The joys of dating

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Not sure that any of those answers are wrong.

I used to think that if DH died, I would be interested in dating again.
That thought horrified my kids!

But older I have got, not sure I could be bothered with the hassle.
But never say never.

I may be horribly old-fashioned, by I think the man should chase the woman!
I think, could be wrong, if the man is not interested enough, nothing is going to properly happen anyway.

I would throw this frog back in the pool! Do not message him again but block his number. He is probably dating others and will get back in touch with you if he runs out of options. I don't say that to be cruel, but that's often the way these 'princes' work. He'll come up with a complicated reason as to why he ghosted you to pull on your heart strings.

Leave it to him,don't chase..having been on dating sites there are a lot of men who are chancing their arm,lots of ladies looking for love whilst the men are after something else..

The man may have just been trying to be polite when he said he’d enjoyed the date etc., of course he could be a chancer but then isn’t dating a game of chance?
Don’t lose heart, keep at it, and try not to read too much into what could just be polite replies.

You’ve only had one date with him. I don’t see why he can’t be arranging to meet up with others too. It’s a dating website. For dating.

I expect he prefers to connect through the website until he has met people several times. I think you would be well advised to do the same rather than handing out your contact details to people you hardly know.

It might even be that he has had a bad experience previously with harassment and that your eagerness to exchange numbers and make direct contact has made him take a step back.

I think you’ve been clear you would like to meet again. He’ll respond if he wants.

I'd wait another day , if he still doesn't text . I'm chat online again , no reason why you can't ask him to meet up again. If he doesn't want to , then you have your answer. I met my second husband online 17 years ago . Married for 15 years, both 60 now . Good luck and keep us posted

If someone is in a relationship it's easier to keep communications online, if he hasn't rung I'd be suspicious.
If he's interested he'll act, if he's not he's no loss. I'd walk away.

I’d wait and see, if he’s worth it he’ll be in touch. If he isn’t, he won’t.

Block his number, put this down to experience and look on the bright side- he's not someone that's going to treat you well so a a very lucky escape.

Internet dating, at any age, carries risks, disappointment along the way as well as potential rewards. Be confident in yourself. Either party can easily reject the other and it takes time to get to know someone and build up trust. He's no loss.

If you wish to continue internet dating be sure you can cope with losers like this, i.e. that you are able to shrug off disappointment when things like this happen and know that you deserve better and have a lot to offer the right person when they eventually come along.... if you cant cope with such disappointment perhaps internet dating is not for you....

Plus if there was no agreement to meet a second time and until you get to the stage of having the conversation- "do we want to take this further and come off the dating site" both parties can continue to post and be active on the dating site, until they both feel they reach the stage of wanting to be "exclusive".

It's the fact he has not responded to you giving out your mobile number that is the red flag.....

Carry on contacting other people on the site yourself- as the saying goes you may have to kiss a few frogs along the way....

I agree with LemonJam. I did a lot of dating in my fifties- some of it was fun. Most of it wasn't and I would never do it again though I am ten years older now.

Looking back I find it hard to identify with that woman I was...

I much prefer the me I am now and would never be in another relationship.

Oh dear, looks like he is sort to have his cake and eat it! Don’t chase home, and don’t dance to his tune, it only leads to disappointment

I agree with Lathyrus3. You were clear. He'll contact you if he's still interested.

He may be having conversations with other people, perhaps has dates lined up and doesn't want to cancel them just because you two had a great first date. One date is not a commitment. I wouldn't write him off yet, but certainly wouldn't chase him either.

Or maybe as what happened to me in my teens.
Had had a few dates with this person. Another date was arranged, no show.
He had been killed in a road accident.

No reason he should not be online, seeing other women etc.

ONE date is not an exclusive relationship.

Perhaps he 's not yet ready to exchange phone numbers until he knows you a bit better.

I'd wait and see, don't contact him again.

Leave it is my advise. He is obviously still looking.

Personally I'd do nothing and wait, if he's interested he'll be in touch. If not no harm done just put it down to experience. I wouldn't block him as has been suggested, he'll probably see that as immature and think lucky escape.

My husband didn’t ring me for a few weeks, it kept me interested.
When he did call I didn’t make myself available.
We didn’t meet on a dating site though.
I know some of my friends have met real odd balls on there.
One wanted picking up from the airport- she hadn’t even met him 😂

Definitely do not contact him again. It's incredible really whatever our age we still go through the same emotions/feelings and it can hurt but you need to move on. Good luck and enjoy yourself

Jojo1950

Leave it is my advise. He is obviously still looking.

Did ANYONE recognise "The ONE" at first meeting?

I certainly didn't. For the first year I knew DH he was the most annoying idiot / idiotic annoyance I'd ever met .

Never, never chase!!! If you do you will spend the rest of your relationship chasing. Play hard to get, men like a challenge. Be careful with dating sites as there are all sorts of tricksters in there .