Green councillor gets grandkids to send Valentine cards to immigrants at Crowburgh

Blimey Trump always seems to be mentioned on a lot of posts...wish our economy was doing as good as Americas though don't you ?

Yes I agree MartavTaurus

"Because that is the whole concept of St Valentine's Day. Romantic love is historically narrow and socially outdated"

We are human beings not automatons. What a cynical attitude to deem romantic love outdated. It's a timeless heightened emotion that often is one of the great highs and sometimes lows of the human condition. Otherwise we enter the horrible world the Soviet Union created of the "personal life is dead". perhaps that way of thinking resonates with some, personally I think it's a very negative point of view. The gesture of romantic love by way of sending a card is still alive and kicking present in the shops certainly amongst the cards I've scanned. Albeit what surrounds all of that is big business and like all special days in the calendar its long since been turned into a commercial enterprise. The range of cards, everything from hearts and flowers to rude sexualised content, are solely aimed at loved ones, or someone in the giver's sights, or possibly sent as a joke.

I think the premise of a Valentine card sent from a child, sweet as it briefly maybe, our children need to know the love they have for their parent is entirely different from that they will have for a prospective partner. I remember trying to explain that to my then 4 year old who said "when I grow up I'm going to marry you mummy" At that age children have no concept of prospective romantically involved relationships. Maybe it's something that would be deemed quite sweet in the moment where adult life is beyond their comprehension. Definitely something I wouldn't encourage once they grew out of that stage.

As everybody else has stated, it is totally inappropriate for "A card with romantic intent" to be sent to some unknown adult person from a child.

Thank you Terribull.

Yes, As everybody else has stated, it is totally inappropriate for "A card with romantic intent" to be sent to some unknown adult person from a child. And to then boast about it in public just shows the woman is bonkers, and shouldn't be in that rôle.

sixandahalf

Allira

sixandahalf

sharon103

JenniferEccles

Tells you everything you need to know about the Greens.
Shockingly inappropriate.

Yes, I agree

Tells me everything I need to know when somebody admires Trump and his strong borders.

An assumption.

Absolutely. I assume anybody who admires Trump and his " strong borders" may be a certain type of person.

Just as others here assume Greens are hippies and the person at the centre of this story is a fool.

An assumption that a poster actually admires Trump.

As everybody else has stated, it is totally inappropriate for "A card with romantic intent" to be sent to some unknown adult person from a child.

This cannot be repeated enough!

I wonder what the Social services would make of it?

MT62

I wonder what the Social services would make of it?

If you’re so worried, you coukd report her. But really? Have you any idea about child protection services and the demands on them?

If so you are fortunate enough to have a President who has been successful in securing your country’s borders, unlike here in the UK

I would say this implies some level of admiration possibly?

I don't know, actually I don't care.

I meant it kind of ‘tongue in cheek’ I really don’t need a lecture from you tuliptree.

No I wouldn’t do it and find it very odd!

The Greens, like Reform, contain some strange people. Locally I wouldn't vote for them as they are anti nuclear, which would devastate the local economy, but they have cranky people like this councillor and a leader who thinks legalising hard drugs will solve the drugs problem. To me they are a party I'd advise people to be very careful about voting for, and would advise voters on the left to either stick with Labour or vote Lib Dem.

Dorisdodar

Blimey Trump always seems to be mentioned on a lot of posts...wish our economy was doing as good as Americas though don't you ?

No!

Cossy

Dorisdodar

Blimey Trump always seems to be mentioned on a lot of posts...wish our economy was doing as good as Americas though don't you ?

No!

Agreed, I'll stick with Britain. At least guns are rare here and people don't shoot each other over their opinions.

aonk

It’s completely inappropriate for children to contact or correspond with people they don’t know. If adults wish to welcome people into their community they are free to so even if most people would think it was extremely ill advised.

I agree. It’s not about the TYPE of card sent, it’s simply that they’ve been encouraged to send cards to complete adult strangers

Rosie51

DAR Many children make them for family members, and I always thought of them as a way to show love rather than anything sexual. It seems that for some, Valentine's Day takes on a more complex meaning.

Exactly, for family members, friends not total strangers. When has this councillor encouraged the making and sending of Valentine cards by her grandchildren to other adult strangers?

I agree with DAR about children sending v cards to close friends and/or family.

I don’t agree that children should send out home made cards to any strange men

Dorisdodar

Blimey Trump always seems to be mentioned on a lot of posts...wish our economy was doing as good as Americas though don't you ?

Would you like to detail this wonderful American economy? I'm sure the Americans on here would be interested.

Anne Cross is making a massive mistake with this totally crazy idea .
If Valentine greeting aren't the norm in your culture-they may well be misunderstood and definitely not to be given by children.

Fir example:

Recently,I had to explain to a friend that her very flirty manner was giving out the wrong message to some Muslim men who work in our local takeaways.
They thought that she'd have sex with them - not understanding that she's married and has no intention of doing so .

Cossy

Rosie51

DAR Many children make them for family members, and I always thought of them as a way to show love rather than anything sexual. It seems that for some, Valentine's Day takes on a more complex meaning.

Exactly, for family members, friends not total strangers. When has this councillor encouraged the making and sending of Valentine cards by her grandchildren to other adult strangers?

I agree with DAR about children sending v cards to close friends and/or family.

I don’t agree that children should send out home made cards to any strange men

Call me old-fashioned but I thought Valentine's cards were sent anonymously from one person to another, with whom they might wish to have a romantic liaison.

Perhaps I should retreat to a Thomas Hardy or Jane Austen novel.

Cossy

Rosie51

DAR Many children make them for family members, and I always thought of them as a way to show love rather than anything sexual. It seems that for some, Valentine's Day takes on a more complex meaning.

Exactly, for family members, friends not total strangers. When has this councillor encouraged the making and sending of Valentine cards by her grandchildren to other adult strangers?

I agree with DAR about children sending v cards to close friends and/or family.

I don’t agree that children should send out home made cards to any strange men

I agree, children should not send out cards to any stranger. However, I do believe Valentine's Day cards are suitable for all our 'loves'.

Children, grandchildren, parents, partners - our 'loves'.

Esmay

Anne Cross is making a massive mistake with this totally crazy idea .
If Valentine greeting aren't the norm in your culture-they may well be misunderstood and definitely not to be given by children.

Fir example:

Recently,I had to explain to a friend that her very flirty manner was giving out the wrong message to some Muslim men who work in our local takeaways.
They thought that she'd have sex with them - not understanding that she's married and has no intention of doing so .

How old is your friend? I’d be careful about assuming what anyone was thinking. Your friend may just have a friendly personality, and the shop assistants may simply have been responding in kind.

Norah
You send Valentines to your grandchildren?
It’s a day for lovers or would be lovers.

Oreo

Norah
You send Valentines to your grandchildren?
It’s a day for lovers or would be lovers.

I disagree with Oreo about some things.
Not this. Valentine’s Day is about romantic love.

I disagree with Basgetti sometimes but now we are on the same page😁
Literally!

Labour too have very dodgy people cumbrianmale56. News has been chocker all week, or haven’t you noticed?

Oreo

Norah
You send Valentines to your grandchildren?
It’s a day for lovers or would be lovers.

Not any more and I wonder if it ever was only for "lovers". Perhaps we just had/have very different lives.