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Biscuitmuncher Tue 26-May-26 19:07:29

I'm a cleaner/helper for a disabled lady. I love it, it's a really nice job she's great company and we have a laugh. But, I run quite warm even in the winter I don't get cold. This week is a killer and she won't let me open the door or windows! I thought I was going to pass out today! What do I do?

Cabbie21 Tue 26-May-26 19:12:32

But isn’t that the advice - to keep the heat out?

MT62 Tue 26-May-26 19:18:34

The room you are working in open the window, or does she follow you around?
Tell her you are nearly passing out with heat.
Some old folk still have their heating on 🥵

Biscuitmuncher Tue 26-May-26 19:36:13

Cabbie21 but she has glass doors, it's like a greenhouse

Cabbie21 Tue 26-May-26 19:57:51

Ah yes, it will be. I am sorry for you. Can you not open a window when you are cleaning the rooms where the lady is not?

keepingquiet Tue 26-May-26 20:10:10

I would respect her space and leave things as they are. I suffer from hay fever so my windows have been shut since May.

Rosie51 Tue 26-May-26 20:18:53

keepingquiet

I would respect her space and leave things as they are. I suffer from hay fever so my windows have been shut since May.

All well and good but if Biscuitmuncher does pass out from the heat that's no good for either of them. Does the lady suffer from hay fever, that might not be the issue.

Ilovecheese Tue 26-May-26 20:24:08

Could you take a little plug in fan with you.

PaperMonster2 Tue 26-May-26 20:28:16

Wet wrung out towel around your neck or a neck fan.

Cossy Tue 26-May-26 20:32:52

I feel for you, I’m rarely cold and am dying in this heat!

Cossy Tue 26-May-26 20:33:29

PS I meant to suggest you take you own light handheld fan and frozen bottle/s of water

Biscuitmuncher Tue 26-May-26 23:19:29

Rosie51 thank you. I nearly had to leave today, it was unbearable

Rosie51 Tue 26-May-26 23:24:34

At least it's forecast to be cooler tomorrow. You might have to tell her you'll be unable to visit any time the temperature rises too high as it's impacting your health.

MT62 Wed 27-May-26 00:07:36

Next heatwave, I would make some excuse not to go if it’s that unbearable.

Macaydia Wed 27-May-26 04:39:58

I had the same issue caring for someone. I always sipped on ice water because it was truly unbearable fir me.

Now, they sell fans that look like mini headphones that you wear around your neck and the air blows in your face. I also have a snap-for cold cooling scarf and a cooling hat. You soak them wet and then snap it in the air and it will feel like you are wearung ice for an hour. As it warms, you can snap it again and it will get cold again. A summer necessity.

Esmay Wed 27-May-26 07:10:55

I used to have the same problem with my father .
As people age they feel cold on a hot day.
The small house was absolutely stifling hot -so bad that I've known my kids retreat into a shady part of the garden where I set up sheets on clothes airers to make a tent and a padding pool.

In the end I said wrap up Dad I really can't clean in this heat with no ventilation .

He had some very unpleasant memories of my having heat stroke .

Don't underestimate the effect of heat on your health.
I had heat stroke last year .
And this year -I'm smothered in itchy heat rashes .

Barbadosbelle Wed 27-May-26 13:42:27

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It still is May!!
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Norah Wed 27-May-26 13:49:26

Amazon sell neck cooling towels. Work well for gardening, might help.

sharon103 Wed 27-May-26 13:56:00

Rosie51

At least it's forecast to be cooler tomorrow. You might have to tell her you'll be unable to visit any time the temperature rises too high as it's impacting your health.

Yes I agree with this. Explain to her that the really hot weather makes you nearly pass out. Don't struggle on and make yourself ill.
I've done nothing these last two days.
It's going to be a lot cooler next week thank goodness.

barbaraellen Wed 27-May-26 14:13:34

Try closing the curtains/ blinds in rooms before you clean to block the bright sunshine and reduce the heat. Mine are closed on the sunny side of the house.

Missiseff Wed 27-May-26 14:15:56

Buy a neck fan

Nell82 Wed 27-May-26 14:36:03

I sometimes wet my hair if it gets too bad. It's not a good look but helps a bit. So does making a conscious effort to move more slowly.

Mollygo Wed 27-May-26 14:44:46

I feel for you Biscuitmuncher
I put off doing some work on hot days because doing anything energetic is too much. You’re doing it as a job, so not really an option.

At aquafit, the coach had a neck fan mentioned by a couple of posters. She said it made life in the humidity round the pool bearable.
I have one on order and a fan might help you.
Hope you find a solution before you get ill.

DeeAitch56 Wed 27-May-26 15:24:12

You can purchase neck / shoulder fans like these, my husband swears by his (not this brand but similar)
www.coopersofstortford.co.uk/bladeless-neck-fan-white

AuntieE Wed 27-May-26 17:48:39

A house should be aired daily, but of course a lot of older people never do so. I suggest you ask her nicely if she would allow you to open a window in the room you are cleaning, keeping the door shut to the rest of the house or flat.

If she refuses to allow this, tell her politely that you are unable to work in a closed room in this heat, so you will go home, and come back once the hot spell is over.