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Flutterby1 Tue 15-Oct-19 18:56:33

Now I don’t want to sound like a nagging, ungrateful wife but I have a huge problem shopping with my hubby. I really can’t stand it. He always wants to come with me and I end up not buying anything as hate that he is standing about with me. It’s not that he is doing anything he is just there. If we split up for a while I am constantly looking at the time to make sure I get back to meet him where arranged.
Now that Xmas shopping time is here he has started asking ‘do you want to go shopping’ aaagh.
Suggestions please.

Cabbie21 Fri 18-Oct-19 20:17:12

I prefer to shop on my own. If we go together, eg to the Mill shop, we each go our separate ways, though occasionally may meet up to see what the other thinks of a potential purchase. If I go on my own( it is only accessible by car but I do drive ) I can take my time and not feel tied by having to meet up.

As far as food shopping is concerned, he has opted to do most of it, in local independent shops and small co- op. I go to Aldi twice a week as it is walking distance, and a big supermarket shop on my own about every 8 weeks. It works well for us. Once we went together to the big supermarket, but he took off with the trolley to get what interested him, leaving me with nowhere to put my shopping. Never again.

Luckylegs Fri 18-Oct-19 20:47:49

So many similarities on here to me. My H is ok with food shopping with me but wanders off with the trolley leaving me, with arms full of shopping, desperately trying to find him. I swore never again!

He refuses to go clothes shopping, thank goodness, as what drives me insane is men leaning on each clothes rail, waiting for their wives, in my way when I’m trying to look through said clothes rail! However we went to a large shop the other day, I trotted after him, running about finding stuff, holding hangers, encouraging the good items, tactfully pointing out bad choices for an hour and a half! H was fed up then so I got ten minutes to fly round trying to find something for myself! Grrrr!

Flutterby1 Sat 19-Oct-19 17:18:46

Guess what? Had to go shopping today with my hubby,husband,better half, partner (just in case I offend anyone). And yet again I was uptight. I dread the Christmas food shopping aaaagh. He does not see the problem but my tummy churns. This after 30years together

Dinahmo Sun 20-Oct-19 00:32:18

Sounds to me as though some of the husbands referred to above need a part time job to occupy themselves.

Cherrytree59 Sun 20-Oct-19 09:53:14

Flutterby what about shopping online?

Most of my shopping is done this way.
I hate crowds, so as regards
to xmas, I will intercept letters on route to Lapland and look on t'internet for the best deals factoring any p&p.

As for supermarket shopping with a DH.
Prepare shopping list (in order)
Cut in two.
One half each
One trolley each. (separate Shopping bags)
Meet up at the tills.

There is also ordering online and having supermarket shopping delivered.
Heavy stuff - eg, tins jars cleaning products etc once a month.
Leaving just a small weekly shop for fruit and veg etc.

Good luck shamrock

mistymitts Wed 23-Oct-19 01:43:20

I am lucky I suppose that my partner fully concedes to not being any good as a shopping companion. A trip to IKEA would have him looking at his watch and saying, How long do you want, is 30 minutes enough, meet in the café in half an hour! So, I shop alone, but if he needs something in the clothing department, he wants me to come along and give an opinion, but after a small time he will become irritated with the whole thing and just want to leave, regardless of whether he has got what he wanted or not.

Lyndiloo Wed 23-Oct-19 02:29:48

I, too, hate shopping with my husband. He likes to come food shopping, and I've tried to accommodate this. We have a small trolley each ... and off he goes - with about 4 items on his list. He takes so l-o-n-g, and put loads of stuff in his trolley that we don't need or want. Biscuits, sweets, etc. When I query anything he says, 'But it's only a pound!' He can't seem to grasp the fact that it's not the money (though it all adds up) it's the space we have to store all this stuff! Added to which, it'll probably all end up out-of-date and in the bin!

(The last time I cleaned out my 'tins cupboard', we had 18 tins of chopped tomatoes!)

Now, when I can, I tell him to have a snooze while I go food shopping on my own. Oh, the bliss! And I'm back within the hour, with just a few bags to unpack. Heaven!

Sara65 Wed 23-Oct-19 07:54:22

We do Waitrose self scanning, he is in charge of the scanner. We are a supermarkets dream, he always manages to scan at least one item twice, when I show him the receipt, he says he couldn’t remember if he scanned it, so best to be on the safe side!