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Is funeral planning a conversation you've had with your family?

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geemumsnet (MNHQ) Mon 10-Aug-26 17:02:30

It's one of those conversations many of us know we probably should have, but it can feel difficult to know how to bring it up.

Whether you've already shared your wishes or it's something you've been meaning to get around to, we'd love to hear how you've approached the conversation.

Comment below and let us know:

Have you had conversations with family or friends about your end-of-life or funeral wishes?

Have you thought about how you'd like your farewell to reflect your wishes, or would you rather leave those decisions to your family?

Have you ever considered planning your funeral in advance, or is it something you've never really thought about?

For someone thinking about funeral planning for the first time, what advice would you give them?

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If this is something you’ve considered or spoken about we’d be interested to hear your thoughts below.

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Tuliptree Mon 10-Aug-26 18:10:53

Yes we’ve had the discussions. The plot is bought and paid for at a natural burial site, next to where my husband is already buried. Funerals are for the living so apart from the location, it’s up to my daughter what sort of funeral she wants to organise for me. That’s all agreed between us and I’ve said if you wants more guidance, then to ask me. Neither of us could think of anything worse than the sort of funeral you offer. We’ve no financial issues so my estate will have the money for whatever she wants. We both believe that saying goodbye to the body and being present at and honouring the departing is a necessary and helpful part of the process of loss and grief.

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BlueBelle Mon 10-Aug-26 18:42:11

Yes I ve had the conversation with my children they know I want nothing much and no fuss.
They know I ve bought and paid for a simple cremation. I wasn’t going to have anything else, going out as I came in quietly, but the grandkids (the ones that know me best) were disappointment I wasn’t having anything to celebrate my life so I have relented and put money away for a tea party for any of my family that are around. (my family is scattered around the world which is why I say ‘any that’s around’)

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petra Mon 10-Aug-26 18:55:28

We’ve had the conversation with 2 daughters and they were all for it. The other daughter won’t talk about it.
We are both down for our bodies to be donated. If that’s a no no no the girls know to do the necessary as cheap as possible. 😂

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M0nica Mon 10-Aug-26 18:56:42

I have always discussed anything and everything with my family so there has been no Conversation just lots of chats about things over the years. As far as I am concerned there is nothing particularly embarrassing or emotional about the subject. We all die sooner or later and as it can be sooner than expected it is something to be discussed from 18 onwards.

I have always believed that funeral plans are for the living, what happens once you die you have no control over and will never know. so apart from talking now and again about what i would like, it is up to DC to do whatever they will once I am dead.

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Georgesgran Mon 10-Aug-26 19:23:10

Count me in with BlueBelle. I’ve no faith, so an unaccompanied cremation and my ashes scattered on the tide - outgoing, of course! Personally, I can’t think of anything worse than a money grabbing funeral director ‘bumping up’ the price with ‘extra little touches the deceased would surely have loved’. Had that when DH died and that made up my mind to go down a different route!

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Marthjolly1 Mon 10-Aug-26 19:36:01

Yes, the family have all the details, it's all arranged and paid for, casket, music, flowers etc. As I don't follow any particular religion it will be a humanist service and cremation. It makes sense to me, it will be a stressful time for the family without the added pressures of arranging a funeral. And this way I can be sure it's arranged the way I would like.

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Visgir1 Mon 10-Aug-26 19:40:50

No...they can do what they like with me.
Tbh my sister and I found it cathartic when we sorted our mums, a final act of love.

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