Being Scared Of Youths In Supermarkets?

I wouldn’t go there again, at least not in the evening. I think I would be inclined to write to the manager and point out that they will lose custom because of these situations. Money talks, perhaps they will put some sevurity measures in place.

Not nice I ve never encounter anything like that at all in my neck of the woods

Our Morrisons has a security guard. He wears a stab vest. I’ve never noticed a security guard in the Sainsburys I sometimes use.

I would speak to the manager. The store does have the right to refuse customers. If some customers are intimidating others, the manager needs to warn them and, if necessary, ban them from entering the store. If the manager chooses not to take action, you need to take your custom elsewhere. Depending on how threatening they were, it could be a police matter.

This sort of thing is escalating! Why don’t authorities/ businesses/police address this? If we all went into supermarkets and just stole everything off the shelves we would expect to be punished. We, in turn, the general innocent public are having to pay dearly in higher prices. I would gladly pay more on my grocery bill,if it meant there was security in store - enabling me to have a non-violent and stresssless retail experience. This could lead to anarchy.

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To be honest today that could be any culture.

Inform the manager and the police. Nobody should feel intimidated.

Sadly life today.

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Totally unacceptable and very scary.

These ignorant idiots must make their parents very proud!

Personally, I would have a word with the store manager and report it to the police, I would not let a bunch of unruly offensive and abusive youths push me out of a shop I use through fear.

Can you go there with someone else?

I’m sorry this shook you up, totally unacceptable behaviour.

nanna8

I wouldn’t go there again, at least not in the evening. I think I would be inclined to write to the manager and point out that they will lose custom because of these situations. Money talks, perhaps they will put some sevurity measures in place.

Speak to or email the manager, showing the date and time and which aisle you were in.That behaviour has to be stopped.

Doodledog

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I’m not “howling” either, however I would question that if you were intimidated and backed off very quickly, how you could identify the entire group of lads as anyone particular culture, especially as they were wearing black hoodies, some of who I’m guessing had those hoods up.

Just saying ….. I’m not doubting your word or what you thought.

Doodledog

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Well said.
I have encountered youths hanging around being a nuisance and generally intimidating but they can be both genders and from all points on the compass. There is no one group that excels at this due to cultural influences, nor are all young people like this.

Of course speak to the manager but also inform him/her that you will be calling head office.
Don’t email head office, you will only get an automated response. Speak to someone.

Speak to the manager - they will have security. He/she will not want to lose their core customer base because of this sort of thing.

I'm going to say this needs to be taken further than the manager. Contact Sainsburys and tell them the time and place. That way they can either support the manager in his endeavours or chase him up if he's failing to deal with the problem. But it's Sainsbury's itself who needs to know, not just the manager.

It’s not nice for anyone to feel intimidated whilst out in their own community , especially us older people.

They should be reported and monitored.

Please don’t let this horrible situation stop you going out when and where you need to be.

But please don’t use it as an excuse to single out a single cohort of people, it’s utterly irrelevant what nationality or faith or colour these youths are, they are behaving badly and need to be brought to account for this.

As for their language, sadly bad language appears to be the culture of many youths, I sometimes cringe when I hear the way my younger children, in their 20’s speak to each other and their friends, but have to say, they do not speak to me or their father this way nor would they ever have dreamt of doing this in front of my dear Mother, nor do they speak this way at work, it’s all just a bit “meaningless”, it seems and I tend to ignore it.

They don’t do it when out with us, nor in front of their 11 year old nephew 🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

I dare say the staff are not allowed to approach or say anything, for fear of being punched or stabbed.

During the height of Covid restrictions I saw a group of at least 6 youths in a supermarket, talking and laughing extremely loudly all round the shop (obviously no masks).

I said something to one of the staff, who just shrugged and said they weren’t allowed to do or say anything.

I wonder if you had spoken to them (say) "excuse me lads" and just walked past if they would have moved aside?

NOT excusing them - but speaking to people (especially with a smile) generally yields a more positive response I find.

NotSpaghetti

I wonder if you had spoken to them (say) "excuse me lads" and just walked past if they would have moved aside?

NOT excusing them - but speaking to people (especially with a smile) generally yields a more positive response I find.

I do agree but I can absolutely see why she didn’t, once you feel intimidated it’s hard to do this.

I probably would have said very loudly “excuse me” and simply walked past, because this was a very public place, but I understand why others would want to feel they just wanted to get away as soon as possible.

I am sorry that this happened to you .
Don't allow it to intimidate you.

I find teenagers actually very pleasant and polite towards me.
I'm smiley and friendly. I also talk to them a lot.
A group of six yelled out God Bless to me yesterday and were genuinely happy to encounter me.

But in one week - I had two lots of verbal racial abuse yelled at me .
The perpetrators were in her twenties and the other in her fifties .
The last one was extremely unpleasant.
If she'd persisted I would have alerted the cafe manager .
Perhaps you could contact the supermarket manager .
I hope that it doesn't happen again .

Cat call to elderly? Laugh in their face and put them in their place. They are only children

twaddle

I would speak to the manager. The store does have the right to refuse customers. If some customers are intimidating others, the manager needs to warn them and, if necessary, ban them from entering the store. If the manager chooses not to take action, you need to take your custom elsewhere. Depending on how threatening they were, it could be a police matter.

I agree with what twaddle says.
The manager should be told about this and staff can look out for them in future.