Should I interfere with son's relationship

grandtante of course you help family if asked that’s not what this thread is about it’s about sorting a son out who hasn’t asked to be sorted out Two VERY different scenarios
I think you ve misread the point completely

Agree with others NO NO NO

Leave him alone he's a man he doesn't need Mummy interfering

It is difficult to watch your adult children mess up! But I do agree with everyone here that says don't interfere. If the relationship ends and he asks you what you think then you can tell him!

This woman may not want or need to be "treated or taken out" we dont all want the same things.I much prefer buying things for myself than having other peoples taste in gifts etc given to me and I'm much too polite to say I dont like that.I generally tell family and friends no presents please if you want to give to me give to a charity instead.Your sons partner may be the same but surely thats their decision and no one else's she may be a homebird and prefer staying in.....would you want to be dragged out to places or events when you'd rather stay home .
Be thankful she's not high maintenance or after his money and let them live their lives their way

Maybe think about how your son might be feeling after a bad experience he might not be ready for anything more than that sort of relationship. If the girl is also taking time out from serious dating she might be put off if she sees it as he is trying to push things
Even if he asks you what you think you need to be so careful, listen to him reflectively to help him make his own mind up.

Not everyone has the same wants and needs in a relationship. Myself, I’m happiest NOT going out. Others would suffocate.

All the more reason to MYOB.

i think there have been a few wind-up merchants on these boards recently.

The subject of your post is all one needs to read. As long as no one is endangered, the answer to this question is always going to be no.

He may have to experience the pain of growing wiser. He is an adult. Let him find his own path without interfering.

They may well split up but if so it is their business, not yours.