My heart is breaking for my child.

Katek, I feel for you all and there can't be a loving parent who doesnt empathise with your feeling of helplessness in the face of your DD and DGD's pain. we would all rather take that pain ourselves, a million times over, than see our beloved DC and DGC suffer so.

As many have said here, your love and support will help them to get through this.

I hope that time helps to gently heal the pain for you all. Sending hugs (((xxx)))

kate Nick Robinson discussing the issue of things going wrong with Dame Julie Mellor, and what relatives can do, on the Today Programme Radio 4 about 8.35 today. It might help you.
I can only add my sympathy to what others have written.

Just be there, and be strong, for your DD, as I'm sure you are Katy

Perhaps you can take a bit of comfort from the fact that by exposing such bad practice you might improve care and save others going through what you've all had to suffer.

Dd off to see solicitor on Friday to discuss her options. She's asked me to go with her and, in preparation, I've had to read the reports which was very hard indeed. It doesn't get any easier.

(((Hugs))) Katek, thinking of you x

Katek I've only just caught up with this thread. I am so sorry for what your poor DD has been through and feel for you in your support of her. I hope that later it will help her to know that she has done everything to expose this negligence.

So hard for you all Katek. Thinking of you and your grieving DD

To lose a loved one through negligence is just hell on earth I know that from personal experience. I lost my lovely mother when I was a young woman because of it and just met with brick walls from the medical profession. After the inquest I had to put all my feelings in a box and hide it in order to bring my very young children up. I find I cannot think of it, the pain is still too much. Not a solution at all I suppose, but I didn't want to be be bitter and involve the children in my hurt, so that is what I did. Talking is meant to help but I find it takes me back to those feelings and I cannot cope with them. Thinking of you all, but the hugs won't be wasted Katek she needs all the strength to get through it, having you there will make all the difference.

Sorry to hear about your Mum luckylegs - how painful it must be to know that it was avoidable. I cannot imagine how you and Katek's DD can with this. How very sad.