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Suzieque66 Thu 18-Jun-26 09:02:41

My Daughter swears at her daughter , using the F word ...and now her daughter swears back at her ! Daughter thinks its funny / normal .. What !!!!

silverlining48 Thu 18-Jun-26 09:39:39

Would your daughter think it funny if her daughter swore in public ?
As a social worker I remember a young mum telling me her 18 month old was out of control as she was f ing snd blinding in Asda.
I asked where her child had heard that language snd mum confirmed it was her.
I felt so very sorry for the child who had a mum who had written her off by innocently repeating what she had learned from her mother.

AGAA4 Thu 18-Jun-26 09:56:55

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

twiglet77 Thu 18-Jun-26 10:07:55

My eldest DD is very sweary. I’ve winced and often berated her for swearing in front of DGS. Her response is that he knows he’s not to use adult words.

Once when he was at my house a recessed lightbulb exploded and fell onto the kitchen floor with its housing, leaving wires dangling through the ceiling. DGS was about 5. He looked at the mess in horror and said, “I think my mummy would have said an adult word”.

My kids were in their 30s before they ever heard me curse, but primary school children seem to have the F word as a normal part of their vocabulary now.

Esmay Thu 18-Jun-26 10:20:18

In some families using the f word is entirely normal ;

It is with my neighbours .
The mother complains about her daughter being aggressive ,loud mouthed and swearing - exactly what she's taught her to do .

Walking up the High Street - I heard a mother calling her toddler a f-----g little
c--t .
People stopped and stared .

The mother's friends looked uncomfortable and told her stop.

She continued ...

I often think of that little girl and the terrible start that's she's had in life .

V3ra Thu 18-Jun-26 11:23:47

DGS was about 5. He looked at the mess in horror and said, “I think my mummy would have said an adult word”.

Priceless! 🤣
What a little sweetheart 🥰

butterandjam Thu 18-Jun-26 11:47:51

Suzieque66

My Daughter swears at her daughter , using the F word ...and now her daughter swears back at her ! Daughter thinks its funny / normal .. What !!!!

"How to blight your child 's future".

Just wait until the child addresses her teacher that way. Or her little friends at nursery.

MT62 Thu 18-Jun-26 11:54:08

No parents should be nipping that in the bud soon as it starts.
Then again some parents talk that routinely in front of their kids.

butterandjam Thu 18-Jun-26 11:56:15

AGAA4

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

Changed days.

1970; at work the morning staffroom was agog that someone had graffiti'd the f word on the playground wall. The caretaker had not been able to obliterate it before the children saw it.

Elderly spinster colleague asked what the word meant. She'd never heard of it.

She was not joking.

Fallingstar Thu 18-Jun-26 12:08:44

Am afraid some use the F word in innocuous conversations, not as a swear word at all. It just peppers their everyday vocabulary. Cannot understand it.
I can’t remember hearing it at all growing up and very rarely as a young adult. ‘Bloody hell’ was as far as my old dad would go and he’d get told off by my mum who I can safely say never swore. Her go-to phrase if she was harassed would be ‘oh my giddy aunt!’
I think it is just so widely used today that the younger generation use it without batting an eye. But it is still a form of verbal abuse when levelled at someone else in anger and should never be used around children.

Witzend Thu 18-Jun-26 12:09:32

butterandjam

AGAA4

Your daughter is making life difficult for her daughter. The child won't understand when she is at school why her words aren't acceptable.

Changed days.

1970; at work the morning staffroom was agog that someone had graffiti'd the f word on the playground wall. The caretaker had not been able to obliterate it before the children saw it.

Elderly spinster colleague asked what the word meant. She'd never heard of it.

She was not joking.

Goodness, when was that?
I didn’t hear the word until I was 11, and that was in the very early 60s, from a schoolfriend at a nice, all-girls grammar school!

At around the same time someone else told me what it meant. It was a relief to me to find out, since when a bit younger I’d been very puzzled as to why a neighbour’s son was the absolute spit of his dad. How could that be, when the baby grew inside its mother?

I asked my mother, but she wouldn’t tell me! Presumably far too embarrassed.

Grandma70s Thu 18-Jun-26 12:11:44

The first time I was aware of the word was when I read Lady Chatterley at 19 or so. I’d never heard anyone use it, and couldn’t really see why it was so shocking. Who decides which words are swear words?

I had civilised parents who didn’t swear, and went to an all-girls private school from the age of seven. I don’t remember hearing anyone swear at university, either

Bellanonna Thu 18-Jun-26 12:24:04

i was in my 20s (1960s) when I first heard it and certainly didn’t hear it very often.

LadyGracie Thu 18-Jun-26 16:04:16

Our neighbours child who is 4 told the reception class teacher to f* off, I think their mother thought it was funny.
The child is often naughty, a bit of a bully who doesn’t like authority.
The last episode was the father having to collect the child mid morning one day last week.

Janal1 Thu 18-Jun-26 16:46:27

My Neighbour told me to F--- off a few months ago when her Son climbed into our garden to get his football and i said it would have been nice to have been asked first.

Gwyllt Thu 18-Jun-26 16:46:47

After attending an all girls grammar school I had a holiday job in a hospital kitchen. That was a real eye opener

ViceVersa Thu 18-Jun-26 16:49:59

I know someone whose daughter used to tell her to 'f... off' all the time, and this was from a pre-school child. She thought it was hysterically funny. Other mums were appalled.

Romola Thu 18-Jun-26 16:57:30

I always watched my language very carefully ever since struggling to put a terry nappy on 2-year-old DS (date 1973) He was a very early talker, but I was shocked when he came out with "What's the matter with the bloody pin?"

pably15 Thu 18-Jun-26 16:58:49

A neighbour swears like a trouper, her children have heard that language since they were small, now they are the same, they shout and swear at their mother, and I'm sure their children will be the same....it's dreadful,. absolutely no respect.

Harris27 Thu 18-Jun-26 16:59:51

My dil is like this I find her not off the top shelf so to speak. Her parents are the same they argue and shout at each other all the time. My son is so quiet his two other brothers often say how on earth? It’s like water of a ducks back now. I’m not a snob and can swear lime anyone else but mostly under my breath!

Fallingstar Thu 18-Jun-26 17:35:49

The F word is used now in most adult programmes and films and stand up comedians use it all the time, and I imagine some children often watch these programmes and think it is perfectly ok to use such a word regularly.
Am really not sure how this can be rectified especially when so many people don’t seem to have a problem with it.

Gingster Thu 18-Jun-26 17:44:54

It’s so horrible isn’t it to hear little children swearing. So sad.

I have 2 sons in their 50’s and a daughter close behind. I have never heard them swear. I would hate it if they did.

petra Thu 18-Jun-26 17:57:39

Kenneth Tynan, educated at Magdalen College Oxford was the first person to use the F word on television.
Princess Margaret ( who I assume had a very good upbringing) could F&blind with the best of them.
Many years ago a family friend decorated the house belonged to Sarah Miles ( actress now dead) educated at Roedean. He was embarrassed by her swearing.
I could go on but I’m sure you get my drift.

ClicketyClick Thu 18-Jun-26 19:12:05

Many moons ago, a customer was constantly using the f word. I politely asked him to stop swearing to which he replied - I'm f..g sorry. I gave up.

Fara56 Fri 19-Jun-26 13:43:53

Truly I levitated about 2 metres across the landing when I heard my teenage daughter swear at her sister. It never happened again!