A one sided conversation.

TyneAngel

I have a neighbour who, every time we meet, runs through her health problems from dandruff down to bunions, with a great deal else in between.....It's like being pinned to a wall....

😲😂

FriedGreenTomatoes2

That said, some people can just talk a glass eye to sleep.

Or the hind legs off a donkey. As my mother used to say.

I’m afraid I’m running out of patience for people like this. In another life I would like to record their ‘conversation’ and play it back to them and see it was a monologue. Someone I sat next to at a pub lunch recently talked me through his house sale. It took 50 minutes and he didn’t pause for breath 🥱

I was just saying to someone the other day that I feared I was losing the art of conversation! I am very deaf, almost totally one side but with a little more hearing on the other. Someone says something and it then takes a while for me to interpret the jumble of sound into words. By then, if it's a general conversation, things have moved on. It's easier in a quiet room, one-to-one, but even then I struggle a bit. Deafness is very isolating. Also, some people live alone and may have little chance to chat - when they do, they get a bit carried away. Don't be too hard on us!

Sorry, I jumped in there before reading the whole thread and I now see that others have also mentioned the problems of deafness and isolation/loneliness. I'm also aware that sometimes I don't realise that someone hasn't actually finished speaking. It's a minefield out there!!

Taichinan, and others who are struggling with hearing loss, please, if you haven't done this recently, get a new hearing aid check-up.

It may just be that some adjustments are required to get you back in the conversation. Fingers crossed.


My father (who wore hearing aids before i was born) used to say that deafness was socially debilitating and he wouldn't wish it on anyone.
Some people just don't understand how it affects your whole life.

I know I tend to talk too much- something another person has said will trigger me to tell a story about a similar thing that has happened to me.
I don’t want to hog the conversation so I put a tiny bandage on a finger to remind me to shut up!! It works.

Retread

People like that talk at you, rather than have a conversation.

A natural reaction is to avoid them, but that doesn't solve the problem! I read somewhere that a way to stop them is to interrupt them politely but use their name as in "Rita, I think ... " and keep doing that.

It reminded me of a woman that has popped up in various singing groups in our area, she doesn't sing, she bellows, complete with avcompanying hand gestures, and no one wants to sit next to her. I'm amazed she doesn't get the message. She will often say something like "I trained in theatre so I project my voice". She's a bit Florence Foster Jenkins ...

Haha In our choir, ( I’ve temporarily left but will return after the summer) there is a woman in our soprano section who does exactly the same!!

Whatever you think of her someone will think the same of you, no ones perfect

I have a very old friend who can sometime talk non stop on the phone On one occasion I must have nodded off as I suddenly heard this voice say “ are you still there “. She then proceeded to tell me that she must have a very soporific voice as another friend started to snore when on the phone. I just have to plan my calls to ensure I have plenty of time. I must add she is also very supportive

An acquaintance of mine will pick up on one particular thing and then talk about it for half an hour! Eg a handbag!Perhaps that’s a skill!

It's maddening! Three of us were at coffee recently and the talker talked virtually non-stop for nearly an hour. All anecdotal and low-level detail. We couldn't stop her as she started again despite new interesting (!) ventures from us.

She sometimes says 'I talk too much!' so she knows. Is it that she doesn't care? I'm wondering if it's insecurity in her case or needing to be the centre of attention? The result is we don't feel inclined to put ourselves through it too often. Sad.