Bored and lonely

tons of things to do, ive suffered all my life with sad sunday, I developed depression in my 20s which ive struggled with all my life. for me its keeping busy but also allowing myself to rest. maybe it could be called sad sunday syndrome!

I keep meaning to: re-pot a houseplant, plant-up hyacinths, sort out all the photos (online and in albums), get on with both my knitting and crochet, sort out all my craft stuff and make some more cards.... Can you find a task that really "absorbs" you? To such an extent that you focus on the task and nothing else? I understand this to be a really significant factor in addressing "loneliness". (If you want company, could you invite a friend round (or to meet up in a cafe?) for a cuppa and a chat?) Lots of good ideas here from GNs. I wish you happiness.

Bless you red1. It's surprising how you manage to battle through and it must be a struggle but by doing what you've done has prevented it from getting a stronghold on your life.
Well done to you.
Sunday has never been my best day,it being neither one thing nor the other but even though I live alone I still do myself a Sunday dinner and that keeps me occupied and well-fed too. The time soon passes.

I enjoy being on my own. It was my main reason for getting divorced.
Yesrerday (Sat) I had a blissful few hours of pampering at the hairdressers then a bit of shopping before home, a cuppa and planting some bulbs which had arrived from Waitrose Garden followed by a luxurious bath, dinner and Strictly.
Today I stayed in bed until 10ish with tea and toast.
Cleaned inside windows (the mood took me) and I'm out at 1.30 for the short trip to Lurgashall for lunch with 3 friends after which we might walk on Blackdown.
I hope Gillybob can find something to interest her as the days draw in and DH is busy. Jigsaws can be immersive, time passes by on winged feet.

*. Yesrerday?
Yesterday

Sure it was tea with your toast,GabriellaG ? Mmmm.

Reading, knitting/crocheting. I have hundreds of photographs, which I keep meaning to organise better, including making a scrap book for each of the five grandchildren. I also intend to 'catalogue' all of our financial/formal papers etc into a more user friendly format for the AC. 'Meaning to ' isn't good enough though. I really should knuckle down, but, after two moves, one temporary and the other permanent, all of which I had to do myself, due to DH's poor health, plus looking for new resources for AC , who has learning difficulties, and is still at home, but I'm still reeling a bit. I'm doing the easy things first ie the reading and craft.
You could try making a scrap book, or writing your personal history. If you have access to catch up TV, you might well find something that catches your attention. There is loads of rubbish, but some good programmes as well.

Sorry haven't read thru completely but I do this. Belong to a knitting group that runs Thursday and Saturday but I just go Thursday. Some women from there belong to the Towns Womens Guild always out on trips. You could join U3A lots of interests. I belong to NHS retirement Fellowship which is similar they do walks, bowls, concerts etc. There must be stuff in your area.

Throughout the year I keep reminders of things I like to catch up with during the colder months. This year I'm doing some family research (which can all be done online). I've also been stockpiling books I want to read. And am slowly decluttering, room by room (and then taking them to the local charity shop) in preparation for decorating in the Spring.

If, when I was gillybobs age someone had suggested I take up jigsaw puzzles, crotchet, knitting, join the wi, making cards the response wouldn't have been printable.
Gilly is still a young woman.

Sat here wondering what 'clean as a new pin' looks like. I have so many things that need doing...top of list is emptying the toilet cassette. Think I will curl up and read 'The life-changing magic of tidying' by Marie Kondo.....

Gillybob it must be daunting working full time ‘for the good of the family business’ but ‘unpaid’. No disposable income of your very own that you have earned. Have you discussed how you feel with your husband?

Have I discussed how I feel with my husband ? Urmstonfran Too right I have . He knows as well as I do there’s nothing we can do. My DH is an Engineer. He loves what he does ( although I know he wishes he didn’t have to work so many hours) but He gets out and about all over the country meeting people, whereas I’m stuck all on my own day after day in a dark sh*tty office getting all the cr*p from creditors, customers alike . It really gets me down.
Anyway on a happy note I have spent all morning in the garden. Cold but bright . Feel quite cheered up ( for a Monday eve ) .

Reading and making patchwork quilts. Very rarely bored indoors.

Gabriella you make me laugh! Main reason for getting divorced ..a bit of 'me time'. Did you go to the Ark or maybe to the vineyard at Lurgashall? I have a trip to the Blackdown Distillery planned with my friends. A bit of gin tasting.. mmm!

With shorter days and longer evenings ahead of us, (we live in Sweden) I need to plan a bit so as not to get bored.I have outside interests mid week but at weekends, if my Husband works as he is doing today,I cherish the time on my own, I have been a Nurse all my life and always surrounded by people,and lots of talking, you can imagine why I love a few hours to myself.I make cards, have written a book, and have a lot of correspondence on Facebook,I read quite a lot, and of course start my day by reading Gransnet The summers are so different, things turn up on their own!

If it's just cold, dry and windy I'll hop in the car and head for the beach, a bit too far to walk there. Just half an hour strolling along collecting shells, pebbles or driftwood, with the wind and salt stinging my face soon blows away any 'cobwebs' away, and I quite often have the beach to myself.

If it's too wet to go out I've usually got some sewing or other craftwork to occupy me, or a good book. I very rarely have to resort to doing housework!

I love to settle down and read a good book, or do a brain training game on the computer in a book. This can pass a while away. wrap up with a cosy blanket and forget all the worries a book can take you to different places depending on the type of books that you may enjoy. Take a trip to the library there are usually lots of interesting things going on especially at this time of year. Tea & Cake events, Womens Knitting Clubs. Or just meeting people for a chat. Don't be lonely there is always someplace to go.

PECS you seem to be intimating that GabriellaG has an alcohol problem! You just mentioned gin just now or a vineyard visit on her afternoon out today. Plus earlier you posted ‘mmm’ when you asked was it really tea with her morning toast. Seems strange to be posting this way .... unless you know her?! Otherwise it makes for an uncomfortable read .... as though you are trying to ‘out’ her or annoy her.

I suppose Gillybob that I was hoping the business (and so by default, your husband) could afford to pay you a wage, even if small?

PECS it was me who jested about GabriellaG and her " typo ". I do have a sense of humour,if it's allowed and certainly didn't refer nor intimate that she had any kind of a drink problem.

Now the hours gone back I fill every spare moment making Christmas cards. Husband joins in as he is great at using the Guillotine and my cutter/embossing machine and has a great eye for colour.

That post should have been to Urmstongran and not PECS.

Sorry PECS.

Hi gillybob. I find your post keeps going round and round in my head and I've realised it's because it's how I was about twenty years ago!! I worked full time, studied once a week on day release and had exams to worry about, helped my self employed husband with paperwork, visited my elderly mother every day, had two sons at home plus all the usual cooking, cleaning etc. The problem is that we are just like hamsters on a wheel and there comes a time when we just have to step back and take a look at our lives. Of course I don't know your financial circumstances or exactly what your business it but I found that there is always something available to improve life. My first thing was to get a cleaning lady as I hate housework; secondly I got my husband to employ a bookkeeper. But most importantly you have to decide exactly what you would like to do. I certainly wouldn't have wanted to knit or sew but I did go to evening classes and learn a language which also meant I met new people and got away from people who (just because it's family life) were making demands on me. Finding the time is the thing! You say you have to deal with customers so can't you have a recorded message saying the office is only open from 10 to 4. Or even leave the answerphone on permanently and then prioritise the messages when you listen to them. Being on call for all and sundry is very draining. None of this may be practical for your circumstances but you're obviously young(ish) and fit and I'm sure you can sort out something - we're only here once!!! Good luck.

Well, right now I'm finishing off a lap quilt for a friend of mine. It's a present. Hopefully, later today, I'll finish my own lap quilt. It's getting rather cold and I'm looking forward to using mine in the evenings in front of the fire and my TV. I love watching detective stories and period dramas on TV and this is what I do every night. I'm going to the cinema on Tuesday afternoon to see Freddie Mercury film. I go to my yoga class every Friday. I'm a member of the U3A and do stretch & Relax, Mindfulness &Meditation, Historical walks & Talks, and Chin wagers. I'm also a member of women's Discussion Group where we decide on topics to read about and discuss on Wednesday evening twice a week, and we have coffee mornings together once a fortnight on Tuesdays in each other's homes. I researched J K Rowling for our discussion last week & what a remarkable woman she is! I listen to classical and modern music, and watch comedy on youtube and currently watching Dave Allen a lot. My house needs cleaning again and I'll get on with it as soon as I finish my quilts. I do more of these when the weather's cold to keep as warm as possible inside of me. Oh, I've also been getting ready for knocks on my door for the Halloween; any excuse to celebrate and take part in them, no matter how small or big. None of these mean that I have it all or I feel fulfilled, not bored, lonely and feel down at times though. Best of luck to you in finding things to reduce your level of boredom