Shopping with hubby

We do Waitrose self scanning, he is in charge of the scanner. We are a supermarkets dream, he always manages to scan at least one item twice, when I show him the receipt, he says he couldn’t remember if he scanned it, so best to be on the safe side!

I, too, hate shopping with my husband. He likes to come food shopping, and I've tried to accommodate this. We have a small trolley each ... and off he goes - with about 4 items on his list. He takes so l-o-n-g, and put loads of stuff in his trolley that we don't need or want. Biscuits, sweets, etc. When I query anything he says, 'But it's only a pound!' He can't seem to grasp the fact that it's not the money (though it all adds up) it's the space we have to store all this stuff! Added to which, it'll probably all end up out-of-date and in the bin!

(The last time I cleaned out my 'tins cupboard', we had 18 tins of chopped tomatoes!)

Now, when I can, I tell him to have a snooze while I go food shopping on my own. Oh, the bliss! And I'm back within the hour, with just a few bags to unpack. Heaven!

I am lucky I suppose that my partner fully concedes to not being any good as a shopping companion. A trip to IKEA would have him looking at his watch and saying, How long do you want, is 30 minutes enough, meet in the café in half an hour! So, I shop alone, but if he needs something in the clothing department, he wants me to come along and give an opinion, but after a small time he will become irritated with the whole thing and just want to leave, regardless of whether he has got what he wanted or not.

Flutterby what about shopping online?

Most of my shopping is done this way.
I hate crowds, so as regards
to xmas, I will intercept letters on route to Lapland and look on t'internet for the best deals factoring any p&p.

As for supermarket shopping with a DH.
Prepare shopping list (in order)
Cut in two.
One half each
One trolley each. (separate Shopping bags)
Meet up at the tills.

There is also ordering online and having supermarket shopping delivered.
Heavy stuff - eg, tins jars cleaning products etc once a month.
Leaving just a small weekly shop for fruit and veg etc.

Good luck

Sounds to me as though some of the husbands referred to above need a part time job to occupy themselves.

Guess what? Had to go shopping today with my hubby,husband,better half, partner (just in case I offend anyone). And yet again I was uptight. I dread the Christmas food shopping aaaagh. He does not see the problem but my tummy churns. This after 30years together

So many similarities on here to me. My H is ok with food shopping with me but wanders off with the trolley leaving me, with arms full of shopping, desperately trying to find him. I swore never again!

He refuses to go clothes shopping, thank goodness, as what drives me insane is men leaning on each clothes rail, waiting for their wives, in my way when I’m trying to look through said clothes rail! However we went to a large shop the other day, I trotted after him, running about finding stuff, holding hangers, encouraging the good items, tactfully pointing out bad choices for an hour and a half! H was fed up then so I got ten minutes to fly round trying to find something for myself! Grrrr!

I prefer to shop on my own. If we go together, eg to the Mill shop, we each go our separate ways, though occasionally may meet up to see what the other thinks of a potential purchase. If I go on my own( it is only accessible by car but I do drive ) I can take my time and not feel tied by having to meet up.

As far as food shopping is concerned, he has opted to do most of it, in local independent shops and small co- op. I go to Aldi twice a week as it is walking distance, and a big supermarket shop on my own about every 8 weeks. It works well for us. Once we went together to the big supermarket, but he took off with the trolley to get what interested him, leaving me with nowhere to put my shopping. Never again.

Shopping with my daughters costs me money, sometimes my friend and I take a train trip, but with completely different tastes in everything, we split up once we get there.

Me too, I have the same problem. I much prefer shopping with my daughter or my female friends!

If people want to use the word `hubby` and `hubby` doesn`t mind, good for them. I would never use it myself and my husband calls me `hon` which I don`t actually like, but it is a word he is used to using, so I put up with it. He is not doing it to annoy me (I hope!).

Don't take him. I just tell him that I prefer to shop by myself and take my time. Or as the others have said sit him down with the paper and a coffee and get on with your shopping. But, as I said earlier, I feel exactly the same as you do, it is just awful with him hovering over you as you try to make your selections. Good luck.

We've gone over this topic many times in the past. It used to make me flinch when several of my (elderly) male bowls colleagues always described their OHs as "The Wife" as you would when referring to "The Garbage Bin; The Lawn Mower, or any other inanimate chattel around the home!

My suggestion would be to put a collar and leash on reluctant "hubbies" hoping that shops would be hanging up notices saying "No Hubbies Allowed" as they do for dogs! You then tether them to a lamp-post and shop in peace. Just a thought!

I also dislike the term 'hubby'. Luckily I have no need for it, but I'd never have used it when I was married. What's wrong with just saying 'husband'? I also dislike 'kiddies'. I happily say 'kids' or, more properly, 'children', but why 'kiddies'? OK - I admit it's just me, an old fogey, and it's entirely a matter of upbringing and preference, so please don't take offence if you habitually use these terms.

If we wanted to do clothes shopping we would split up and go where we each wanted to go. With food shopping we used to do it together but now I cant manage to walk round the supermarket so he does it on his own. If I feel up to it I will go in the car with him and sit in the car with my phone while he does the shopping just to give him some company on the journey.
The only person I remember saying hubby was my Aunt Rose who would be 111 if she was alive now. But I think 'wifey' is even worse and that seems to be being used a lot by young men in their 30s nowadays.

Could you shop online instead? That would save you the stress of him accompanying you. Curl up with a cuppa and wait for the delivery.

My husband’s not too bad, he does have a tendency to sigh a lot, but he’s good at carrying bags, and he also keeps asking when are we stopping for lunch?

I'm another who hates going shopping with 'the other half'. We were in Liverpool last Saturday for a family lunch meal that involved an adult son, his wife's family and three of the grandkids. From the moment we got off the bus, he did nothing but complain about the buses, the traffic, the crowds of shoppers and all the 'Wannabee Wags' parading around Liverpool One ................................. I've no absolutely idea how I managed to 'loose him' when I took refuge in Costa Coffee for 45mins . Even my phone 'lost its signal' when I thought I saw him walking past .

Why do people take such exception to the term "hubby" @phoenix? Is it any worse than alternatives often used like "honey" or "babe" - its just a term of endearment? Ive only used it once at a friends house but got such a reaction from her mobile hairdresser (not married) that I've never used it since.

Provided your husband doesn't keep asking you to hurry up or tell you you look nice in something just to get you out of the shop, I think it's rather nice that he wants to come with you.

I am very indecisive and can go out for hours and buy nothing. This was particularly a problem at Christmas when I would rush from shop to shop in such a panic about buying the "perfect gift" for each person that my husband, understandably, lost patience.

We do a family Secret Santa now so that has at least eased Christmas pressure. But I still dither a lot and for that reason I prefer to shop on my own. On the few occasions when we are shopping together, we usually arrange to meet up after a couple of hours rather than keep losing each other (a real problem before mobile phones).

I shop mainly online now..car parking charges are so expensive..WE do however shop locally

If we do venture out to shop..my hubby goes book shopping!

I still enjoy clothes shopping but prefer to go on shorter trips now usually about 2 hours. We go together and I have a wander round while he sits and has a drink. It works well for us but I got back once and he'd nearly fallen asleep!

Mine insists on coming food shopping with me to 'help'. He puts 'impulse buy' food in the trolley which I would avoid - too many calories or sugar. I'm having difficulty training him to food shop sensibly.

I prefer to shop alone, No husband, family or friend.

This week I went city shopping with 2 friends, we enjoyed lovely lunch and chat but...

My 20% M and S voucher was only used for my grandchildren's stocking fillers and socks.

When I need to go clothes shopping, it will be a solo trip or t'internet ?

Leave him in a coffee shop with the papers, bacon roll or whatever.......