Shopping with hubby

My husband is good at shopping for clothes, presents, household stuff etc but hopeless doing a supermarket shop.

The reason I wondered about the op being somewhere other than Britain is the fact she used the word "Mall'.

I hate 'hubby' too, Iam.

Magpie I could have written your post!?

I was invited to go shopping, but only once!.

Now I do most of the shopping and my main gripe is couples blocking the aisle when they are dithering, discussing the merits of this over that.

Its when mine wanders off that I get really annoyed. He was wandering off the other day. ( I keep the car keys .) I have often thought to tell him to get the bus home but by then I have no idea where he is.

I go with hubby sometimes he goes a walk and we meet up for lunch. Christmas he has to come because I need someone to carry the bags . granddad 1943 I was in that electrical store in Cribbs this week and there was so much noise with tv radios and pc games going on I had to get out ,why do they need to have it all so load.

Just tell him you find shopping easier on your own. DH knows I prefer to shop alone so doesn't ask to come with me.

Equally he goes into a nearby town once a week and is much happier on his own. I had to be with him this summer because his driving licence was suspended for 2 months for medical reasons and I had to drive him there and back. He just stopped going.

If mine insists on coming to the supermarket I leave him in the coffee bar - I hate him hovering. He actually enjoys wandering around other sorts of shops more than I d. I buy mostly online these days.

I often pop out on my own though and would hate not to be able to drive. I even prefer going to hospital appointments on my own but he does insist on coming.

Standing joke in our family when AC and GC thank Mr.Gravy for their Birthday/Christmas gifts his response is "Oh did I get you that".

It's other women's male partners that irritate me. Standing there like spare parts in everyone else's way. But men standing outsude shops just makes me laugh - very 1950s

Either tell him your doing the shopping on line . Or tell him he can come but he can stay in a cafe or go for few pints in the pub .

This is funny not in a bad way but same as me, causing stress and untold guilt that I am shopping and actually enjoying myself, I love Ikea and it’s a major trip to it in miles but he comes and feel crap about buying things and feel so stressed with it, you have my sympathy

When my daughter was working in the USA we went to visit and she took us to a mall. My husband had a book so sat in a cafe to wait for us. When we eventually returned he’d finished his book and bought another!
When we shopped at Christmas we used to split up and meet for lunch or tea. Worked well.

Can you take a bus to the Mall so he doesn't have to drive you or go with a friend instead of him...I hate shopping with my husband as I know he gets bored

Poor you!
I did have that problem but it was solved by me encouraging my partner to take a car magazine into a great little local pub ( The Woolly Sheep in Skipton) for a pint of Timothy Taylors
‘Landlord’. Luckily I can drive so no problem with drink driving.
I can now shop to my hearts content until I pick him up !

If and when I ever do go shopping with dh (very rare!) he nearly always contrives to disappear and I'm left tutting and/or fuming.

So here's a little anecdote on that subject which I hope might raise a laugh.
Years ago, not too long before Hallowe'en, we went together to Homebase to buy a besom broom (the ones that look like witches' broomsticks) for sweeping wet leaves off the grass.

I found the broom and paid. Dh had meanwhile done his usual disappearing act so I was left by the checkout, tutting and fuming (and evidently looking very scary) while clutching said broomstick - when I noticed a little boy of perhaps 4 or 5, peeping from half behind his mother's skirt, and asking fearfully, 'Mummy, is she a witch?'
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The poor mother was mortified!
That went down in the annals - much merriment when dds were told - they thoroughly enjoyed telling their friends that Mum had been taken for a witch!

H and I had a row in Debenhams; he disappears and I had to get the office to tannoy him to no avail and much embarrassment. Finally found him in car; sulking. We now shop on line.

DH is very useful for holding my handbag on the rare occasions I try on clothes, for fetching another size if necessary(though this does prove challenging for him as he is never sure which style is which) and then for carrying bag with said item if I decide to purchase something. Fortunately my clothes shopping seldom occurs. Much prefer shopping for him, when I do the fetching of other sizes etc.

Send him shopping with a list and on a different day. Tell him you’ll have lunch waiting for him on his return. Good luck

Oh, Flutterby1, I sense your frustration and feel your pain.....yes, partners are a blessed burden if they come with you when you just want some "me" time in the shops.

I always felt that mine was keeping a mental tally of any money I was spending and writing it up in some fantasy accounts book like a dissaproving Victorian Husband with a censorious comment in the margin, ie: "must have words with My Wife - acting like a frivolous, spendthrift with no thought to Fiscal Responsibility!"

In all our 36 years of marriage I can probably count on one hand the number of times we have gone shopping together. I just go it alone. I have no desire to have any company and he has no desire to accompany me, so it works just fine. How about using the 'click and collect' option? Many shops do this now. You can either take your purchases home or you can try clothes on in store. You can literally buy anything these days using click and collect! You can browse online to your hearts content for the things YOU want. Might lessen the strain a little!

Shopping with mine is like having a ball and chain on my leg!! When I see something I like he always says something like "You've got one just the same as that" - Yes I did, but that was 15 years ago. He picks up stuff that I wouldn't wear if you paid me and I end up buying nothing.
Shopping with friends is almost as bad as I happily look at what they want to see and then we run out of time. I am a lone wolf shopper every time.

I hate it when hubby comes shopping with me. He hates it too so I don’t know why he bothers. If I say I want to go alone though I get the sulks. The problem is that he wants to get in, get what’s needed and get out. I’m a browser and like to take my time so I always feel rushed. He does, however, play golf so that is the ideal time to go. I find I do more online nowadays.

Hubby? Dreadful, but “ hubs” EVEN worse!!

Know what you mean. I have the same problem. DH really tries hard to be accommodating but it doesn’t work for me. I’ve accepted this and now I buy most things on line with exception of a rare visit to Toast, which he enjoys - and I love. Love buying and selling second hand clothes on line - in privacy! ?

I would NEVER shop with my husband - much as I love him (but I drive so am independent). If we do end up heading to the shops at the same time, I give him a list of things that don't require any decisions (specific items and where to get them) so he heads off to get those, and I can do something more leisurely, and we arrange to meet in, say, 2 hours for lunch (he will buy a newspaper to read if he runs out of shopping). You use the word "mall" so I'm assuming you're in America? When we visited the USA, I was amazed at the lack of bus services, apart from in the big cities, so you may be dependent on a car? You just have to be honest with him; arrange to go with a friend; take a taxi; find him something-else to do. Good luck. (PS not too late for you to learn to drive ?? My aunt did it at 72).