Pityfishing

I am the complete opposite.

Any trouble I am in - of any kind- I keep almost entirely to myself, unless I am in real need of help.

I am like that over medical, emotional, or financial (never happened so far) trouble.

There are those who love the pity, sympathy and attention of both friends and strangers and go large where they can.
There are those who love doling out the pity, sympathy and attention too, you’re right.
The middle way is to ask for help from others where you really need it, and for those who hand out the sympathy not to roll around in it.
I believe from what I have read on SM that it’s a perfect place to spin any old sob story for attention and some revel in it.
None of us like being taken for mugs so it’s a fine balance in replying to it.

I love the “roll around in it”😬

I’ve usually thought “feed off it” but I like roll around better.

Like a dog in a cow pat and just as noisome!

Perhaps because I like to lick my wounds in private like wwm2

Another new word!
Catfishing, ghosting, gaslighting, sealioning, now pityfishing.
Not sure I understand half of them.

Like WW I try to keep problems to myself. I think that goes back to childhood days when we were told not to air your laundry in public.

I don't like sympathy, it make me feel uncomfortable .
Pity is even worse
I rarely offer sympathy either.
preferring to offer practical help .
I am proactive when comes to sorting personal issue.
One can show empathy and understanding without pity.

I think they enjoy ‘covering themselves in glory’ 😁* Lathyrus*

Words often come to nothing, I've found & it's true, actions speak louder than words.
Yet I know I have been guilty of whining\moaning unnecessarily & offering insincere condolences & platitudes to people who are simply acquaintances. I'm shallow & sadly I know it! 🤔

Drains and radiators is an expression I heard on here.

Some people drain you of all your sympathy and energy, others radiate warmth and positivity.

Let's just stick with the good old fashioned term of attention seeker 😂

I quite like that term, drains and radiators. It is nice to just be yourself.

My term for one who likes to dole out pity is a pity monger or a foul weather friend.

I have known people who love to indulge in schadenfreude and only want to be friendly when you are down on your luck and who get jealous of any successes or good luck you may have.

I know some one like that, never heard of schadenfreude, mom used to call them Job’s comforter but never knew what it meant,

I think schadenfreude is a German word that means taking delight in the misfortunes of others.

I’ve never heard the expression and don’t really recognise the concept.
I always think that if another person is down on their luck the kindest thing is to appear to know nothing about it.
More common is what I think is called ambulance chasing - over-solicitous inquiries masked as Is there anything I can do, esp when of course there isn’t.

Just living the life I’ve been given as best as I can 😎

I have never heard the term before. I tend to keep quiet about problems and illnesses which is not always the best thing. I can’t stand the thought of people pitying me, yuck. There’s always someone worse off, as my mum and dad used to say. I have come across some who like to verbalise their problems, fair enough. We’re all different.

Some of these "new" words are simply existing words shortened or adapted - presumably by people on chat forums who cannot spell or understand the original

Judgy - judgemental

Grabby - greedy

Spendy - expensive

Oooh not sure regarding “grabby” friendlygingercat.
I used that to describe kids from healthy eating/sugar hating/tap water only homes that “came round to play” when mine were little and would devour all the *bad stuff on offer like there was no tomorrow😏

But otherwise agree and think that most of these shorthand descriptions are born of social media where things must be done quick.

My family use the term ‘playing Lady Bountiful’ to describe someone who arrives dripping in sympathy, maybe gives out gifts (which may or may not be useful or appropriate) and then wafts away again.
It originated for us when a cousin arrived when our cooker had broken. She arrived with a large display bunch of hothouse flowers and stayed for ages listing the different salads we could make - it was November. We later heard from an aunt how pleased she was that said cousin had been able to help!

Oreo

There are those who love the pity, sympathy and attention of both friends and strangers and go large where they can.
There are those who love doling out the pity, sympathy and attention too, you’re right.
The middle way is to ask for help from others where you really need it, and for those who hand out the sympathy not to roll around in it.
I believe from what I have read on SM that it’s a perfect place to spin any old sob story for attention and some revel in it.
None of us like being taken for mugs so it’s a fine balance in replying to it.

I agree with you and also keep my issues to myself. Sometimes I find it strange that those who illicit much sympathy from others, then later often are unkind to those who have helped them.

Not actually heard of this but some people love being in “ victim mode” sometimes they don’t actually want to try and make their situation better being a victim gives them positive attention which they like . It can become a habit

Blossoming

Just living the life I’ve been given as best as I can 😎

As we all should Blossoming. Yet it's easier said than done!
I think mental health\good health plays a big role in self-contentment & being happy. Plus, being content within one's own skin is essential. Plus, never comparing oneself with anyone else.😶

I love term pityfishing. Never heard it before however most appropriate for some people and I find it a loathsome habit in some.