My heart is breaking for my child.

How sad and hard for you all. But perhaps it is good that the grieving process is finally brought up to the surface- and she will be then better able to somehow move on. I would not hesitate to ask GP for help from grieving counsellors for DD but also for the children. I remember seeing the amazing job they do to help out, on Children in need- there is probably someone near you.

watching your own child suffer is so very painful. I wish you strength over the next few weeks as you support her and her family.

Peerhaps they can help:

www.mariecurie.org.uk/help/bereaved-family-friends/dealing-grief/bereavement-or-grief-counselling

It must be terribly distressing to know that a death might have been avoided but for sub-standard care. But I think it is probably even worse to have lingering doubts that are never pursued.

Of course, nothing can compensate for the loss of a beloved husband and father but she is a young woman with a child and no partner with whom to share emotional, practical and financial challenges. I hope that pursuing this through the legal system will ensure that at least any financial difficulties can be alleviated.

I hope she can get some emotional support during this difficult time and that this terrible loss will one day become more bearable. Good luck and best wishes to you all.

Katek Hugs are really important so keep doing it and don't stop talking about your SIL to your DD and DGD because sometimes it is so much more painful when no one talks about him any more.
I hope you will all take all offers of available support.

Katek

No words Katek [hugs]

I haven`t anything to say that hasn`t already been said, KateK, but I really do feel for you, your daughter and your granddaughter.

Very sad. The only very small compensation might be that she might have prevented this happening to someone else and she should feel very proud that she sort the truth.

I would like to add to all the wonderful messages of love and support that are coming to you all. Lots of hugs for DD and GD and keep SIL in the front of their minds as often as possible. Your daughter is right to find out the truth and may help others with her persistence. It is such a sad time for you all but stay strong and you will get through it.

Katek - that is so sad and it is very hard to watch your child have to grieve again for what should have been. ?

because I can think of no words.

A long time ago I expressed concern that a very close friend had asked me to accompany her to a situation that was very painful for her but had not wanted me to come into the house with her. I was told then that 'you cannot protect people from their own pain'. It has proved very good advice over the years and I have had the privilege of witnessing the cathartic effect that a 'meltdown' can have whilst waiting in the wings to give that hug so many recommend. It is so much harder to bear when that person going though it is your own child I know from experience. Granjura is right to suggest help via the GP for your child and her family. I have seen such help prove very effective too.

As my mum used to see "This too will pass". When my husband was very ill years ago these words seemed of limited comfort at the time because I did not want him to be someone I'd loved and lost, but remembering them enabled me to sob as I cleaned the house and had a healing effect.

katek

So painful for you as her mother, and for her as mother of her little girl.
I hope the investigation is cleared up quickly and you can all start living again.

katek

Thank you all once more for your kind and supportive messages. They mean a lot. It's been a strange weekend-have had to be 'up' delivering 100% for panto but my heart/head were distracted. Panto now finished and we're all tidied up so planning a quiet evening in my jammies with a takeaway. We will see what tomorrow brings.

I do hope you can have a restful evening Katek and wake tomorrow feeling a bit restored x

Biggest hugs,Katek

katek no words to add. Just hugs and to you all.

So sorry for your sadness, Katek, but your family have you and that must help. You will all get through this.

KateK and best wishes to both you and your daughter as you work your way through this difficult time.

Katek, I am deeply sorry for you and for your dd dgd. It is in our dna to want to protect and help our children and I am sure that, just by being there, you are more help to your dd than you could know. I am sure she is right in wanting to get to the bottom of this tragedy. I wish you all the very best.