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Cabbie21 Mon 17-Aug-26 11:03:10

Yesterday I met my grandson’s girlfriend. A nice girl, with interesting things to say, but every sentence was peppered with “ I’m like”.
She is a highly intelligent girl, who did exceptionally well well in her GCSEs last year, now about to enter Year 13. Grandson has just completed his A levels with high grades.
Why can’t she speak properly?
Similarly, one of our successful GB athletes, in a tv interview, peppered every sentence with several “I’m like”….I thought she was perhaps a bear of very little brain, but that is not true of my grandson's girlfriend.
Maybe I should have put this in pedants’ corner, but I don’t think I am being pedantic. Just old fashioned??

Magenta8 Mon 17-Aug-26 11:21:40

Verbal ticks are very annoying and also very difficult to eradicate. Often they become worse when you are in a stressful situation like meeting your boyfriend's grandparent.

I know someone in their 70s, who incidentally has an MA from Oxford, who litters their conversation with "sort of" so I don't think it is a sign of lack of intelligence nor is it a generational thing.

Focus on the fact that she is a nice girl and she has interesting things to say.

AGAA4 Mon 17-Aug-26 11:41:25

This could just be nervousness and will disappear or lessen as you get to know her.
Just try to ignore it but I know it can be irritating.

Mazgg Mon 17-Aug-26 12:08:20

I find it mildly irritating when someone I know says "d'you know what I mean" after every sentence without waiting for an answer before carrying on with her tale.

Mollygo Mon 17-Aug-26 12:11:09

It’s like the so and well that pepper conversations. A friend used to start everything with I have to say . . .
If she’s pleasant, polite and friendly, try not to let it bother you.

Cossy Mon 17-Aug-26 12:11:59

I loathe this widely used expression. My two DD sometimes do it.

I’ll ask them a question, eg what would you like for dinner, and their reply will be
“Like, toad in the hole”, my standard response is always, “ Like toad-in-the hole, or actual toad-in-the-hole”.

Drives them mad, but they get the point.

JenniferEccles Mon 17-Aug-26 12:25:18

It’s such an annoying habit which has become so widespread.
Where did it come from? It’s certainly been around for some years as I have sometimes heard people in their thirties say it.

Maybe the answer is for parents of very young children to nip it in the bud as soon as their children picks it up. That’s the best time to break them of the habit before it becomes part of their normal speech.

It mostly seems to be girls but not exclusively.

Marg75 Mon 17-Aug-26 12:34:50

It comes from the States I think, many of the American 'stars' use it.

crazyH Mon 17-Aug-26 12:39:19

I don’t think I’ve noticed it ….

nanna8 Mon 17-Aug-26 12:42:00

It isn’t used here but we have plenty of other daft phrases. Poor girl was probably nervous, though, meeting someone older for the first time.

JenniferEccles Mon 17-Aug-26 12:59:51

It didn’t originate in Australia then nanna8 !
You would definitely have noticed it by now.

Cabbie21 Mon 17-Aug-26 13:23:42

I don’t think she was nervous as it was a very informal occasion and she seemed very relaxed and confident when speaking to us all.
I recently met some people from Tasmania and they say it is used there, nanna8.

sharon103 Mon 17-Aug-26 13:26:32

It seriously grates on my nerves.

Georgesgran Mon 17-Aug-26 13:34:02

It’s very common, definitely an import from the USA - just a filler word (as is just) and I think for the younger generation it’s the same as ‘urm’ or ‘err’ are for others, although not so annoying.
There’s an episode of Judge Judy where she asks a young man to refrain from using like and he actually cannot construct a sentence, despite several attempts.

Cossy Mon 17-Aug-26 13:42:45

Georgesgran

It’s very common, definitely an import from the USA - just a filler word (as is just) and I think for the younger generation it’s the same as ‘urm’ or ‘err’ are for others, although not so annoying.
There’s an episode of Judge Judy where she asks a young man to refrain from using like and he actually cannot construct a sentence, despite several attempts.

It’s definitely an Americanism.

I’m a bit sad as I love Judge Judy 🤣🤣🤣

Smileless2012 Mon 17-Aug-26 13:45:17

Nice one Cossy grin.

Gingster Mon 17-Aug-26 13:45:41

Yes you hear it all the time cabbie.
On TV , and listening to youngsters chatting. It’s not just once or twice , it’s after every sentence.

Hithere Mon 17-Aug-26 14:21:43

She is smart

Your gs seems to be happy with her, she is a nice conversationalist, good student

Please do not get hang on such a little detail about her.
It is petty.

She speaks properly, just not to your liking

Making a mountain out of a molehill

Samsara1 Mon 17-Aug-26 14:24:28

My lovely nail lady and beautician says it all the time. I like her too much to move on the next one.

Labradora Mon 17-Aug-26 14:58:08

Cossy

I loathe this widely used expression. My two DD sometimes do it.

I’ll ask them a question, eg what would you like for dinner, and their reply will be
“Like, toad in the hole”, my standard response is always, “ Like toad-in-the hole, or actual toad-in-the-hole”.

Drives them mad, but they get the point.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Gran22boys Mon 17-Aug-26 15:00:44

My cousin often start a sentence with “I’m not being rude but….” Thing is, he isn’t being rude. It irritates me.

Doodledog Mon 17-Aug-26 15:09:08

What do her GCSE results (and more particularly your grandson’s A level grades) have to do with it?

It’s a fashion - a bit like calling university ‘uni’ or phrases such as ‘why oh why’. The former is still in vogue, but will die out (sooner, rather than later, I hope) whilst the latter is only used by older people, as it’s no longer in fashion.

We don’t hear as many people ‘turning round and saying’ things as we used to, and ‘at the end of the day’ seems to have had its moment, too.

Nothing to do with grades - just trends.

crazyH Mon 17-Aug-26 15:13:48

Why are you sad Cossy ? has something happened to Judge Judy ?

TerriBull Mon 17-Aug-26 15:17:40

The younger members of our family, if out in a restaurant or coffee shop are of the "can I get?" brigade. If only the riposte could be "I dunno?" but it never is, plus when asking "how are you?" the response is invaribly "I'm good" not asking about behaviour I suppose every generation has their own patter. I don't think we were not so exposed to American talk. I blame Friends. It seems only a short while ago when we watched, then our children, now the grandchildrenshock

Anyone remember the Australian inflection at the end of the sentence that also took hold?. grin

Flippin2 Mon 17-Aug-26 17:46:10

Bless her,it may well irritate you and she may well not realise that she says it so much but it's more your issue than hers..