It is a year since DH died. I have been thinking this morning how grateful I am to gransnet for helping to get me through this last year. Thank you for your posts which have made me laugh, made me cry and made me think. They have kept me connected to the outside world at a time when all I wanted to do was hibernate. Particular thanks to Mick for the Good Morning thread. I initially found waking up alone very difficult and being able to read those posts made me feel that other people were there, that I was not totally alone. Thank you also especially to Anno who met me on a day when I was completely frantic with househunting and had coffee with me which was a very calming influence. Thanks also to all of you who sent private messages and posts immediately after DH died. Some family and friends have been wonderful others have vanished completely from my life. The vanishers are not the people I would have expected to take that role . Also unexpected is that new friends have come into my life.
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Well done on getting through that first year
It's very true that after a bereavement you find out who your real friends are, and some people surprise you. Good to hear too you've made new friends.
Sewsilver Gransnet is such a comfort when we feel the need for that arm round the shoulder, isn't it? Be nice to yourself today - you've done so much in this last year, making practical arrangements for the future and downsizing from your big home. Hoping to see you again at our forthcoming north-west meetup. 
I hope this is a stage when you can enjoy having real friends around you now Sewsilver
sewsilver, thank goodness for gransnet. All good wishes for the coming year
I echo what bags said!
sewsilver you've made great strides and faced all your troubles bravely. I know what you mean about 'vanishers" I have had 4 recent bereavements. Two of very close much loved and greatly missed relatives. What has upset me most is the people whom I've supported for many many years completely abandoned me,or at least that's how it's felt. It made a painful situation even more painful. I think maybe we need another thread for just this topic. I'm glad that new friends have helped you through this difficult year. I hope you continue to move forward and share your ups and downs with us here.
sewsilver I do hope life is settling down for you now. You made me realise how this site can be more than just fun but provide real support and help. Best wishes
sewsilver, it doesn't seem a year and I know how much you have accomplished in that short time. You are such a courageous and, in spite of everything, life-affirming person - it's always a pleasure to meet up with you and we must do it again sometime soon.
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sewsilver Wishing you all the best, and hope you have some good times with your new friends in the coming year.
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I echo what has been said already
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That has made me appreciate my own DH even more, because today it is his birthday.
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I cannot believe it is a year Sewsilver. Look forward to seeing you at the NW .meet up
sewsilver what a touching post. I never thought that Mick's good morning could have such a powerful impact. I hope he reads this to you and thank you Gransnet indeed.
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