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Suzieque66 Thu 18-Jun-26 09:02:41

My Daughter swears at her daughter , using the F word ...and now her daughter swears back at her ! Daughter thinks its funny / normal .. What !!!!

Frenchgalinspain Sat 20-Jun-26 12:39:41

I have heard it quite a bit especially in political circles regarding "The F--ken Pedaphile Psychopath & Gustapo Ice"..

Definitely perfect adjectives !

Though in grown up circles ..

mokryna Sat 20-Jun-26 14:53:16

My daughter, said in later years, that she was quite shocked at her first day at the British International School. She learnt that sugar, crumbs and hell did not rate highly in the swear word list.

Aely Sat 20-Jun-26 15:12:31

mokryna

My daughter, said in later years, that she was quite shocked at her first day at the British International School. She learnt that sugar, crumbs and hell did not rate highly in the swear word list.

My first boyfriend, a leather-jacketed motorcyclist, would occasionally (e.g) when a spanner slipped and he skinned his knuckles on his bike) say "shhh.. ugar!" It is in fact quite a satisfying word to say in a stressful moment. smile

He tried never to actually swear in front of a female.

Cossy Sat 20-Jun-26 16:40:14

Putting soap, shampoo or washing up liquid in anyone mouths is abuse.

Children understand and learn pretty quickly. Children hear words we wish they hadn’t in all kinds of settings, it’s quite simple to explain to small children that using these words is quite “rude” and would they please not do it. Older children can simply be asked not to do it, teenagers can also be told not to do it in front of parents/guests/grandparents or much younger children.

It’s really not hard.

misb Sat 20-Jun-26 16:40:14

I stopped all the conversation dead on the bus when I swore "this damned hood". This was in the 1940s when I was complaining about the hood on my raincoat which kept falling over my face. I think I heard it from my father. The worst swearword ever at that time. I was about 7/8 at the time.

Cossy Sat 20-Jun-26 16:41:17

Jaxjacky

Just words, it’s how they’re used that counts, I’ve heard seemingly innocuous words said with such venom it’s made me wince.

Indeed, I agree.

MissAdventure Sat 20-Jun-26 16:42:50

My dad never swore, and he asked my mum to warn my nan that she'd be banned from our home if she didn't watch her language.
Nan wasn't impressed!

Cossy Sat 20-Jun-26 16:52:30

MissAdventure

My dad never swore, and he asked my mum to warn my nan that she'd be banned from our home if she didn't watch her language.
Nan wasn't impressed!

That just made me think of the “Nan” on the Catherine Tate show and as she’d say “what a f*****g liberty” 🤣🤣

Whiff Sat 20-Jun-26 17:57:45

Cossy if that was aimed at me . I am 68 . My children knew what would happen if they swore when they where young . My parents would have been very upset if they had heard the children swear.
Unfortunately dementia killed my mom 4 months before her body and the most my mom or dad ever said was bloody. I didn't know my mom knew the swear words she came out with.

Camry1952 Sat 20-Jun-26 18:21:09

When I was an early childhood teacher there was a 3 year old girl who knew quite a few swear words. I talked to her parents about this and the mom indignantly said "3 year olds don't know those words".

Jane43 Sat 20-Jun-26 18:31:46

How shocking, my DH worked in a male dominated environment on the railway where bad language was common but in 61 years of marriage he has never sworn in front of me. Our two sons of 60 and 58 are the same, they have never sworn in front of me and neither have our three grandchildren. My parents never swore nor did my in laws and they were all from working class backgrounds.

valdali Sat 20-Jun-26 19:21:51

Fallingstar

Am afraid some use the F word in innocuous conversations, not as a swear word at all. It just peppers their everyday vocabulary. Cannot understand it.
I can’t remember hearing it at all growing up and very rarely as a young adult. ‘Bloody hell’ was as far as my old dad would go and he’d get told off by my mum who I can safely say never swore. Her go-to phrase if she was harassed would be ‘oh my giddy aunt!’
I think it is just so widely used today that the younger generation use it without batting an eye. But it is still a form of verbal abuse when levelled at someone else in anger and should never be used around children.

Maybe TV dramas that use the F-word gratuirously to be "realistic" should look at not using it as much - anything that normalises it is contributing to spreading its use & a lot of people find it offensive or agressive.

After all we can have black actors playing characters written as white (which I'm entirely happy about) in the interests of a more representative viewing experience so why can't we have things lighter on the Fword in the interests of a less corrupting viewing experience?

Doodledog Sat 20-Jun-26 20:16:46

It doesn't upset me at all. I don't like the C word, when used as an insult, as I see that as very misogynistic (the idea that a very personal part of the female anatomy is seen as the very worst thing that someone can be called) , although I know many who disagree. For me it's far worse when people say 'I never usually use that word, but in this case . . .' as that just compounds the felony.

The word that makes me roll my eyes, though, is 'sh*t'. It's used so lazily - does it mean 'poor', 'awful', 'not very good'? Can one be it, talk it, think it, look like it, or what? I dislike imprecise speech, and think that whereas f*ck means what it says, sh*t is such a loosely used word that I find it far more offensive.

MissAdventure Sat 20-Jun-26 20:32:56

My nan swore, but we didn't even give it a, second thought.
When she sung "yo ho ho and a bottle of rum.
I fell over and I hurt my bum!" we were outraged at how tude it was!

Magenta8 Sat 20-Jun-26 21:05:47

MissAdventure my usually prim, proper and pious granny use to recite:-

Not last night but the night before
Three tom cats came knocking at my door
One had a fife and one had a drum
And one had a cream cake stuck to his bum

She had a broad Lancashire accent which made it all the funnier. We used to roll around in laughter.

fancyflowers Sat 20-Jun-26 21:37:16

I watched 'East is East' recently and although I enjoyed the film I was appalled at the swearing.

MissAdventure Sat 20-Jun-26 21:37:43

grin
Good old Granny.

Macaydia Sat 20-Jun-26 22:19:34

I never heard swearing from parents but heard different phrases such as "Woe betide you!", "Hells Bells", "Clip across the ear" and "Have your guts for garters". Those are not categorized as swear words but kind of. One more from my mum was "S. H. one. T". That was a new one for my ears and had me pondering.