Today is my grandson birthday. He is 4. Im the grandparent on the dads side . Since he was born I have tried really hard to not push myself forward , not make demands , offered help but not pushed . Always knock and waited for the door to be opened and never turn up uninvited. I have my grandson on a Saturday or Sunday to help out and give them a break . He has an 8month old sister . I don’t push to have her as I know I will when they are ready . I use my work holiday if they need child care .
I pushed to be given a job to help out with the party . I was asked for helium balloons . I sorted that out and had fun doing it . Delivered them to the party and helped as much as I could . The party went off well . At one point I was sat opposite my son and his brother in law discussing what was happening after the party. They were all going to the maternal grandparents house to open presents and have cake . At the end i helped clean up and everyone hung about . It felt awkward so I asked if there was anything else to do ? The answer was no and I wasn’t invited to go back and felt they were waiting for me to go so I left . I asked my son to take a picture of him opening his presents. Back home and a few hours later a picture came through and they were at the other grandparents house to open presents. I was so upset and couldn’t understand what I had done to not get an invitation. Any suggestions would be appreciated
