Calling round later.

it puts me on edge too. the other day we were waiting for an electrician and were given the time 8.00 to 12.30. so being retired we got up early of course often we stay in bed until 8 so sat all morning waiting then I get a call from The Housing Association to say the electrician was ill and another one would be calling sometime in the afternoon. As it turned out it was 4 when he came and he could not do the job! what a waste of a day.

Just say you will be out today ...

Like many above I just don't like someone saying they might pop round. Okay when I was younger but now I'm picky with who I see. I just don't want to encourage someone who might not understand boundaries. If I were you I'd say thanks for magazine but I've arranged to call a family member in 5 mins. So you don't have to invite in unless you want to. Tricky as you never quite no what you're getting into. There again you might like him.

I think.it must be an age thing. But, l don't really do vague, drop around plans with no definite times.

Plus, l need to plan when to take my pain medication which can make very drowsy.

Visits need to be nailed at proper times these days.No.longer a teenager.But secretly wish l was.

Going to have some tea.
Good Bye All
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I can’t remember the last time someone said they would drop in without giving a time. It would seriously waste my time if I had to keep wondering when someone would just turn up, am not casual at all about such things.
Text and get a time, no explanation needed, just say what time exactly are you dropping in??
I would have to do this.

Me too Fallingstar!

I remember my grandmother saying to , as I thought, everyone who came to the door. "Come in 5 minutes and have a cup of tea"

Many years ago, I knew someone who got a knock on the door. It was some relatives who apparently turned up unannounced. He looked at them and said "not you again, you were here the other week". They were most offended, turned round and left. Never went back.

He was only joking but they didn't see it that way.

Not recommended!

Ask him roughly what time that may be?

Don’t answer the door. You are obviously ‘ inconvenienced ‘ if required to explain…

I was expecting some one this evening to collect and buy a piece of furniture I'm advertising on gumtree. He said 8 pm. I thought that late and asked him to come earlier.
At 8.30 I texted him to see if he was coming.
Just before 9 he replied to ask if it was too late - he's been busy.
Yes too late.
I remember why it's annoying dealing with people online.
I shall see if a charity will take it.

not a fan of drop ins but it happens - most of my friends text to check if the other is ‘around’ and we tend to go out for a meet up even though we all live close to each other.

I just carry on as normal and if anyone drops in they are welcome. I usually greet them with 'I'm so glad you came to rescue me from the ironing, vacuuming, dusting or whatever I'm doing' It breaks the ice and stops people feeling unwelcome if you're busy doing something plus you get a nice break. I love having people drop in anytime, probably because I was brought up to never answer the door. Father wasn't a good person so debt collectors were often trying to see him iyswim.

A lady who cleaned for my dad always seemed very interested in my kids. When my daughter got married I thought she might like to see the photos so I dropped in unexpectedly. She was really cool and didn't offer me a cup of tea as she normally did. I realised later that she was annoyed at not being invited to a wedding where she would have known no one.
I've not seen her since. Was I insensitive?