“Wives create their husbands”

polyester57and Eloethen- I actually agree with you - I just said it made me smile !

After 40 years mine still thinks he was born in a barn rather than a semi in Edinburgh. Never closes a cupboard door or turns a light off. I gave up nagging years ago!

I’m not sure that I’ve trained mine. He still seems to have a mind of his own. Maybe we’ve trained each other.
Compared with all the other husbands I know (other women’s !) I’m glad I’ve got mine, we seem to suit.
I’m sure my friends would say the same about theirs.

Mine is in the same category as yours Grey after forty-four years but, heigh ho, I don’t think I’d swop him.
As for mothers training their sons mine only starting leaving the seat up when he got a home of his own - I guess he’s in his rebellious phase!

Well done for lasting 54 years. You got past the 52 year itch.

wouldn't have wanted to change mine,I loved him for who he was/is not what I could change him into.Our minister friend says he knows the brides with the aisle .altar ,hymn (I'll alter him) attitude as soon as he meets them .They get to the church door and say those words as they walk towards their groom.Not the best way to start married life is it.

I've done a proper job on DH- going to golf today while he does the housework!

Not sure if this is supposed to be a fun thread or not.
Although I’m happy to have mine, see thread above, I do wish I could have reprogrammed him to close outside doors.
Winters coming up and it will be a huge irritation again. Heating on and he just pops out, sometimes for quite a long pop!

If this thread was posted by a man discussing how to "train" a wife I can only imagine the hysterical reactions.

It's the other way round in our house. My friend says there are "put downers" and "picker uppers". I'm definitely the first one!!

With 42 years of experience behind us I would say it was less of 'training' him and more of finding a middle ground.

We are in a place where arguments are fairly pointless - disagreements few. And that I think is because we have learned the art of compromise.

So if any 'training' has been done - its on both sides.

My husband is the same man I married, he is who he is. I ignore his failings as he ignores mine and we also have our own toothpaste and holder as I was fed up with mess he created. I think maybe mothers have more to do with making the man the boy becomes

Lovely thread. My daughter's husband had a pretty difficult childhood - but the army made him - clean tidy considerate reliable

I think maybe mothers have more to do with making the man the boy becomes
I agree to a certain extent but if someone has a genetic pre-disposition towards, say, untidiness, then no amount of maternal training can overcome that.

although perhaps the Army could sandelf!

I am standing up for my' sisters' when I say how about husbands who create their wives. I was created by my DH, not always in his favour and who never could see which side his bread was buttered.It lasted over half century. !

Load of rubbish.

Shortlegs quote [If this thread was posted by a man discussing how to "train" a wife I can only imagine the hysterical reactions.]End quote.

Exactly Shortlegs, I believe within this thread there are some of the most sexist posts and statements I have ever witnessed on the internet.

Some women obviously consider themselves perfect in every way included in that being a wife or partner.

I wonder?

Totally agree. Oversimplistic . It's a two way relationship and I am not going to held responsible for my DH . Is this a new way of " let's blame the woman".

looploo - Is this a new way of " let's blame the woman"^
I think you may have hit the nail on the head!

His faults will be all my fault for not 'training him' properly
If he is now faultless, then I have been a nag.


We can't win

WRONG...... MOTHERS make their boys into future husbands.No amount of training has been able to undo the trail of damage my MIL passed on to me in the shape of her son ...my other half. He started a disaster and remains a disaster!

Grandad the book was written by a man, the excerpt tongue in cheek

Jalima1108, the book may have been written " tongue-in-cheek", but take a look at some of the posts in this thread as obviously they are not.

Total and absolute sexism by some which demonstrate more about them than the husbands and partners they post about.

If anything, my sons have 'taught' their wives. They were well versed in clothing and shoe cleaning/care and all aspects of housework before they left home. Give them the tools and they will do the job well.

I get the impression from most posters that they seem to agree that we train each other. Not sexism, but I’ll read them again.