Just having a whinge. I know I should be grateful to have a partner to help me but the lack of hygiene and cleaning is getting to me. He cooks the meals, he fetches and carries, he pushes me in a wheelchair to the car (after that I can use a mobility scooter). But the washing (or lack of it) is getting to me. I do have a powerchair in the house, but am still limited as to what I can do and can't get to the room with the washing machine in. So I ask him to put washing in. Ask him to do it on a certain temperature and then put it in the tumble drier. It never comes back! He forgets about it. Then it comes back damp and I find he left it in the tumble drier with the door closed so it all gets damp again. I feel like I am nagging every time and he gets grumpy at my "instructions" and says he knows how to do washing. I say but it needs to be cupboard dry. I had my duvet cover washed months ago and it came back damp so I asked him to put it on the clothes airer for a few days. A week went past and no duvet cover. I asked about it and he couldn't remember where it had been put. So I've had a duvet with no cover on (as the previous one isn't dry yet either). I struggle in the bathroom as we don't have a walk in shower. We were supposed to be putting the house on the market in Spring and moving as I just need things a bit easier, but he got cold feet so nothing happened. I also have an upper limb problem so still can't get much done even from the wheelchair so cleaning isn't getting done very much either. It's really getting me down. I can't keep on top of my own hygiene like this. I did try getting a home help in a year ago but after trying two people it didn't work very well and partner didn't like it and said he could do it. But he doesn't get what needs doing and forgets about things. So I'm just feeling a bit sorry for myself. I have an eye infection at the moment which doesn't help. Had a weeks worth of antibiotic ointment from the Dr, it seemed to get better and has got worse again. Went to the opticians this time and got a bit fobbed off with just eye washing and drops for dry eyes, which to me is just treating the symptoms.
