I've had almost exactly the same experience in my family, harrigran. DS told me about it and that his partner didn't want anyone else to know. I don't know why, but I never mentioned it to her. However, as in your DiL's case, the next pregnancy went well and my youngest GS starts school next week.
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It is very sad that you feel so depressed. Perhaps you could tell us some more about your situation and we may even be able to give you some practical advice. At the very least, we will listen with sympathy. I found so much kindness when I told my own sad story. 
sapnameghan, so sorry to hear your distress. You have come to a good place, where you will find a listening ear and support. I too went through the motions of worship when younger, but never really understood blind faith. I think we can only improve our lives through our own efforts, whether we think God is helping or not. Members of my family are at present going through a difficult time. I am exasperated when my offers of practical help are rejected because they believe that as long as they keep praying everything will be all right. If only that were the case - there would be no problems in the world!
I hope you feel brighter soon, have you seen a doctor? There is no shame in accepting help in the form of medication if it might lift you from your dark place.
Please keep posting on here, you will benefit I am sure. 
Religion can be beneficial for your mental health in several ways. It provides a sense of purpose, belonging, and comfort during challenging times. Many religious practices, such as prayer, meditation, and attending services, offer opportunities to reflect and cope with stress. Engaging with a supportive faith community can combat loneliness and foster social connections, which are crucial for mental well-being.
Additionally, the moral and ethical guidelines in many religions can help individuals develop a framework for navigating life's challenges, promoting resilience and a positive outlook. The rituals and traditions of religion often create a sense of structure, predictability, and continuity, which can be grounding.
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