Late Christmas Card

2 pages on my iPad mini.
2 pages too long!

My birthday is on the 11th. My card from DD didn't arrive until the 17th. My DD was beginning to panic as she had enclosed a gift card. She put a first class stamp on it and posted it on the 8th to give it plenty of time! "Post early for Christmas". Phooey!

It's only one page on iPad.

Other people's behaviour is fascinating to me. Often makes me count my blessings.

I agree Alea, and to think I have spent time reading them!

Elrel

I find it impossible hard to understand how the thread has even run to two pages!

Christmas cards were stopped years ago in our famiy. Popularity contests? My neighbours put the few they have on the windowsills and posted them through the door. Glad the post office have caused the traditionists to consider the cost which is too much for people you never see.
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OMG what a first world problem.

You've done right Olivia life is far too short to have people in it who upset us. Have a great New Year and peaceful 2016, and welcome to Gransnet.

Mission accomplished.
Now to review the Christmas card list and decide on the merits (or otherwise) of the other 119.
Hope you finish in time to write them for Christmas 2016.

DECISION has been made, husband agrees, this cousin has caused
too much aggravation year after year and she is being removed
from our mailing list. Mission accomplished
On to more pleasant things !

Very much appreciate all your advice and support.

Happy New Year !!

Good gracious.. mountain /molehill... if you don't like the woman don't send anymore communications to her. Maybe she was surprised it took so long to get to her...some people love a moan!

No, there was no need to add ' it arrived today' that was just telling you that you didn't send it early enough.Only you know this person well, it's not a big deal,but obviously it is for her!

Early December 2013 a friend sent a Christmas card to DD in Beijing. It arrived in October 2014 just a wee bit early for Christmas 2014. They both thought it something to laugh over. DD and GSs are still waiting for the 2 letters I sent from Oz in November. DS and GSs in Spain got theirs (posted at the same time) within 4 days
I am notorious for sending birthday cards late and so far have never lost any friends over it. Life is much too short to let such things spoil a friendship.

I had a card today with the 16th on the postmark. I just wonder where it has been for the last 13 days??

I've just had a card today which was posted on the 16th. I'm just delighted to get it as I was a bit worried.

My opinion, I think she was just letting you know she had got the card. I don't think any harm was meant.

Well, this is certainly a "different" kind of thread.
Olivia 4444 I wouldn't get upset or let it spoil your holiday. Can't remember your exact words, but think you are being over sensitive. If I had such an email, and it bothered me, I'd email back and say how surprised I was the card took so long, given that I'd posted it on the 20th. And leave it at that. But if you feel the family member has been hypercritical over the past year why do you bother anyway? Just drop the card sending. Then she can email and say she didn't get one, and you can say well, that's because I didn't send one. are you sure you're not winding us up??

Luckygirl,

Your comment about a 'test' makes a lot of sense.
She sends a card and then hovers by her computer to see who thanked
her, and if we don't she sends a chain letter to all the cousins complaining
about us.
She must have a checklist !

No more cards for this one !
And no more obligations.

Alea,
I have plenty of engagements this week and meeting up with
old out of town friends. Don't need a wind-up to pass the time.

thatbags,
love the word 'twitchy', love British expressions, fun to be here, lots of past history with the cousin, no, i am not twitchy, what I am is making a decision
on what to do in future.

numberplease, thank you, i like this group, and you guys are helping me with
this decision.

Nana3, I agree. Sending a card to this one person makes it feel like I have
a weapon aimed at me, and this ruins writing out the cards, which I really like to do out of good will rather than obligation.

i do not email everyone who sends a card !
Except for this cousin whom we might not bother sending cards
to anymore because it is too much of a chore

one card -a chore??
Sounds as if you would rather not bother at all, in which case why the fuss?

<Or is it all a wind-up to pass the time between Christmas and New Year?>

I think it is "poor manners" to take offence at such trivial things.

She told you when the card arrived. End. It doesn't mean anything else unless you read more into it.

Twitchy or what!? ?

Sending thank you emails for Christmas cards, please NO, not another chore for us overworked Grans to do. Then an email to thank us for the email I suppose.

When it gets to the point where the sending and receiving of good wishes in cards becomes some sort of competition or test, then I would simply not bother. Why are you sending this vindictive, critical woman a card at all?

I have a sis-IL who is mortally offended if her cards arrive late, so it always seems that it is her card that I forget or that goes astray! But, do you know, I couldn't care less! It is her choice to take offence, not mine to give it.

If someone sent me an ecard that arrived a day late, I might reply that it came on 26th, but that would be followed by an exclamation mark, a grinning emoticon and lots of love!

I wouldn`t take offence at it. If I receive anything that I know was sent in time but arrived late, I`d thank the sender, but tell them it arrived late, they`d realise I wasn`t blaming them, I`m sure.
Welcome to Gransnet by the way, Olivia4444

suzied,

Good question, got me thinking, no i do not email everyone who sends a card !
Except for this cousin whom we might not bother sending cards
to anymore because it is too much of a chore !