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Jeanlizzie Wed 24-Jul-19 13:33:06

I recently went to visit a friend for a week, the whole time i was there she was admiring my handbag , and kept dropping hints , so when i left i gave it to her , although i must admit i have regretted it ,
Fast forward 3 or so months i found the same bag on ebay for a fair amount of money , and wondered if i should buy it, then when i looked at where the seller is , and its the same town as my friend, AIBU to ask if its her selling it? I think i would be so angry if it was , but my DH thinks i gave it to her so she can do what she wants with it ,and i half agree, but i feel as if she's been very underhand about it all

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andiacc1 Fri 26-Jul-19 01:15:45

Brilliant idea ...??

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Hetty58 Fri 26-Jul-19 01:52:28

For Heaven's sake forget it! You gave her the bag but regret that you did. It became her bag instantly at that point and she can now do what she likes with her own possessions. You have a problem with thinking it's somehow still 'yours'.

My sister had this problem in the past. She'd give me things (not lend them, I'd check - and she offered, I never asked for them) then she'd demand them back much later on. It happened several times over until I flatly refused to accept anything from her. I also told her exactly why - because of her 'problem'!

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grannie62 Fri 26-Jul-19 09:59:25

In my family there has been a lot of unpleasantness in the past about things given away and then the giver regretting it later.

Now if I am giving something away I take £1 (or even 10p) from the friend and give back a signed dated receipt for the item.

This means that we both understand who legally owns it.

If this sounds over the top, be grateful that you do not have relatives like mine.

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