Shopping with hubby

Like others, that could be my post. I feel pressured and unable to make any decisions on clothes when he is lurking in the background. Even if I leave him in a coffee shop I feel pressured not to spend too long shopping. You would think that after 49 years together I would have overcome this, but I haven't.

would it help to give him a list of things to get? Or would he be no good at that? As he is your transport to wherever you want to go, then you are stumped. But could he drop you off and then return when you`re all done?

My OH is a rotten shopping buddy too.

Shop on line for Christmas as far as you can

I can’t stand mine hovering over my shuolder when doing the weekly shop, so we have now agreed, he will wait in the car. He doesn’t mind this arrangement at all because he can make phone calls and google etc .

When I have finished shopping, I ring him and in he comes with shopping bags and helps me pack shopping.
A good arrangement I think. Well, it suits us.

I often wander round one of the largest shopping centres in the country and the number of arguments and miserable looking men I see makes me wonder why they are there, surely they can't all have volunteered or suggested it. I try to go on my own but if my DH comes along he usually wanders off for an hour so I go round the clothes etc and we meet for much needed cup of tea!

Even though I can drive I always ask my other half to come shopping with me. I don't have any female friends to ask and I actually value his opinion of things I try on. He's far better than I am at finding my size in a shop too. I'll often just give him an idea of what I am looking for and suddenly out of nowhere he finds exactly what I want even though I'd thought I had looked everywhere!
I would add he doesn't actually enjoy coming with me so I make a point of not going too often, although in the last week we have been clothes shopping in both Watford and St Albans 4 days running for about 2hrs each time and I think we are both feeling 'shopped out' now

Hi,
I always feel rushed and pressured to hurry up. It drives me bonkers.
I’d sooner be on my own.

I've never driven but it's easy to get anywhere by cab, bus or train. I'd hate to have a lift everywhere as I like a bit of fresh air. Why does Flutterby rely on him for transport?

Leave him in a coffee shop with the papers, bacon roll or whatever.......

I prefer to shop alone, No husband, family or friend.

This week I went city shopping with 2 friends, we enjoyed lovely lunch and chat but...

My 20% M and S voucher was only used for my grandchildren's stocking fillers and socks.

When I need to go clothes shopping, it will be a solo trip or t'internet ?

Mine insists on coming food shopping with me to 'help'. He puts 'impulse buy' food in the trolley which I would avoid - too many calories or sugar. I'm having difficulty training him to food shop sensibly.

I still enjoy clothes shopping but prefer to go on shorter trips now usually about 2 hours. We go together and I have a wander round while he sits and has a drink. It works well for us but I got back once and he'd nearly fallen asleep!

I shop mainly online now..car parking charges are so expensive..WE do however shop locally

If we do venture out to shop..my hubby goes book shopping!

Provided your husband doesn't keep asking you to hurry up or tell you you look nice in something just to get you out of the shop, I think it's rather nice that he wants to come with you.

I am very indecisive and can go out for hours and buy nothing. This was particularly a problem at Christmas when I would rush from shop to shop in such a panic about buying the "perfect gift" for each person that my husband, understandably, lost patience.

We do a family Secret Santa now so that has at least eased Christmas pressure. But I still dither a lot and for that reason I prefer to shop on my own. On the few occasions when we are shopping together, we usually arrange to meet up after a couple of hours rather than keep losing each other (a real problem before mobile phones).

Why do people take such exception to the term "hubby" @phoenix? Is it any worse than alternatives often used like "honey" or "babe" - its just a term of endearment? Ive only used it once at a friends house but got such a reaction from her mobile hairdresser (not married) that I've never used it since.

I'm another who hates going shopping with 'the other half'. We were in Liverpool last Saturday for a family lunch meal that involved an adult son, his wife's family and three of the grandkids. From the moment we got off the bus, he did nothing but complain about the buses, the traffic, the crowds of shoppers and all the 'Wannabee Wags' parading around Liverpool One ................................. I've no absolutely idea how I managed to 'loose him' when I took refuge in Costa Coffee for 45mins . Even my phone 'lost its signal' when I thought I saw him walking past .

My husband’s not too bad, he does have a tendency to sigh a lot, but he’s good at carrying bags, and he also keeps asking when are we stopping for lunch?

Could you shop online instead? That would save you the stress of him accompanying you. Curl up with a cuppa and wait for the delivery.

If we wanted to do clothes shopping we would split up and go where we each wanted to go. With food shopping we used to do it together but now I cant manage to walk round the supermarket so he does it on his own. If I feel up to it I will go in the car with him and sit in the car with my phone while he does the shopping just to give him some company on the journey.
The only person I remember saying hubby was my Aunt Rose who would be 111 if she was alive now. But I think 'wifey' is even worse and that seems to be being used a lot by young men in their 30s nowadays.

I also dislike the term 'hubby'. Luckily I have no need for it, but I'd never have used it when I was married. What's wrong with just saying 'husband'? I also dislike 'kiddies'. I happily say 'kids' or, more properly, 'children', but why 'kiddies'? OK - I admit it's just me, an old fogey, and it's entirely a matter of upbringing and preference, so please don't take offence if you habitually use these terms.

We've gone over this topic many times in the past. It used to make me flinch when several of my (elderly) male bowls colleagues always described their OHs as "The Wife" as you would when referring to "The Garbage Bin; The Lawn Mower, or any other inanimate chattel around the home!

My suggestion would be to put a collar and leash on reluctant "hubbies" hoping that shops would be hanging up notices saying "No Hubbies Allowed" as they do for dogs! You then tether them to a lamp-post and shop in peace. Just a thought!

Don't take him. I just tell him that I prefer to shop by myself and take my time. Or as the others have said sit him down with the paper and a coffee and get on with your shopping. But, as I said earlier, I feel exactly the same as you do, it is just awful with him hovering over you as you try to make your selections. Good luck.

If people want to use the word `hubby` and `hubby` doesn`t mind, good for them. I would never use it myself and my husband calls me `hon` which I don`t actually like, but it is a word he is used to using, so I put up with it. He is not doing it to annoy me (I hope!).

Me too, I have the same problem. I much prefer shopping with my daughter or my female friends!

Shopping with my daughters costs me money, sometimes my friend and I take a train trip, but with completely different tastes in everything, we split up once we get there.