What would you rather have?

Oh, are you having a domestic?? Bit early isn’t it?

The first one , everytime

I want the DH I already have, who fits neither of those stereotypes.

There will be many on here who would settle for either.

Paw was more like the former, and I’d have him back in a heartbeat..

Mine was absolutely useless, but I’d have him back like a shot!

Still got my DH and he is neither, so I wouldn't know.

We just 'jelled', no rules. Just got on with life. We were the perfect match.
Like everyone, we each had our idiosyncrasies, but we understood one another, so no problem.
Those were the days....if only....

Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your husband not GN OP.

Ditto M0nica.

I don't think I'd like either of the men you describe OhMother.

I'll keep mine thanks, just as he is.

I think most husbands irritate on occasions but I will still hang on to him.

Mine was useless around the house, but I wish he was still here.

Thanks all. No domestics here. Just wondering. 😁

My son was planning a day out with his ex and their son. I reminded him of the way his father used to ask me what I would REALLY like to do. If I was daft enough to tell him his reply was always "Oh I don't think we want to do that"! If I asked him to do something it usually ended up as "I've said I'll do it, you don't have to keep reminding me every six months" Doesn't mean I don't miss him though.

My DH always has a project on the go for our home, but can be expensive! If he waited for me to suggest them I'd probably save the money.

Greenfinch

There will be many on here who would settle for either.

Very true.

My DH is utterly useless at any diy. Fortunately I’m pretty handy and will do what needs doing, if it’s not something I can manage I give our brilliant handy man a call. DH however is wizard at anything financial and I don’t know my tables so it works pretty well. You can’t have it all.

When I try to get OH to do some decorating he never seems keen, so I’ll say “I will get someone in to do it “.

Then he pipes up “I’ll do it”.

And then it takes a lot of cajoling to actually get him started.

I wish I still had my DH. You don't know what you've got till it's gone! Be thankful he's still around.

charliebb

I wish I still had my DH. You don't know what you've got till it's gone! Be thankful he's still around.

Yes this Exactly !

My DH seemed to know what was coming next eg "don't you think the kitchen needs changing" and he'd be ready to duscuss what I'd like and if it was possible and of course affordable. He was always doing something in his shed/workshop making furniture for us or the family, creating toys for charity fairs etc was never idle especially once retired. He was a mix of both types really.

All those saying ‘ You want to be thankful you’ve still got him.’ where in the original post did I say I wasn’t ? There are a lot of pre assumptions being made here. How do you know I’m not single ?

Well perhaps it was a rather ambiguous question in the first place, open to a lot of interpretation Ohmother

I ditched the one that always said "I'll do it later". I got very good at using the drain rods to clear the drainpipe to the cess pit, would have to go out in pitch black ,wintry nights to switch the gas over so I could relight the central heating boiler, replaced light bulbs etc. Incidentally, as a girl, my Mum always asked me to do minor jobs, when Dad was at work, as my 2 brothers were worse than useless.
I am now very happily married to a wonderful man who always gets straight onto anything that needs going, although I do still do the things I can.