that it came on 26th, but that would be followed by an exclamation mark, a grinning emoticon and lots of love!

Sending thank you emails for Christmas cards, please NO, not another chore for us overworked Grans to do. Then an email to thank us for the email I suppose.

I think it is "poor manners" to take offence at such trivial things.

She told you when the card arrived. End. It doesn't mean anything else unless you read more into it.

Twitchy or what!? ?

i do not email everyone who sends a card !
Except for this cousin whom we might not bother sending cards
to anymore because it is too much of a chore

one card -a chore??
Sounds as if you would rather not bother at all, in which case why the fuss?

<Or is it all a wind-up to pass the time between Christmas and New Year?>

Luckygirl,

Your comment about a 'test' makes a lot of sense.
She sends a card and then hovers by her computer to see who thanked
her, and if we don't she sends a chain letter to all the cousins complaining
about us.
She must have a checklist !

No more cards for this one !
And no more obligations.

Alea,
I have plenty of engagements this week and meeting up with
old out of town friends. Don't need a wind-up to pass the time.

thatbags,
love the word 'twitchy', love British expressions, fun to be here, lots of past history with the cousin, no, i am not twitchy, what I am is making a decision
on what to do in future.

numberplease, thank you, i like this group, and you guys are helping me with
this decision.

Nana3, I agree. Sending a card to this one person makes it feel like I have
a weapon aimed at me, and this ruins writing out the cards, which I really like to do out of good will rather than obligation.

Well, this is certainly a "different" kind of thread.
Olivia 4444 I wouldn't get upset or let it spoil your holiday. Can't remember your exact words, but think you are being over sensitive. If I had such an email, and it bothered me, I'd email back and say how surprised I was the card took so long, given that I'd posted it on the 20th. And leave it at that. But if you feel the family member has been hypercritical over the past year why do you bother anyway? Just drop the card sending. Then she can email and say she didn't get one, and you can say well, that's because I didn't send one. are you sure you're not winding us up??

My opinion, I think she was just letting you know she had got the card. I don't think any harm was meant.

I've just had a card today which was posted on the 16th. I'm just delighted to get it as I was a bit worried.