What would you rather have?

My mother always told me if you want something done ask a busy women ans I still she was right.

2nd one (my dear dad always said try & find a husband with a trade, well mine can plumb, do electrics, decorate & can plaster, he saved us a fortune over the years.

We have a division of tasks, works for us. I do the cooking, he clears up. I do the vacuuming and cleaning,he does the bins. I do half the garden and most of the watering, he does the rest. He looks after the pool and most of the financial stuff, I wouldn’t have a clue how to do pool things,too complicated.

Be glad you have a DH at all!

What on earth are “preassumptions”. Weird.

My husband is "tell me what you want, I'll get on with it". Seems there is little he can't accomplish - how we work together is my preference.

My DH is definitely a “get on with things” person but he likes to tell me step by step what he is going to do before he starts.
I think I am his sounding board 😃

Norah

My husband is "tell me what you want, I'll get on with it". Seems there is little he can't accomplish - how we work together is my preference.

Same here with DP, he’ll do jobs when asked but doesn’t think to do them beforehand.Unless it’s stacking the dishwasher which apparently I don’t do right.

I grew up with a dad who mended things before anyone noticed that they needed mending so it was a great source of dismay when I learned that my DH was nothing like that. He has never been remotely interested in household things (apart from eating) and tbh it's been a nightmare to me. When I was younger I simply did most of the household chores without involving him as I knew he would agree to do them but need reminding a dozen times or more. As a result we have had disastrous water leaks that I discovered he had known about but said nothing, a roof with holes in that he had similarly known about, and lots of similar things that have cost a lot of money to rectify. His dad was the same - a passer-by spotted their sagging roof and knocked on the door to tell them -the result was that the council paid to have the roof replaced and the house re-plumbed, new electrics and new windows (12 of them!) installed for free. It wouldn't happen nowadays.

Oh yes, I've been in a dispute with an SM (silly man!) who said the two stupidest things it's possible to say in any argument: "just tell me what you want me to say and I'll say it!" and "why haven't you got time? MAKE TIME!"

Well, mister, if I could actually "make time" I'd make it for myself before making it for a pig-headed sod like you!

Ah, that's better.......

Madmeg

I grew up with a dad who mended things before anyone noticed that they needed mending so it was a great source of dismay when I learned that my DH was nothing like that. He has never been remotely interested in household things (apart from eating) and tbh it's been a nightmare to me. When I was younger I simply did most of the household chores without involving him as I knew he would agree to do them but need reminding a dozen times or more. As a result we have had disastrous water leaks that I discovered he had known about but said nothing, a roof with holes in that he had similarly known about, and lots of similar things that have cost a lot of money to rectify. His dad was the same - a passer-by spotted their sagging roof and knocked on the door to tell them -the result was that the council paid to have the roof replaced and the house re-plumbed, new electrics and new windows (12 of them!) installed for free. It wouldn't happen nowadays.

Gosh really? Was it a council house?