Grandchildren moving away

Your daughter has chosen to join a military life , however hard it is you have to accept that. You cannot and should not follow your children around whether you are doing it for you or them or both. She has her own life to lead, and you have to adapt you will always be there for her but now you are not her first priority

I married a military man and within weeks we were posted to the Far East, my poor Mum and Dad must have been devastated but they were supportive and you must be too
You cannot and should not live entwined in your daughters life. She needs to live her own life now with you in the background You are her parent not her life partner

Your husband is right but I can feel from your posts that you won’t listen to anyone.

It wouldn't be the right thing to do.... I think you know that really.....it wouldn't work out ...and if the husband wants to progress through the ranks then he will move....its that simple.....your DDs priority now is her partner......don't put her in a position where she had to consider you everything her husband goes for promotion

Not the case at all

I feel you are determined to follow your daughter no matter what in which case all the advice given so far probably won’t make much difference.
At least find rented accommodation to start with and keep your home - maybe rent it through a reputable agency.
Don’t burn all your bridges.
Wishing you all the best in this 💐

Fallingstar

I feel you are determined to follow your daughter no matter what in which case all the advice given so far probably won’t make much difference.
At least find rented accommodation to start with and keep your home - maybe rent it through a reputable agency.
Don’t burn all your bridges.
Wishing you all the best in this 💐

Presumably Haydnpat's husband and perhaps son will remain in the family home?

What will you do when your son-in-law gets posted somewhere else, Haydnpat?. If he is a career airman he could stay on for very many years. Will you still follow them? Are you still working?

I can understand you being upset but this is an initial reaction to the news and it is something that needs to be sensibly thought through.

I also agree with the majority, and not moving to be close to them .
My cousin has a son in the military, married with children . They’ve moved a lot in the last 10 years . When they were a good 4 hour drive , they’d meet halfway or visit and stay over . They’re now a bit closer and my cousin visits more often . They have FaceTime or zoom calls weekly.
I know it’s hard especially as your daughter is pregnant , but you and she need to lead your own lives .
Maybe you could visit them nearer to the birth , to help with the DGC .
Be aware that property prices in the south are high, add stamp duty , estate agent fees, moving fees and it’s makes it an expensive move .

I don't know why you have posted. It's obvious you have made up your mind. I feel sorry for your husband and son

I agree totally eddiecat I m sure the poster has made up her own mind and will not let go.

This is exactly what I said.
The OP is not for turning.