Do I say something ( this could be a long post)

It wasn't an appropriate thing for him to say, but I think you should ignore it for the poor taste it was. Don't add more fuel to the fire, so to speak. I don't think there is anything your friend can do, and she might become incredibly upset.

Pathetic joke - just forget it. I would have forgotten it a second after it had been uttered.

Same as Luckygirl. I'd ignore the remark but be wary of the man in future.

I'm going to do what Elsa advised: Let it go, let it go.

I was thinking about this today as I was waiting for an appointment and about what maryeliza said:
Also he’s not just some random male is he?
He's not just some random male - he's a minister who may be entrusted with people's innermost thoughts and perhaps secrets. It was rather a sleazy remark.

He could, of course, now be thinking 'why on earth did I say that, what a stupid thing to say'.
You could chat to your friend about him without specifically bringing that up - it could be that she thinks some of his remarks are unsavoury and she stays friends for the sake of his OH (if he has one) in which case you could mention it.

Otherwise do as Elsa suggests.

I've lost count of the number of aquaintances who've told me to "make sure he gets lots of exercise in the bedroom" wink wink ...after my OH had heart attacks.Really? Its not something I would ever discuss with them so why would they think they can tell me what we should or shouldn't be doing "in the bedroom" It does annoy me, though I know I should ignore them too.Some people dont understand where comedy ends and offensive takes its place .

Some people dont understand where comedy ends and offensive takes its place
Absolutely! Some (mainly men) think that they are being 'flirty' and in fact they can come across as sleazy.

Yuk! If my minister spoke like that I would feel uncomfortable and would have when I was younger too. He shouldn't talk like that. Ministers are expected to have certain standards. I'm sure you're not the first female he's spoken to like that. I just hope he doesn't embarrass some young girl with that kind of talk. I can't advise whether you say or not. Ask your husband maybe?? I think I would have said something at the time to the minister.

I think it's been an attempt at a joke don't know the age of the man but I've often come across (dare I say)men particularly over50 who when at a loss in conversation make either sarcastic or unfunny jokes

Petra. Silly' little boy' comes to mind.Say nothing but keep it in mind. Should this person ever make another 'comment'!! then yes I think you should tell your friend.

A clumsy joke only. Just forget it.

Men of the cloth hiding unseemly thoughts and sometimes deeds under the cloak of respectability.
I've no time for religion OR for men's 'banter'.

I agree with most posters here. It was just an attempt at humour. It would put me off wanting to have much to do with him, but there is nothing to gain from telling his wife. I'm sure she knows what he is like and would probably be offended on his behalf.
It's creepy but there's no much you can do.
When I visited relatives a while ago, the husband was wearing an apron with a virtually naked and very voluptuous woman on it. He is obese and it was very unpleasant especially as he served standing up with us sitting so it was at an unfortunate height. He obviously wanted a reaction so we didn't give him one. Sometimes ignoring people takes away the thrill they seem to get from people's reactions and it may be that this man is a bit like that.

Storm in a Teacup I think. Let it go. Poorly executed banter.

Jaycee - I don't think we even know if he has a wife?

As everyone says it’s an inept attempt at a joke. The midlfe crisis car/motorbike is a cliche.
Two things spring to my mind:
1. He’s heard someone else make the same remark to loud guffaws all round, and wanted to see if he could get the same response. He may have been quite mortified when he saw your face.
2. Can you think of it as a clumsy way of showing what good friends he considers you to be? “We’re old mates, we can banter with no hard feelings” etc

DanniRae I read it too quickly. Somehow saw wife rather than friend.

In that case, it could be mentioned but I can't really see what could be gained.

Petra I think my suggestion has been misunderstood. I meant that it could be mentioned in the context of how you felt about the comment - in just the same way as you would usually talk about things that affect you - with the emphasis on your feelings rather than the (to me, rather daft, but harmless) comment.

Inappropriate comment from a man who should have known better. I don’t see any harm in casually mentioning to your friend as to how it offended you a bit.

Probably not the best thing for him to say especially as he prefixed it with "as a minister I probably shouldn't say this"..he probably feels more awkward about it than you should be. I would just forget about it

I'm inclined to think this was a feeble attempt at a joke. Difficult to judge without knowing the gentleman. If you feel you must mention it to your friend, suggest you don't make a big deal about it. Wait until you are chatting over cup of tea and perhaps steer the conversation round to some of the issues currently in the media regarding inappropriate behaviour by celebrities. Then perhaps you could drop the minister's comment in and say you thought it was an odd comment.

To be honest I think this is a storm in a teacup - I would have thought it was a remark in poor taste and an unfunny joke but would not have given it a second thought afterwards. I expect he's now regretting it and thinking ' why did I say that?' Just forget it and move on.

Im sorry but I think you are easily shocked if that was shocking. There is much more shocking stuff on tv everytime you swith it on. It’s certainly nothing to lose a friend over Dont swear the small stuff !

Personally, I would have tackled the minister head on straightaway and asked him if that is how his bishop (or name a senior cleric from whatever denomination of religion he is from) expected him to talk to people he doesn't know or even those he does. That might have shocked him in that he would be unsure whether you might report his conduct.

He may have a reputation for speaking like to his parishioners and it's not appropriate at all and someone needs to let him know that. All churches are guilty of pushing this sort of behaviour under the carpet until something serious comes to light. I would store this comment and if he comes up in conversation with your friend you could say that you weren't keen on his mode of conversation and had she heard anything similar. It is up to you though if you wanted to take it further, not your friend.

This was a very ill judged remark. Don't repeat it to anyone. To repeat it gives the minister power and creates relationship rifts. Ignore it.