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How private should a pm be?

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kittylester Sun 04-Nov-18 08:33:02

Earlier in the week gilly mentioned that she had a nasty pm and, over the years, I have had a few passive aggressive ones too. I doubt we are the only ones.

My inclination is to 'call out' the sender on the threads - would that be wrong?

To my mind these are bullying messages and we should stand up to bullies but what does anyone else think?

Who does a pm belong to? The sender or the recipient?

kittylester Mon 05-Nov-18 06:43:44

It's not my information to tell Bluebelle.

BlueBelle Mon 05-Nov-18 08:59:12

Oh I am sorry Kitty I was really joking about not being in the ‘know’ ??I wasn’t expecting anyone to break confidences Sorry if you felt put in a bad position I m just a nosy old so and so
Anyway no one should ever send nasty pm s I ve never had one but if I did I d report it and get rid of it block the sender And send them off to sit in the corner with Tom

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 09:07:01

They might take that as a reward, though, BlueBelle (the last bit)

CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 05-Nov-18 09:27:05

Nasty PMs are not good - if you do receive one and are not sure how to deal with it, let us know ([email protected])

If it's a journalist getting in touch via PM (not allowed!) always let us know grin - ditto spammy stuff etc

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 09:38:51

Good advice Cari

Nonnie Mon 05-Nov-18 09:44:41

No, don't say who it is. I seem to be one of the few who don't know and I prefer to leave it that way thanks.

GillT57 Mon 05-Nov-18 10:09:47

I have only had a few PMs and they have all, without exception, been kind, helpful and supportive. I am however, intrigued about who reported you Gilly, I remember the 'bloody' episode, was rather funny to be honest, but I am now going to spend the rest of the day trying to work out who it was......

harrigran Mon 05-Nov-18 10:15:04

I never had a PM from a Tom, Dick or Harry but did have a couple from Blue John, I got the impression he thought we could meet up for a good time as he lived only a few miles from me ?

Anniebach Mon 05-Nov-18 10:22:42

I did have one from ‘Tom’ ?

Madgran77 Mon 05-Nov-18 12:36:38

Lucky you Annie!!! grin

petra Mon 05-Nov-18 12:36:52

gilly
I wonder what she thought of these posts. She was active on here yesterday ( not this thread)

gillybob Mon 05-Nov-18 13:04:08

I suspect "she" is very thick skinned and won't give a monkeys toot petra

Just to clarify, I wasn't reported GillT57 I was just sent a rather nasty PM.

merlotgran Mon 05-Nov-18 13:06:37

It's coming up to that time of the year when our driving ability in the snow may be called into question.

Be warned! grin

petra Mon 05-Nov-18 13:14:10

I find a dashcam handy in those conditions merlotgran

GillT57 Mon 05-Nov-18 13:52:23

Sorry Gilly my mistake! grin

Jalima1108 Mon 05-Nov-18 14:43:22

We'd better get the chains on our tyres soon!
Advice for the UK:
If you fit snow chains to your car, remove them once you reach a clear or gritted road – leaving them on can cause damage to the car and the road. This could mean you’ll be fitting and removing the snow chains several times throughout a journey, but it’s essential to lower the risk of damage.
www.autoexpress.co.uk/wheels-and-tyres/winter-special/89290/winter-driving-tips-snow-chains-in-the-uk

I thought I'd get in first

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 22:54:41

Oh, now I’m surprised (I think) confused

Jalima1108 Mon 05-Nov-18 23:16:57

My post was in reply to merlotgran, nothing else.

merlotgran Mon 05-Nov-18 23:40:41

grin jalima

I think I'll invest in a sled and a few huskies.

Bellanonna Mon 05-Nov-18 23:45:54

I realise that jalima. I was just reminded of a thread some months ago.

Jalima1108 Tue 06-Nov-18 11:39:36

It's a bit worrying that some posters are barking up the wrong tree hmm.

Snow can be annoying or it can be lovely but at least you can see it.

It's those autumn leaves that can be a problem.

Fennel Tue 06-Nov-18 11:51:05

"It's a bit worrying that some posters are barking up the wrong tree."
I realise that, Jalima.
TG I haven't had a nasty pm yet.
No-one has answered my question about the 'privacy' of pms?
As I said, posts on the open forum can be quoted elsewhere.

Jalima1108 Tue 06-Nov-18 11:52:37

gilly
Did you know it's a pagan word?
hence my post above
petra smile

Maggiemaybe Tue 06-Nov-18 11:55:59

I keep wondering if people are giving us clues. Jalima’s last post sounds very MI6.

And the sun will return with the cat in the Spring. grin

Maggiemaybe Tue 06-Nov-18 11:56:43

Last but one post, darn it!