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Anne58 Fri 25-Apr-14 19:38:36

On Monday, at about 5am Mr P will be sallying forth to Hampshire to start a new contract, so we are back to him living away during the week, home at weekends.

With both of us back in the land of the employed it should mean that we will be able to get back on track financially, but I will miss him. sad

Plus (and here's the worst bit!) He will be wearing shirts! Which in turn means that when he gets home on Friday evenings, I will have to wash, dry and (forgive my using this dreadful word, ladies) IRON shock them by Sunday evening ready for the early start again on Monday morning.

Grannyknot Fri 25-Apr-14 19:41:02

Drip dry?

POGS Fri 25-Apr-14 19:46:00

Phoenix.

You got us all worried there, phew, I thought he really was leaving you.

You'll do his shirts 'cause you love him', aah.

Good luck to you both.

Anne58 Fri 25-Apr-14 19:47:03

That made me think of those awful Bri Nylon things Grannyknot grin

Morrisons do a shirt laundering service, 5 shirts for £5, but although we have one in Bideford, my working hours would make it a bit awkward. Plus it would seem like wanton extravagance.

I did suggest to "himself" that he looked to see if there was a branch he might pass on the way home, drop them off, then pick them up all done on the way back! Didn't get a very positive response confused !

Lona Fri 25-Apr-14 19:51:48

phoenix
"Plus (and here's the worst bit!) He will be wearing shirts! Which in turn means that when he gets home on Friday evenings, I will have to wash, dry and (forgive my using this dreadful word, ladies) IRON shock them by Sunday evening ready for the early start again on Monday morning."

Sorry, has Mr P lost the use of his hands? You are both working so let him do some laundry for himself!

Atqui Fri 25-Apr-14 19:52:12

My son in law irons one for himself every day!!!! I think the younger generation do wink

Ana Fri 25-Apr-14 19:56:24

Even my ex ironed his own shirts!

petallus Fri 25-Apr-14 19:57:48

My grandson irons a shirt every morning and he leaves the house by 7.10.

Gagagran Fri 25-Apr-14 20:02:04

I once gained huge kudos with my DS and his 2 housemates by ironing 17 shirts for them after we'd been on a weekend visit and found said shirts washed and dry but very creased, hanging in their kitchen. The problem for me was their iron, which would not get properly hot and therefore would not steam. It was a nightmare but I still relish the gratitude of those lovely boys! My feat was even mentioned by one of them, acting as DS's Best Man, at his wedding! wink

Anne58 Fri 25-Apr-14 20:02:31

Lona not at all, in fact he has spent a fair bit of time this week cooking and freezing meals in suitable quantities for one, i.e. ME ! He's a damn good chap. He brings me a cup of tea each morning and more often than not sorts out my lunch, either making sandwiches or bunging stuff into containers so that I can microwave it at work.

The drive home each Friday will probably take him around 4 hours, depending on traffic, he will be leaving early on the Monday, so I'm hardly likely to make him do his own laundry, besides it wouldn't be exactly cost effective.

Perhaps you missed or misunderstood the bit about living away during the week? He will be living in a B&B, no access to a washing machine unless he goes to a launderette, which seem to be a rare thing these days!

Nonu Fri 25-Apr-14 20:11:23

PHO
XX"s to you & Mr PHO

Ana Fri 25-Apr-14 20:14:38

Well, one of you will have to do the ironing, phoenix - not sure what you want us to say! smile

tiggypiro Fri 25-Apr-14 20:22:00

I was going to suggest that you tell him that 'necessity is the mother of invention' but after reading how wonderful he seems to be in other ways I think you had better just get on with the ironing !
I am so pleased you are both back in employment and hope everything works out well for you.

Anne58 Fri 25-Apr-14 20:26:22

Thanks Nonu

Ana not really sure I want anyone to say anything, really!

In many ways I think I have the better end of it, at least I will be in my own home, can do as I want, when I want (outside of working hours, obviously) whereas being stuck in a B&B with bedroom and (hopefully) ensuite bathroom would drive me mad.

It's the little things really, if I decide I want a bowl of cereal or some cheese and biscuits at 8pm, I can have them. If you are staying away, you can't. You have a room, no fridge, no store of comestibles in the cupboard etc.

Atqui Fri 25-Apr-14 20:26:51

Most of us would do the same Phoenix.hope it works out well.

glassortwo Fri 25-Apr-14 20:27:59

Congratulations to MrP told you this was going to be your year smile I wash DH shirts then put them straight on a hanger to dry and they iron really easy.

Ana Fri 25-Apr-14 20:28:40

So really, we should be sympathising with DH, not you! grin

aggie Fri 25-Apr-14 20:33:38

10 shirts , leave dirty ones to be washed when possible and 5 to be taken with him , result no waste of precious time together at weekends

Lona Fri 25-Apr-14 20:35:50

In those circumstances phoenix, I think you should wash and iron his shirts, and make him as happy as possible in the time available! smile

glassortwo Fri 25-Apr-14 20:35:59

Perfect solution aggie smile Give you something to do mid week and keep you out of mischief phoenix wink

JoyBloggs Fri 25-Apr-14 20:36:25

I can see that Mr P definitely deserves to have his laundry done for him! Just a thought... but maybe eventually you could have two 'sets' of shirts so that Mr P brought a used set home on a Friday night and swapped them for the pristine set you had prepared earlier? This way you would not waste your precious weekend time together loading and unloading the washing machine and dashing away with the smoothing iron... Investing in 5 extra shirts isn't exactly a fun way to spend money but it would mean more weekend leisure time, less stress getting the laundry turned round for Monday morning and (eventually) probably be more cost-effective than using Morrison's. But maybe you are understandably too busy or too tired in the week, in which case please forgive my silly idea!

JoyBloggs Fri 25-Apr-14 20:40:35

aggie I promise I didn't nick your idea... I'm just a bit slow typing and hadn't seen your post blush

yogagran Fri 25-Apr-14 21:04:33

My DH has a wardrobe crammed full of shirts and he only wears a few favourite ones. Shame I can't pass some on to you phoenix

annodomini Fri 25-Apr-14 21:44:03

What a great partnership, phoenix. Fair division of labour!

Mishap Fri 25-Apr-14 21:57:06

Some strong deodorant and make do on two shirts a week?! Mitchum is good - lasts for days.

Sorry that he is having to work away and live that horrid life of B&Bs during the week - but the weekends will be all the more precious.