Calling round later.

A lady who cleaned for my dad always seemed very interested in my kids. When my daughter got married I thought she might like to see the photos so I dropped in unexpectedly. She was really cool and didn't offer me a cup of tea as she normally did. I realised later that she was annoyed at not being invited to a wedding where she would have known no one.
I've not seen her since. Was I insensitive?

I just carry on as normal and if anyone drops in they are welcome. I usually greet them with 'I'm so glad you came to rescue me from the ironing, vacuuming, dusting or whatever I'm doing' It breaks the ice and stops people feeling unwelcome if you're busy doing something plus you get a nice break. I love having people drop in anytime, probably because I was brought up to never answer the door. Father wasn't a good person so debt collectors were often trying to see him iyswim.

not a fan of drop ins but it happens - most of my friends text to check if the other is ‘around’ and we tend to go out for a meet up even though we all live close to each other.

I was expecting some one this evening to collect and buy a piece of furniture I'm advertising on gumtree. He said 8 pm. I thought that late and asked him to come earlier.
At 8.30 I texted him to see if he was coming.
Just before 9 he replied to ask if it was too late - he's been busy.
Yes too late.
I remember why it's annoying dealing with people online.
I shall see if a charity will take it.

Don’t answer the door. You are obviously ‘ inconvenienced ‘ if required to explain…

Ask him roughly what time that may be?

Many years ago, I knew someone who got a knock on the door. It was some relatives who apparently turned up unannounced. He looked at them and said "not you again, you were here the other week". They were most offended, turned round and left. Never went back.

He was only joking but they didn't see it that way.

Not recommended!

I remember my grandmother saying to , as I thought, everyone who came to the door. "Come in 5 minutes and have a cup of tea"

Me too Fallingstar!

I can’t remember the last time someone said they would drop in without giving a time. It would seriously waste my time if I had to keep wondering when someone would just turn up, am not casual at all about such things.
Text and get a time, no explanation needed, just say what time exactly are you dropping in??
I would have to do this.

I think.it must be an age thing. But, l don't really do vague, drop around plans with no definite times.

Plus, l need to plan when to take my pain medication which can make very drowsy.

Visits need to be nailed at proper times these days.No.longer a teenager.But secretly wish l was.

Going to have some tea.
Good Bye All
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Like many above I just don't like someone saying they might pop round. Okay when I was younger but now I'm picky with who I see. I just don't want to encourage someone who might not understand boundaries. If I were you I'd say thanks for magazine but I've arranged to call a family member in 5 mins. So you don't have to invite in unless you want to. Tricky as you never quite no what you're getting into. There again you might like him.

Just say you will be out today ...

it puts me on edge too. the other day we were waiting for an electrician and were given the time 8.00 to 12.30. so being retired we got up early of course often we stay in bed until 8 so sat all morning waiting then I get a call from The Housing Association to say the electrician was ill and another one would be calling sometime in the afternoon. As it turned out it was 4 when he came and he could not do the job! what a waste of a day.

He may just post the magazine through the letter box if you don't answer the door.

I live in a retirement village. At least once a month I have people coming for different required inspections and maintenance. This week someone is coming somewhere between Monday and Thursday between 8am and 3pm. I don't have to be at home but this random timing is annoying.

Call me unsociable, but I don’t like people calling in full stop!
If I am expecting visitors, then I like to make sure the house is tidy and clean.

dragonfly46

I welcome all visitors if I am at home.

Me too! It’s a lovely surprise if a friend calls in as they are passing.

If they call and I’m out then it’s hard luck but they usually ring and say they’ve been round and arrange another day.

Everyone is welcome at Casa Primrose. 😁

Yes, one of my neighbours. She texts and says I’ll be over in a minute with this or that (usually something she has cooked, yes very sweet girl). I wait and wait. She comes about 2 hours later.
Now, I carry on with what I’m doing. If it’s the afternoon, I like a little nap. So I just go up. I leave the front door unlocked. She can come in and leave whatever , in the kitchen.😂

Is this still north/ south thing?

kircubbin2000

A friend asked me this morning if I wanted to go for a walk.When I said no he said he'd drop in later as he had a magazine and a couple of small things to return.
Now I can't settle as I have no idea what time he's coming and whether he will expect to come in for coffee or just drop and go.
Does anyone else have problems with vague appointments?. I like to know what time to expect people.

Yes that is me to a T, dislike having visitors when I am working from home, prefer to know when and for how long people are visiting so I can plan accordingly.
I expect it was just an excuse to visit you for a cuppa & chat, so expect him to stay.

oh I so love to read what y`all got to say here... I hate people "dropping in" especially we all, well most of us, have these mobile/smart phones,,, I do NOT understand why people can`t say, at least approximate

now I am elderly, and we have a new vicar at our church, yes, you guessed it, he just dropped by my house , well I happened to have an infection and didn`t open the door to him, I mouthed at him through the glass! other people I hear that he has phoned them before hand... mind you I confess I do not take easy to anyone popping in, I can just about manage if it is a close family member! LOL

If you had plans you should have told him, otherwise don't worry, just dont take a bath/shower before he arrives so you don't have to answer the door draped in a towel.

Cossy

I’m afraid I’ve become very anxious and a bit annoyed with “non” plans and random drop-ins.

When younger, fitter and less grumpy, I used to love it, I just don’t feel the same now.

I’d text him.

Oh that really made me laugh. "Younger, fitter and less grumpy" you nailed it Cossy!

Yes I'm the same.