Lateness height of rudeness

I suffer from being late too.
It's usually the other person that does the suffering

The army know that soldiers who are late are the busiest and the best.
well, I don't know so much about the army, but I do know that anyone in the RN is supposed to be punctual - or early - or else!!

soldiers being late, never heard of such a thing .....

thanx for all the nice comments from some. I wonder if the smug Anya gets asked out much. she wouldn't be on my guest list for fear she turned up ontime!

and yes I am always on time for appointments with professionals, I hate wasting time so I always have my Kindle with me. and I have never to my knowledge missed a train or plane yet! My friends must be very tolerant of me, but as I have a very social good life I don't intend to change, just try to be better within a twenty minute window of lateness. Happy Christmas all and hope Santa isn't late for the punctuality police.

How RUDE you are annifrance - that was entirely uncalled for. If you are happy to just sit there while your equally rude friend keeps you waiting then fine - why bother asking if you don't like the answers. There are plenty on here who agree it is very bad form to be habitually late, not just me.

You deserve each other.

Just noticed it was tiny who posed the original question so rudesby anni must be one of those who can't get their act together

Oops! Need to be somewhere at 2 o'clock, better get ready and make sure I leave enough time to get there, so I'm not selfishly expecting others to hang around waiting for me

I'm sorry but I think being early is the height of rudeness too!

If they habitually turn up at your house early and you are used to them coming early why not be ready in advance? Or give them a time 15 minutes later than everyone else? If you know them well enough to invite them round you could give them a job to do, eg put out the nibbles, pour themselves a drink (and you one too while they're at it).

I wonder if the smug Anya gets asked out much
You can come to mine Anya
(I might still have my curlers in but I'm sure you won't mind)

Lots of new posters on here - welcome

Thank you Rose

Snowy1 Whilst I can see that you have difficulties in your life that put extra pressure on you, like your other half's illness, I'm not sure that being told an earlier time would resolve the issue. If you are extremely busy, stressed out and forgetful, surely it wouldn't make much difference if you're told an earlier time? The same issues - being overstretched and consequently losing keys, etc. - would still be there whatever time you are aiming for? Is it perhaps that because you're busy you try to do more things than you've got time to do, and miscalculate about how much time is left to get ready/travel somewhere? I have done that a couple of times myself and it's easily done but now I make a conscious effort not to try to squeeze in too much before going out.

It is a little inconsiderate to consistently turn up late (I think it's plain rude to consistently turn up very late) and there are circumstances where I wouldn't be happy if that happened - meeting in a pub I'm not familiar with, for instance. But there are worse things people can do I have one friend who does tend to turn up quite late and it is a little annoying, but because she is a good friend in other respects, I don't make a fuss about it.

(and I agree with annifrance - people turning up early for a meal can be a great deal more stressful than them turning up late).

I must say I'm surprised that some Gransnetters are getting so snippy with each other over this relatively minor issue.

Really?

I'm sorry - early, late, whatever - what I really dislike is rudeness - and there is some on this thread..... Is rudeness ever necessary ...?

Snowy1; you sound as if you're suffering from stress. Even though you're having to look someone else you, perhaps, need to take a step back and look after yourself.

Oh, the irony anniefrance

I hate wasting time

But it's OK for you to waste other people's time!

Rather curious that you are on time for professionals, and when catching trains and planes - so there's no inconvenience caused to yourself by having to re-schedule appointments or journeys but it's OK for friends to be left waiting.

We are all busy and many of us are at the mercy of public transport but I personally think it's rude to be persistently late.

omg everyone get over themselves and get a life. just off to have a super Christmas with loved and loving friends, early, late on time - I don't care just love my friends and love my life. Happy Christmas everyone.

Whatever.

This is turning nasty. As I have a secret talent which I can now put to good use. My secret talent (drum roll)I can kill threads by posting .

Which poster was it can't find their keys and that makes them late? (Sorry, can't scroll, tab playing up!)

DH was forever losing his keys (Q"who's had my keys?" - A "no-one, why would they?")
so now we hang keys on hooks and always usually know exactly where they are.

Stansgran I thought that was my privilege

Ps I wouldn't say it was becoming nasty, more childish with some immature responses such as those one would expect from teenagers.
Is it the school holidays already??

Ps for which whatever would be an appropriate response Anya

Whatever

Which of course is shorthand for 'we've tried to make you understand our point of view, by explaining how it make us feel, but you don't take other people's feeling on board or acknowledge how your actions can affect them, so .......whatever you want to think, carry on, because I've given up on you'

Or in other words 'whatever'

I'm off to 'get a life'

I do not like being late, it must stem from the time I had arranged to meet a school friend at the swimming pool one Saturday morning in the 60s. There I was, engrossed in the latest edition of Jackie at home when I remembered the time. I scuttled off and arrived about 20-30 minutes late. I can picture her now, standing on the steps to the swimming pool looking dejected. She was very good about it but it made me feel rotten. At least nowadays we are able to phone or text to explain we may be late. Ish comes in very handy too.

It was 'Snowy' who said that when she tried to explain that she sometimes lost her keys and was late because her partner was ill and she had a lot on her mind . I guess that sometimes misunderstandings happen on gransnet due to people replying to things without properly reading what has been said .

Nannanoo Thank you for sharing your story. I have only just read this thread. It must have been an absolute nightmare. Hope you enjoy the happy memories.