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17 year old who refused to go home

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Alea Fri 04-Sept-15 21:27:35

This actually amused me, did you all read about the British parents arrested for leaving son, 17, behind in a Mallorca hotel?
www.thinkspain.com/.../british-parents-arrested-for-leaving-son-17-behind-...

Well, what do you think?
Do you feel sorry for this abandoned "child" or did you imagine a recalcitrant and sulky Kevin who CBA to get out of bed and go home at the end of the holiday?
I imagined the scene like this,
His parents are bluffing "OK then, we'll go without you then"
"Whatever!"

trisher Sat 05-Sept-15 09:23:23

Think I would have taken all his electronic toys (i-phone, kindle- whatever) and threatened to drop them one at a time in the swimming pool if he didn't get up. Whatever will life be like at home now?

annodomini Sat 05-Sept-15 09:48:20

The parents must have been confident that the boy would find the rep whom they had probably briefed already - on the airport bus - about the situation. Reps handle awkward customers - and their children - all the time.

jinglbellsfrocks Sat 05-Sept-15 09:52:09

I want to know what was so wrong with his home life that he didn't want to return to it.

Some repoorts mention mental health issues.

trisher Sat 05-Sept-15 09:54:45

I wondered about a rep. I remember sitting on a bus waiting for a couple who had forgotten/overslept anyway they weren't at the meeting point and the rep went off to find them and bang on their door. Wondered if this family were travelling independently-if not didn't the holiday company have an obligation to make sure he was looked after? After all 17 year olds go on holiday by themselves don't they?

felice Sat 05-Sept-15 09:55:50

This 'child' is old enough in UK law to marry and have his own children, therefore surely old enough to take responsibility for his actions, he is a young man not a child, he would not even be classed as an unaccompanied minor on the major airlines.
DS1 and 2 regularily travelled with DD 7 years younger than them, they were classed as responsible adults.
If the young man had committed a crime he would be old enough to be tried in an adult court, somewhere a line has to be drawn, the government decides how you bring up your children or you do.
Two DDs of friends have just returned from a trip to Mongolia to vist family friends, they are 15 and 17 and travelled quite happily by themselves.
When DD visited friends in Morroco at 15 Morrocan airlines classed her as an adult.

harrigran Sat 05-Sept-15 11:07:18

I put DC on the plane at Heathrow, and sent them off to Germany, when they were 16 and 14. DD had travelled at 13 from Germany via Schipol. How mature your DC are depends on the way you bring them up. I raised my children to be independent and allowed then to travel to school, in the next city, from 11 years old.

nightowl Sat 05-Sept-15 11:42:09

Mental health issues do put a different slant on things jingl. I suppose we just have to accept that we don't, and can't know the whole story so we can't really comment on what happened. I'm still not sure that criminalising the parents will help anyone, or do anything to heal family tensions.